it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master?

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odalisqueslave -> it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master? (9/8/2007 5:57:50 AM)
would love feedback on this one! odal

earthycouple -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master? (9/8/2007 6:01:14 AM)
That is silliness in my opinion. You will have no more or no less luck identifying as either. Just keep in mind it takes time, lots of time to find the one just for you. You need to identify yourself with what you think fits YOU best and then find someone who will want you for those qualities. Don't sell yourself short. The moniker you give yourself should be somewhat explained in your profile in my mind.

lacenleathergirl -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master? (9/8/2007 6:02:35 AM)
Just my opinion, of course, but I'm not sure that the label means much, though slave often does have a particular connotation with regard to levels of control you desire. Why don't you try describing the sort of relationship you are seeking and perhaps the label will define itself. From your journal, you are very articulate, so if I were you, I'd expand on who you are and the relationship you seek in your profile. Best of luck. lace

beargonewild -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master (9/8/2007 6:21:31 AM)
It's my feeling that you should label what you think most accurately describes yourself. You should know yourself well enough to know if sub or slave best describes you.

bandit25 -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master? (9/8/2007 6:23:24 AM)
I wouldn't worry a whole lot about it. It's just a label.

celticlord2112 -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master (9/8/2007 6:28:10 AM)
Your profile is you. Unless someone is stepping up to BE your Master, they would do wiser to keep opinions and criticisms to themselves, unless specifically asked.

shyinini -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master? (9/8/2007 6:46:12 AM)
who are you ? would you change your shoe size cause someone said you had big feet? would you dye your hair to teal if someone told you your hair should be another color? who are you? what you seek is based on your desires seek what you seek based on your criteria not a suggestion from another... unless of course, you submit to every tom, dick,mary and jane that gives you a suggestion of whom you are. I am who Iam He is who He is neither of us suggested the other to change ****** When I submitted to His ownership I am able to submit to His suggestions

cbtok -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master (9/8/2007 6:53:28 AM)
I suppose were your profile to read, "Loving, caring Master sought," with a description of what that means to you, that would be the main thrust of your search. I see a big difference between submissive and slave, the latter suggesting a kind of dependence that, in the wrong hands could be dangerous to you. Firstly, you should be sure of yourself and your own particular worthiness. That will attract people, no matter who they are looking for. You have particular talents and capabilities that recommend you without a Master. Perhaps the person who suggested that you change how you describe yourself is unsure of what it is that they seek and is offering you a suggestion based on their own insecurities. Be who you are and be that excellently. Your own personal excellence will draw what is right to you.

RRafe -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master? (9/8/2007 7:00:16 AM)
Can only speak for myself. I only chose my "label" becuase they didn't have a selection for "ornery opinionated bastard" Doncha just hate pigeonholes?

MadRabbit -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master? (9/8/2007 7:01:47 AM)
Some people just love to have their paper clips in one box and their pens in the other.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master? (9/8/2007 7:03:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shyinini who are you ? would you change your shoe size cause someone said you had big feet? would you dye your hair to teal if someone told you your hair should be another color? who are you? what you seek is based on your desires seek what you seek based on your criteria not a suggestion from another... unless of course, you submit to every tom, dick,mary and jane that gives you a suggestion of whom you are. I am who Iam He is who He is neither of us suggested the other to change ****** When I submitted to His ownership I am able to submit to His suggestions what is sad about this is most people do they take advice of their friends often find themselves less happy

CreativeDominant -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master? (9/8/2007 7:14:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: odalisqueslave would love feedback on this one! odal You have to decide for yourself whether or not slave or submissive fits your personality, your character, your mental and emotional make-up. Now, it is true that others may disagree with you but that is going to happen no matter what you call yourself...as has been said on these threads before, one master's submissive is another master's slave. It has been suggested that you might put more in your profile about what you seek in a master. I agree with that and would also add something that, if you hold true to the name you have given yourself, explains what elements of that name you identify with.

velvetears -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master? (9/8/2007 7:25:04 AM)
Why not ask them why they feel that way? i would be interested to know what the perception was as it would give me insight into yet another definition of slave vs sub. More importantly how do YOU feel. Did it make you angry at the suggestion, curious, afraid? i ask out of curiosity.

shyinini -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master (9/8/2007 7:30:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cbtok I suppose were your profile to read, "Loving, caring Master sought," with a description of what that means to you, that would be the main thrust of your search. I Be who you are and be that excellently. Your own personal excellence will draw what is right to you. another thought....... does a loving caring master even know what your profile means?? nice poetry

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master (9/8/2007 7:48:01 AM)
It doesn't matter- if you make it into sub, you'll get a bunch of guys trying to seduce you by telling you that you really have a "slave heart" to make you feel cooler and more special. There's always people who will try to tell you that you aren't who you say you are. If you want to get into an adult lifestyle, you'll have to be able to make choices and stand for yourself.

LdyScarletDomina -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master (9/8/2007 8:00:58 AM)
OP You have had some wonderful, up front answers for this post. I can't do much more than concur and sympathise. I "label" myself a dominant because the vast majority of my search has been for a personal slave of my own. I am Owned, I have a Master, but I do not feel that I am defined by my role but by who I am. So I use dominant, not to catagorize myself, but to show the interest in what I seek on Collar Me. Do not let the "labels" here define who you are - but let it define what your search entails. When it comes to defining who you are - only you can do that. And remember that a good master will define you, not on your role or your "labels" but on the wonderful personality traits that make you who you are, and make you suitable to his/her personality. I wish you the best. Lady Scarlet

feastie -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master (9/8/2007 8:07:47 AM)
It's actually no one else's business what your profile says. It's YOUR profile.

Joseff -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master (9/8/2007 2:54:23 PM)
As opposed to worrying about how to label yourself, just define yourself. Everybody defines these lables differently anyway. And don't take the suggestions of others at face value, even mine. Joseff

DarkDaddyZ -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master (9/8/2007 3:16:00 PM)
~fr~ Labels are just that and errr STICKY

slaveluci -> RE: it was suggested that i change my profile from 'slave' to 'sub' to find a 'loving,caring' Master? (9/8/2007 3:42:58 PM)
Well, duh. Everyone knows that only subs have "loving, caring masters" while all slaves have mean, sadistic masters who show no love or caring for their property[8\|]. Where do those fools get such ideas?.........luci

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