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psynymph -> Greediness (9/5/2007 12:07:56 AM)

So ello all.... this thread will also be... erm.... basically my introduction to the forums. i was recently told these forums were worth looking into and well... that is just what i have done. um yes, so again ello all, i am nymph.... just nymph will do. And no it doesnt stand for nympho so please spare me that assumption.

Anyway....the subject....

Do you believe there is a difference between being greedy and being possessive? What would be that difference?

Here in the oh so infuriatingly annoying but addictive online world, i have come across countless people i would classify as greedy verses possessive.

Why?

Online "dominants" who like to take to collecting online submissives. Submissives who like to play the game of "how many Doms can they get." This is pure greed. They want several's attentions but dont return the favor. These people appear to be possessive of those they.... have but in actuality it's the greed. It's like a child that has too much candy. They may even realize they have too much candy, much more than they could ever possibly hope to eat, but they still can't bear the thought of giving any of it up. These same people also have no sense of honor or respect and will continue to collect with no regard to those they already have.

Pure greed.

This is something i recently discovered was rampant in the online world though looking back... i should have known better. Oh the naivety of youth! Damnitall, lol.

But what do you think are the differences between possessiveness, greed, and jealousy?




chellekitty -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 12:19:24 AM)

in my book...greed is excessive possessiveness...more than is warranted/deserved/granted/whatever...jealousy is not typically a base emotion...it is a secondary emotion...based most often on fear...and way to complex for this little kitty at 2:18 am...so i will leave it to someone else to define....
toodles...



Honsoku -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 1:35:23 AM)

Yes I do. Being greedy is wanting too much. Though how much is too much is subject of debate, along with can there truly be a case of wanting too much? (not as easy a question as one might think) Being possessive is expending effort to hold on to what you have. Jealously is desiring someone else's possessions. In relationship terms, jealousy is a combination of envy and possessiveness. In short;

Greed is wanting more than what you should have.
Possessiveness is wanting to not lose what you have.
Jealousy is wanting what someone else has.

Honsoku





Cyntilating -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 4:25:20 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: psynymph

So ello all.... this thread will also be... erm.... basically my introduction to the forums. i was recently told these forums were worth looking into and well... that is just what i have done. um yes, so again ello all, i am nymph.... just nymph will do. And no it doesnt stand for nympho so please spare me that assumption.

Anyway....the subject....

Do you believe there is a difference between being greedy and being possessive? What would be that difference?

Here in the oh so infuriatingly annoying but addictive online world, i have come across countless people i would classify as greedy verses possessive.

Why?

Online "dominants" who like to take to collecting online submissives. Submissives who like to play the game of "how many Doms can they get." This is pure greed. They want several's attentions but dont return the favor. These people appear to be possessive of those they.... have but in actuality it's the greed. It's like a child that has too much candy. They may even realize they have too much candy, much more than they could ever possibly hope to eat, but they still can't bear the thought of giving any of it up. These same people also have no sense of honor or respect and will continue to collect with no regard to those they already have.

Pure greed.

This is something i recently discovered was rampant in the online world though looking back... i should have known better. Oh the naivety of youth! Damnitall, lol.

But what do you think are the differences between possessiveness, greed, and jealousy?



 
Hi Nymph  : )  and welcome..
 
to me, they seem and feel different..
 
greedy says: me me me & more more more ( and is about  possessING something more... already has but wants more)
 
possessive says:   mine mine mine ( and is an emotional reaction to NOT  feeling you HAVE possession already....  you may physically have it but emotionally you do not feel you do..

jealousy says:  yours, but/and I want it..



Twicehappy2x -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 4:26:10 AM)

I think there is a big difference.
 
I love Scooter's entire tight beautiful body, trust me, i grab his butt a lot. If he is wearing shorts i lose my mind, greedily grabbing his um...parts... as often as i can get away with.
 
Yet when Mistoferin was here i happily handed those parts over to her, literally,(well they were in my hand and i put them in hers) because while i am greedy i am not possessive.
 
Note, Scooter is my Master, he is just very tolerant of my little obsessions, grins, lucky me.



Dnomyar -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 4:37:00 AM)

I want all of the women here. Guess that makes me greedy. Better greedy that hard up.



Twicehappy2x -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 4:40:09 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I want all of the women here. Guess that makes me greedy. Better greedy that hard up.


But if you would be willing to share them you would be greedy but not possessive.



Aileen68 -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 4:43:28 AM)

I don't mind greedy and possessive.  I want someone who craves me and doesn't want to share.  Jealousy comes into play for me only if he also craves someone else at the same time.  I'm not very poly.



favesclava -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 4:58:28 AM)

i'm not very poly, but Master is totally poly. i've have had a very hard time dealing with my jealousy. i want Him all to myself. i dont want to share. i'm not scare of losing Him. its taken a lot of patience and talking from Him to get me to accept my place and what we have. i knew He was poly, i just didnt know i would fall so deeply in love.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 6:51:34 AM)

Greedy to me is wanting more and more even though you have plenty already. Not being satisfied with all you have and keep wanting and taking more.

Possessiveness to me is saying something is mine, mine , or constantly having to show that you own or that something is yours. Possessiveness isn't necessarily a bad trait if in moderation.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 7:12:24 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: psynymph
Do you believe there is a difference between being greedy and being possessive? What would be that difference?

Similar to what others have said.  I am greedy for my partner and my nephews- I can never get enough time with them and always want more.

But that won't stop me from shoving them towards other things/people they love and want to enjoy. 

Greedy to me means always wanting more.  Possessive means wanting to keep to yourself.

Jealousy is feeling that someone has what you want and you want to take it away from them.  Versus envy which is feeling that someone has what you want and you working to gain it for yourself.

None of these are bad emotions or states of being in and of themselves- just have to know how it works well for you.



RRafe -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 7:15:53 AM)

Stacking the deck? Hmm.....Some might just call having that a circle of friends. I guess a view like that might stem from a degree of jealousy? Personally, I'm going to play with whoever I want to play with-except for the green eyed ones.

quote:

ORIGINAL: psynymph

So ello all.... this thread will also be... erm.... basically my introduction to the forums. i was recently told these forums were worth looking into and well... that is just what i have done. um yes, so again ello all, i am nymph.... just nymph will do. And no it doesnt stand for nympho so please spare me that assumption.

Anyway....the subject....

Do you believe there is a difference between being greedy and being possessive? What would be that difference?

Here in the oh so infuriatingly annoying but addictive online world, i have come across countless people i would classify as greedy verses possessive.

Why?

Online "dominants" who like to take to collecting online submissives. Submissives who like to play the game of "how many Doms can they get." This is pure greed. They want several's attentions but dont return the favor. These people appear to be possessive of those they.... have but in actuality it's the greed. It's like a child that has too much candy. They may even realize they have too much candy, much more than they could ever possibly hope to eat, but they still can't bear the thought of giving any of it up. These same people also have no sense of honor or respect and will continue to collect with no regard to those they already have.

Pure greed.

This is something i recently discovered was rampant in the online world though looking back... i should have known better. Oh the naivety of youth! Damnitall, lol.

But what do you think are the differences between possessiveness, greed, and jealousy?





RRafe -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 7:17:45 AM)


Stacking the deck? Hmm.....Some might just call having that a circle of friends. I guess a view like that might stem from a degree of jealousy? Personally, I'm going to play with whoever I want to play with-except for the green eyed ones.

I guess that possessiveness comes from feeling you "own" a thing. Can you really own a person? I thought we only had the loan.

quote:

ORIGINAL: psynymph

So ello all.... this thread will also be... erm.... basically my introduction to the forums. i was recently told these forums were worth looking into and well... that is just what i have done. um yes, so again ello all, i am nymph.... just nymph will do. And no it doesnt stand for nympho so please spare me that assumption.

Anyway....the subject....

Do you believe there is a difference between being greedy and being possessive? What would be that difference?

Here in the oh so infuriatingly annoying but addictive online world, i have come across countless people i would classify as greedy verses possessive.

Why?

Online "dominants" who like to take to collecting online submissives. Submissives who like to play the game of "how many Doms can they get." This is pure greed. They want several's attentions but dont return the favor. These people appear to be possessive of those they.... have but in actuality it's the greed. It's like a child that has too much candy. They may even realize they have too much candy, much more than they could ever possibly hope to eat, but they still can't bear the thought of giving any of it up. These same people also have no sense of honor or respect and will continue to collect with no regard to those they already have.

Pure greed.

This is something i recently discovered was rampant in the online world though looking back... i should have known better. Oh the naivety of youth! Damnitall, lol.

But what do you think are the differences between possessiveness, greed, and jealousy?






domiguy -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 7:18:32 AM)

I love collecting online subs...I used to collect stamps...Unfortunately, they would rarely send me a pic of their gash.



e01n -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 7:29:07 AM)

{had to wait for Domiguy to post... OP - if you need a laugh, perve that cat. Welcome to the boards.}

This is actually something that I'm dealing with now. Capsule background: I grew up in a polyamorous home and consider myself poly. I'm currently seriously exploring the possibility of being the Third in an existing relationship that already has a number of satellite "dalliances" (no, everyone is staying on the side of safety, thanks for your concern).

I find myself wanting more of Her. This is my greed.
I want to eliminate the need for Her to indulge in these "dalliances" in that I fulfill those needs. This is my possessiveness.
When I feel the need to shut out the other Him, that's jealousy.

Greed & possessiveness can be worked with and even a bit healthy in balance. Jealousy tends to be far more toxic.

YMMV.



Dnomyar -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 9:27:06 AM)

Im not possessive just greedy. A possessive person has issues unless he/her is married to their sub/slave.



Dnomyar -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 9:28:45 AM)

Was going to send Aileen some crackers but she is not polly.



CreativeDominant -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 10:14:37 AM)

Greedy....I want more, more, and MORE.  A base emotion that is tempered by intellect and reality.  Like Dnomyar, I want...well, not all but... a great many of the women on this site.  That makes me greedy.  Intelligence and realism make me realize it is not possible.

Possessive...This is mine, this is mine, and this is mine.  Mine...MINE, MINE, MINE.

Jealousy...I view it differently.  What many are describing as jealousy, I would describe as envy.  Jealousy is when I feel my relationship threatened by outside factors.  Whether this feeling is justified or not does not matter...I feel the threat.



Dnomyar -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 11:30:51 AM)

CD I dont think that you should feel jealousy when your relationship is threatened. You should be pissed off that some ass is moronic enought to try to interfer with your relationship.



IrishMist -> RE: Greediness (9/5/2007 11:32:35 AM)

quote:

Do you believe there is a difference between being greedy and being possessive? What would be that difference?

Yes I do. I look at greedy as always wanting MORE; while possessive means holding on to what you already have to the exclusion of all else.

( just how i look at things )



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