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Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/28/2007 4:32:48 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		In this lifestyle we come into contact with all kinds of people. everyone has advice or gives their opinion. Wither it be on how to do something or a relationship. Do you let others pick your partners or are you in control of who you date and how it goes. IN other words who is wearing the shoes you or those around you :
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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/28/2007 5:01:06 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Asking for info or suggestions does not mean you are required to follow those suggestions. Which you couldn't possibly do, as we all give vastly conflicting advice based upon our own experiences.

But if you have a problem and can't solve it, why not ask for as many different opinions as possible. Hopefully one or more will hit upon the parts that are troubling you but that hadn't worked their way to your conscious mind. If it works, it's faster than sleeping on it.

As I've always told my ums, life is too short to make all
possible mistakes, learn from other peoples mistakes. And there's no reason some of those other people can't be online.

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/28/2007 5:07:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		While it might be nice to sometimes blame others for my mistakes i can honestly say i can take both the credit for some and blame for other decisions i've made.  Just because i'm a sub doesn't mean that i'm not ultimately responsible for my decisions, my safety and my life. 

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/28/2007 5:08:50 PM   
OnyxGoddess


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Status: offline 		ME.  Listen to the advice...filter....retain what fits you....toss the rest.  And I agree...learn from other's mistakes but try not to be afraid to make your own. 

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 7:04:43 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		I agree
i see a lot of things posted  I wonder how many people listen to those words on the post

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 7:11:39 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

In this lifestyle we come into contact with all kinds of people. everyone has advice or gives their opinion. Wither it be on how to do something or a relationship. Do you let others pick your partners or are you in control of who you date and how it goes. IN other words who is wearing the shoes you or those around you :

I make the initial decision; if the youngin does not get along with him, it does not last.

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 7:11:59 AM   
Petronius


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Status: offline 		I gather as much data as I can from whatever sources I can.

Then I process it myself.

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 7:24:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: OnyxGoddess

ME.  Listen to the advice...filter....retain what fits you....toss the rest.  And I agree...learn from other's mistakes but try not to be afraid to make your own. 


nicely stated.

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 7:41:27 AM   
RRafe


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Status: offline 		I listen to those that resonate with me-and ignore most of the rest. Especially "twue" balderdash.

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 7:47:37 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		Advice, information and recommendations are something I am always willing and wanting to listen to but they get filtered into my own brain with my own knowledge, common sense and personal preference.

No matter what anyone may decide, the truth is in the end we are all responsible for ourselves even those who want to believe they have given it away.

One of the main reasons I come to this message board is to hear the other side of things or something new altogether or a slight angle to something.


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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 8:56:45 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		there's nothing wrong in seeking and/or giving constructive advice ...it helps to put things into perspective from many opposing povs other than your own. no one, in my opinion, is unduly influencing anyone else with their opinions because ultimately the final one is yours to make.

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 9:04:07 AM   
MzMia


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Status: offline 		I am in control of who I select as my mate.
On the other hand, if he is well-known, and someone in
the community or "real life" world can provide information,
I will listen.
Ultimately, I make my own choices.
But I have lived long enough to know, if a person has a history of
destructive relationships and has been unstable or unable to commit all
of his adult life,  he will probably not be able to change for ME.
I question, and I question hard.
I dig deep and I interrogate, I am able to find out all I need.

Damn, I always said I should have been a detective.

< Message edited by MzMia -- 9/29/2007 9:05:33 AM >

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 9:21:39 AM   
DocRudy


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However, despite that cheap laugh for me, I agree that people have a tendency towards more sheep-like behavior than is healthy. Many are too afraid to make a decision on their own, worried that if they do, it won't be what the majority would do.

Heaven's no! Anything but being different!

Fact of the matter is, this trait is particularly puzzling for dom/mes to exhibit. Yet I still see it.

-DR

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 9:22:47 AM   
niveauinconnu


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Status: offline 		Words that makes sense to me, make me laugh, or otherwise give intelligent food for thought  are appreciated. This is no different than words posted on any message board on the internet.  It's the nature of the medium.

I will say, though, that there are a few contributors I've come to trust in terms of advice they have to offer.  Messages from them have simply been consistently on target and mature over time, over a wide variety of subjects.  I would tend to seriously consider posts from this group if looking for opinions on a subject of concern.

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 12:25:25 PM   
FullfigRIMaam


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Status: offline 		While I would like the approval of my close friends and family, the only things that matter in the end are whether I am physically attracted, and find the gentleman to be kind, caring, and smart when I consider entering into a relationship with him.   M

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 12:28:09 PM   
kirii


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

In this lifestyle we come into contact with all kinds of people. everyone has advice or gives their opinion. Wither it be on how to do something or a relationship. Do you let others pick your partners or are you in control of who you date and how it goes. IN other words who is wearing the shoes you or those around you :

I may let a friend fix me up with someone, but the decision on whether or not I see him/her again is ultimately up to me.

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 12:30:38 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		To the OP
I pick my own partners.
The opinions of others do not influence who I date, if they dont approve o the relationship I siply tell them todistance themselves from it. However, My partner is exactly that, my partner. They dont have to like it.

DV



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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 12:43:39 PM   
kdsub


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Status: offline 		 Hi Latexbaby64

Hmmm…I will be the exception here… I am like wheat in the wind I lean the way the wind is blowing, certainly not in politics but in relationships. All my life I have been pursued rather than the pursuer. I have never needed others but for some reason this attitude seems to draw others to me…sure can’t be my looks or since of humor.

Butch  

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 12:52:43 PM   
Celeste43


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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

quote:

ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

In this lifestyle we come into contact with all kinds of people. everyone has advice or gives their opinion. Wither it be on how to do something or a relationship. Do you let others pick your partners or are you in control of who you date and how it goes. IN other words who is wearing the shoes you or those around you :

I make the initial decision; if the youngin does not get along with him, it does not last.


For me, it was the youngins and the dog. They were going to be with him also, and we all needed to agree.

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RE: Dom's, Dommes. Friends Lend me your ears - 9/29/2007 1:00:17 PM   
SirCache


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Status: offline 		I always accept the advice people have to give, think about it, and keep that which I feel is relevent.  Ultimately I am responsible for my own life and while I enjoy the message board for the breadth of experience others may have it by no means absolves me of thinking for myself. 

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