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how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for the ... - 9/6/2007 8:27:33 PM   
itseeks


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Status: offline 		I met Master on line and after talking for some weeks we decided to meet.I was so afraid that he would not approve of me.How did you feel?
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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/6/2007 8:40:30 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Why do you call someone master when you haven't even accepted that they approve of you?

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/6/2007 8:42:57 PM   
itseeks


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Status: offline 		I did not call him Master at first.I have been his slave over 1 year now.

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/6/2007 8:45:34 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I find the notion of being afraid of someone I chose to meet not approving of me weird and foreign.  No one wants to get rejected, we all want to be liked- but why would I specifically set up a meeting with someone if I was SERIOUSLY concerned that they would just totally reject me?  If it happens, it happens, but if I sincerely was worried about it, I just wouldn't meet, or would meet on a nuetral ground like a party where it wouldn't really matter.

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/6/2007 8:46:20 PM   
CuriousLord


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Status: offline 		I disregarded her as another random, unimportant, horny college girl.

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/6/2007 8:49:14 PM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		When I first got started all there was to be was real time. I didn't own a computer, didn't know anyone who did and the Internet did not exist.

When I left my house to go to Master A's, I was (in no particular order) scared, thrilled, nervous, excited and wet.

Celeste

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/6/2007 8:52:48 PM   
justme27


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Status: offline 		we talked for a few months on line ,,,,first meeting was at 3 am at her place ,walked in with a 6 pack{ i know wrong } but have been together for 7 years now

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/6/2007 9:03:27 PM   
umisprite


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Status: offline 		The two long term serious Ds relationships I've had were both started in real time not online. In the first we did not even know what Ds was, we grew into it together and what a wonderfully long strange trip it was. :-) No fear of disapproval at all.
 
The second relationship was with someone who was already an acquaintance. Our first date was on neutral ground, dinner at a restaurant...no fear of disapproval because we already knew we liked what we knew of each other. The second meeting? That was a different story and I was very nervous...not that I was afraid of being rejected but I knew he was going to test my submissiveness...and oh my gosh it was delicious!!! We stayed together for quite a long while. But that doesn't answer your question, does it?
 
There have been quite a few first and second dates with Domly types that I've met online. I am always a little nervous, a little apprehensive...what if we just don't click at all? That can be awkward.  But how will we know if we don't try?

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/6/2007 9:09:00 PM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		Before meeting MJ that morning I was kinda anxious and excited; we had been friends for years and shared with eachother a LOT of things, gone through hell and back with eachother, so we had a LOT of history and knew that we could get along when we both cooperated and 'played nice' {giggles}. 3 years of phone calls, emails, IM conversations, arguments, tears, laughing, etc is a LONG time to know someone yet never get to meet, so when we met it was kinda like a relief of sorts. It may have been a long time coming, but defiantly worth the wait. No expecations that day, just to FINALLY put a face and a hug to the other side of the monitor and phone.
 
With other partners in the past, similar feelings on a much smaller scale, nervious, excited, curious, normal stuff.

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/6/2007 9:39:55 PM   
SolarAndViolet


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Status: offline 		We've spent a long time being friends online before we met, partially due to living a 1000miles apart. But once I had a chance of visiting Chicago where Master lives, on another business, we've decided to meet. I am a super-cautious person (may be too much) so I was rather scared, and very nervous, but at the same time excited to finally meet him.

When we met first for lunch and a walk, I felt very comfortable with him and that made me a little more calm later on that evening, coming to his place. Yes, took risk but do not regret it for a moment.

For the record: I don't promote going to a city you don't know, without your own mode of transportation and into the man's apartment, whom you met for the first time. But I trusted my gut and did. :) There are happy endings after all.

It was a great first time experience, he made sure I felt as comfortable and safe as possible. I'm forever thankful to Master for that.

'violet'

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/6/2007 10:05:41 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		I wasn't sure he would approve of you either.

< Message edited by Estring -- 9/6/2007 10:06:06 PM >

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/6/2007 10:10:17 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I was kneeling, naked, and presenting myself to him when he walked into the room.  When I looked up at him and saw him looking down at me, my very first thought was, "I'm home."

We had been talking on the phone and online for two months prior to this meeting.  That was three years ago and it was a night that changed my life.

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/7/2007 4:18:40 AM   
favesclava


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Status: offline 		i didnt know He was a Dominant.it was a no string attached one night stand. unbeknownst to me He had decided i was going to be His slave. in almost Gorean fashion  , you could say i was captured.
now after knowing what i had gotten into . the first night as His slave i was very very scared, nervous and so very excited. when He placed His chains on me , it was like nothing before.  

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/7/2007 2:21:17 PM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

I was kneeling, naked, and presenting myself to him when he walked into the room.  When I looked up at him and saw him looking down at me, my very first thought was, "I'm home."

We had been talking on the phone and online for two months prior to this meeting.  That was three years ago and it was a night that changed my life.

I swear to God, ownedgirlie.  This is exactly what I was going to type.  This is getting too weird.  The only difference is we had been talking for 1.5 months, not 2, and I wasn't totally naked.  My first thought was "I'm home" and He has said that's what He felt as well.  Eeeerrriiieeee...........luci

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/7/2007 3:50:36 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		My slave bought me in a Dom/slave auction fund raiser.  I had no idea who he was or what to do with him.. I figured it out :)  We've been together going on 11 years now.  (and fyi: I was and am still a Domme)

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/7/2007 5:49:47 PM   
PlayfulOne


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I felt the same way we when met.  I was home, right where I belonged.  We siad hello in an wemail on a Sat, by the following Wed we were in the same roon together, we've been insperabl;e ever since.  thats been almost 2 years now.

K

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/7/2007 6:08:10 PM   
witchywoman313


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Status: offline 		We met at a swinger/BDSM lifestyle picnic.  I just thought he's cute, and got horney.  We talked for a bit, discovered we were both looking for "friends with bennifits" and the ocasional one night stand.  We had our first Date the next evening. Two weeks latter we admited we were really dateing, within 2 months I presented him formaly with my submission, (offered myself for collaring) in 9 months we were married and have been married for over 9 months now.  Sometimes we still joke that we were supposed to be a one night stand. 

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/7/2007 6:30:45 PM   
BossyShoeBitch


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I find the notion of being afraid of someone I chose to meet not approving of me weird and foreign.  No one wants to get rejected, we all want to be liked- but why would I specifically set up a meeting with someone if I was SERIOUSLY concerned that they would just totally reject me?  If it happens, it happens, but if I sincerely was worried about it, I just wouldn't meet, or would meet on a nuetral ground like a party where it wouldn't really matter.


LA,
If everyone had your confidence, alot of therapists would be out of work!   Don't you find that to some degree, there are many people have that have nagging doubts about that sort of thing?  Alot won't admit to it and will push it down, but it is there and they face it and work through it...

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RE: how did you feel when you met you're Dom/slave for ... - 9/7/2007 9:49:08 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		Most people are nervous that first time. It's when you find out if it was all talk or if someone meant what they said. It's also a matter of "Am I going to be robbed and killed?" Those first meetings are always big chances. All we can do is trust our gut and follow our heart.

So how did I feel? As soon as she steped out of the car, I had an overwhelming sensation to throw her on the hood and fuck her brains out. But I managed to keep my pants zipped untill we made it inside.

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