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First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:08:44 PM   
DiaperDude06


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Status: offline 		I am very nervous.  First of all I am paying for this session and I am scared I will get in trouble some how by the police.  Secondly, I am scared that I will do something (or won't do something ::wink::) and make my Mistress mad. 
I keep on thinking of backing out but then I realize that I'll want to do it sometime so I might as well do it now.  Also, I keep on thinking how fun it will be. 
Anyone else feel like this and how can I just man-up and do it?
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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:10:02 PM   
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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:32:06 PM   
DiaperDude06


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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:32:38 PM   
spanklette


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Status: offline 		I don't know what's legal in your area, so I can't answer that. But, keep in mind that you're paying her...the only reason she should get mad is if you don't pay or violate her personal space/rules. Proffessionals are just that...they will let you know what is allowed.
 
Good luck with whatever you decide.

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:33:18 PM   
RRafe


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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:40:13 PM   
DiaperDude06


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Status: offline 		All I was asking for was some help RRafe.

Thanks for the reply spanklette!

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:43:35 PM   
RRafe


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Status: offline 		dude,it would help us to help-if you actually had a more concrete description of WHY you have these fears.



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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:49:17 PM   
DiaperDude06


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Status: offline 		Ok, well I fear that I will spend so much money but then hate it in the end.  My feelings keep going different directions.  One moment I feel excited and can't wait to have this experience and then the next moment I feel like I am doing something wrong and I should just do something else.  

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:51:00 PM   
RRafe


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Status: offline 		You can always get more money. I'd do it just to see.

As far as cops-did she have refferences from past customers? She the kind who would blackmail?

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:54:52 PM   
DiaperDude06


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Status: offline 		She has her own dungeon and I don't think she would blackmail.  She has a website but I don't know if I am allowed to post links here.  I haven't read any customer reviews but I have seen pictures of her with other slaves.

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:56:52 PM   
DiaperDude06


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Status: offline 		I forgot to ask, do most Doms ask for a fee?

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:57:11 PM   
RRafe


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Status: offline 		It's the kiss of death for pretty much any pro to out a customer. Thier biz would dry up.

Why are you worried about cops?

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 9:59:21 PM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: DiaperDude06

I forgot to ask, do most Doms ask for a fee?


Only pros generally ask. Depends on how good they are-rank amatuers do it too-but may be crappy tops.

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 10:00:08 PM   
DiaperDude06


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Status: offline 		I'm scared that they will consider it prostitution

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 10:02:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have yet to hear of a RL Dom asking for a fee outside of the gay community here in Chicago. I think it typically boils down to, much like the paying-for-other-things scenarios, the fact that the general perception is that women can always find someone to get going with but are picky about who/what they want, so they don't always do so.. whereas men just want to find someone, anyone at all, and at the end of the day, some are willing to pay for it, regardless of their orientation.

I've never charged someone to be myself and enjoy things with the person if I wanted it with her and she was of a like mind. Nor have I wanted to pay for it. Just a personal preference.

As an aside, if this is a Pro Domme, certainly, she's going to exhibit control. For your first time, do recall that you're entitled to your own interests and you can/should negotiate (at least to a point) as well as define what limits you have that you're aware of. Over the course of your play you might encounter more. Communicate with this person.
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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/25/2007 10:06:47 PM   
DiaperDude06


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the help RRafe and SolarAndViolet!

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/26/2007 2:11:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		i've never paid before but was nervous as hell before i played the very first time. my only advice is to be upfront - you're not going to be the only first-timer She's encountered if She's a pro. Good luck!

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/26/2007 2:35:57 PM   
BoiJen


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Status: offline 		I serve a Pro personally and here's what I gotta say:

don't ask for any traditional sexual activities...strap-on (penetration), anal play, blow jobs, "oral service" none of it. That's what gets to be considered prositution.

be open and honest that you've never done this before...tell the Pro what your interests are ahead of time and share some about yourself...the more the Pro knows the better they can make your first scene. Also, negotiate ahead of time...it sucks to use up all the first bit of your time in person going over shit you could have already dealt with.

and lastly if you have fun TIP the Pro. They have to clean up your mess after you leave...(or in my case I gotta clean up after you leave) show some appreciation for that. In the lifestyle outside of Professional sessions, you pretty much gotta clean up your own mess.

If its' everyhting you wanted and more go back...become a regular and ask if the Pro has any suggestions as to a Leather bar or club local. Ask to take the Pro out to dinner not as a date but as a thank you...they get so many no-shows and assholes thinking they're gonna blow 'em at the end that it's SUPER nice to run into a client that treats them like human being rather than an expensive sex toy. Pros have feelings too..they have specific things they LIKE to do and often if you end up coming back they being to feel "connection" to you as a person and whatever role you assume within this lifestyle. You have a chance to form a relationship with someone for who they are...whether it remain Professional, friendly whatever...that's up to you and the Pro.

Do unto others and all.

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/26/2007 9:09:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Great advice jen! All too often clients forget that the Pros are real people too...not just some train to a destination.

Being honest and upfront about your kinks helps get you a better session.Believe me ,most have heard all kinds of kinks.

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RE: First experience on Friday and... - 9/27/2007 8:07:28 AM   
Arpig


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Ask to take the Pro out to dinner not as a date but as a thank you...

Do you take your mechanic out to dinner? Your accountant? I thought not. Hell you pay her for her services and that's the end of it, if the Pro wants to be treated like a dear friend then the Pro should charge what a dear friend would....but she won't now will she?


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