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regularguyltr -> Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 5:04:19 PM)

My Mistress instructed me to ask submissives on collarme for suggestions on how I should punished. We love each other very much and will be in a 24/7 relationship very soon. She lives a little over an hour away so we only get to see each other one or two times a week. To make a long story short I masturbated without her permission on Tuesday night and didn't tell her about it until tonight. I feel just about as guilty as a person can feel. She is so wonderful and loving and I let her down.

Thank you for your help.

Puppy



catize -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 5:08:39 PM)

To be blunt, how would we know what would feel like punishment to you?



Arpig -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 5:10:24 PM)

Pretty much what catize said, though having a Dominant who sends you to us for suggestions seems to me to be punishment enough



Cloudz -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 5:14:34 PM)

Arpig,

Loved your response. In actuality, the boy was supposed to post in the submissives forum asking for suggestions on how to control himself...and yes, having to post here was indeed, a form of punishment. Perhaps I should have him attempt a redo asking the correct questions and in the correct forum?



HottLicks -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 5:15:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

Pretty much what catize said, though having a Dominant who sends you to us for suggestions seems to me to be punishment enough


lol I'd have to agree!




SmokingGun82 -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 5:52:52 PM)

Personally, I suggest she have you copy down, by hand, every thread where someone has come on here and asked for punishment suggestions.

I imagine that'd be rather unpleasant. And it'd take roughly six years.



Celeste43 -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 5:59:01 PM)

Figure out why you did it, what kind of feelings were going through you, were you angry or hurt? Fix the problem because otherwise it will recur



octavia -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 6:02:29 PM)

gee....

I've been (kinda) in your shoes before, having to admit publicly a boo boo.  Sucks bad in and of itself.  As for a real time consequence, i can think of nothing worse than not getting to have an "O" the next time you are together.  For me, that would put an end to the "stolen solo celebrations".  Of course, take anything from me with a grain of salt. [;)]




feastie -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 7:36:08 PM)

Honestly, whatever childish little underpinings you two have going on in your "relationship" are between the two of you.  If anyone deserves punishment, (which I firmly do not support), it would be your "Mistress".



RRafe -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 9:42:52 PM)

your punishment is to tie your mistress down, and give her ten hard swats with the cane.



crouchingtigress -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 9:59:15 PM)

it may not seem serious to you because up till now you have had soverign reign over your own flesh...but it is serious, deadly even to a new budding relationship because you broke trust, and you lied.

not cool.

you will be very lucky to recieve a punnishment....what ever it is does not matter ...what matters is she is granting you absolution...you are going to be forgiven....

unless ofcourse you play d/s as a game then again it wont matter, youll get a spanking or have to drink your own pee, it will be awful but will make you both hot and you will have hot sex.

really depends on why you do d/s, and what you want/need out of power exchange dynamics.



sundownhawk -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 10:01:10 PM)

quote:

Arpig, Loved your response. In actuality, the boy was supposed to post in the submissives forum asking for suggestions on how to control himself...and yes, having to post here was indeed, a form of punishment. Perhaps I should have him attempt a redo asking the correct questions and in the correct forum?
ORIGINAL: Cloudz

I agree with Cloudz, OP you have now screwed up twice, better get several more suggestions...



SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 10:10:22 PM)

well, i know everyone handles things different, but.......

i cant imagine serving a d type who had me ask others what my punishment should be......if he wasnt capable of making an immediate decision on what would be the consequence of me masturbating without permission, (and yes i have been there done that ONCE), i would lose respect for him.

i guess i think such things are intimate to the relationship, as much or more so as the fun stuff.  plus, how can we know what would be something that would assure you dont ever do this again.....

sorry, im sure this reply is no help to you....but it did help me learn a few things about me-lol.

good luck on your journey



MstrSkyWoIf -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 10:22:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

your punishment is to tie your mistress down, and give her ten hard swats with the cane.


I agree if she has to have you come here to get ideas for punishment then she must need punished herself



onlyHisgirl -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/27/2007 10:47:09 PM)

Why do some Dommes and Doms think that having us post "what should my punishment be" seem like punishment?  i know it's hard having a long distance relationship and i've actually had to post this question before with a different Dom on CM and got the same responses like those who posted before me today.

Here's a suggestion from my current Master whose long distance punishments i will never forget. 
Have Her punish you and then in great detail 1)tell U/us what you did wrong and then 2) tell U/us what you had to do to correct it...it is humilating especially if it is punishment for something stupid that we as submissives/slaves did. 

On another site (an old blog) i did just that but with pictures...it was humilating because Daddy also insisted on "please comment about what My slut did wrong and exactly what you think of these pictures.  Do NOT hold back". 
No, sorry that blog is no longer up...but it was rather humilating and some of the comments were (kinda turn on) but also lewd.  :-)



SubmissiveLion -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/28/2007 6:02:46 AM)

Hold on here, who lied?

Not telling someone is not his fault.  Did his mistress ask him if he did it?  If she is making a rule, she needs to enforce it, not the sub.  If she asked him, did you masturbate, and he said no, then he's lying.  If she told him, if you ever break my rules, you have to tell me and he didn't...that's still not lying, that's disobedience.

And asking a thread for punishment, is not humiliating, considering he has no pictue up, or any way for people to say gawd , what did you do?

I agree with feastie , Punish the mistress for being , how do I say this tactfully, lame.  Now you want to humiliate him, and make him feel bad for violating your laws, make him wear a sign that says, I masturbate without permission, and go around asking people on the street how he should be punished.

But then again we should read her response,  Quote "In actuality, the boy was supposed to post in the submissives forum asking for suggestions on how to control himself"

So the sub did not do what was asked. Period. 



thetammyjo -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/28/2007 6:59:28 AM)

Ok, this sort of question is a huge pet peeve for me.

Even when I was just starting out it never crossed my mind to ask these sorts of questions. If I was in a relationship where I had the authority to punish, it seemed to me that meant I was mature enough and capable enough to figure it out.

How useful can any punishment be if it is suggested by total strangers and not decided upon by those in the dynamic?

And if this is just "punishment" as in play time, come on, use the imagination that your very human nature should have given you. Need help? Watch movies, read books, watch others, but to ask total strangers seems very sad to me. Frankly as a top or dom I would be ashamed to ask these questions. As a bottom or sub it would make me question the capability of the person I'm wish.

It doesn't have to be perfect folks but it should be from your and your dynamic first and foremost, don't you think?

Has the explosion of sites and resources become an excuse for our own responsibility and creativity? URGH!

There wasn't this flood of available information when I started out and I did bloody fine.



missturbation -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/28/2007 9:16:21 AM)

My suggestion would be to kill you. You certainly won't do it again then [:D]



DocRudy -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/28/2007 9:24:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

My suggestion would be to kill you. You certainly won't do it again then [:D]


But then all sorts of other important rules would be broken, like the housework that would not get done and whatnot.

[:D]

-DR



missturbation -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (9/28/2007 9:27:37 AM)

Just replace dead slave with new live one and so on. [;)]



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