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julietsierra -> RE: I Would Like to Present a Hypothetical Situation (9/23/2007 12:43:31 AM)
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lol... I've read all the responses and the one I liked the best was the concern that the person - a MINOR - would be upset if they knew it was me who reported them.
I sat here thinking "oh hell yea he/she'd know it was me! Cause if I knew them well enough to know they weren't over 18 and were on a site like this one, they'd know cause they'd see me sitting in their living room talking to their parents. And that's in ADDITION to reporting it to the administrators here. I'm not much concerned whether a minor considers me to be a bad person for reporting their activities or not. Hell, I'd be telling their parents if I saw them smoking, drinking or hanging all over some guy/girl in an inappropriate manner in public too. This is just one more."
Course, I live in a smaller town and that's the way the adults are here. It's a pain in the butt for the kids, but ultimately, it stops problems before they become ingrained and that's what adults are supposed to do.
One of the teens around here recently stole a friends' bike. The parent of that friend of course, wanted to call the police. First though, she called me. I knew there were extenuating circumstances and got in touch with the kid's parent who was at work. With his permission, the friend's parent and I went to find the kid. From the beginning of this theft to the resolution of it took about 2 hours. The kid's response was to be shocked that so many people knew of his activities. We pointed out to him that he lives in a small town now and that no matter what he does, there will always be at least three people who will have seen him do whatever it is he does and that those three people will know others who will always be able, one way or the other, to reach his father. He was more than shocked by this.
We knew it sunk in when one of his teammates on the football team was involved in some stealing and the coach found out about it. The kid involved this time, tried to lie. The first kid (our original thief) spoke up and said "hey, give it up man! you live in a small town. Any time you do something, there will be at least three people who will notice and tell your mother. Don't even try to pretend. They already know."
As a teen, I hated this. As an adult, it's exactly the right thing to do. Just because this is an online site doesn't change my views, and I could care less if some hormonally challenged minor is upset that I ruined his/her game.
juliet
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