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grlneedstolearn -> Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 6:50:12 PM)
Good evening, So i've been talking with a male Dom for a couple months now and we were going great till recently. He and i have been having conversations about him moving here (which i'm sure i posted about him somewhere, though can't remember where), anyways he seems more like a child to me in ways of almost to the point of annoying. After another argument, and i'm no way attached to him, i recieved an im from him just now saying that "i need to be careful on what i say." Though all our conversations i tend to tell the truth and what's on my mind. So my question would be how would you respond to it and how would you interpret the message? i have deleted him from my yahoo and the address book. Am i just being paranoid about his statement, or is it something i worry about? He has said that he has had anger issues in the past. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you

Aine -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 6:54:37 PM)
Eh, delete him, block him, forget him and move one. He's probably just a wanker.

grlneedstolearn -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 6:57:34 PM)
That's what i did do, but wondering also if i should be somewhat concerned with the statement or just let it lie, like i have done. Well almost

Aine -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 7:00:36 PM)
Idle statement. Hardy a threat. Put it out of your mind.

grlneedstolearn -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 7:01:21 PM)
Ok thanks. Now i will enjoy a peaceful night's sleep

Lordandmaster -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 7:03:49 PM)
I'm just confused. Your profile says you're "happily under a dom right now." And you've been talking to someone about relocating? Doesn't make a whole lotta sense.

ThinkingKitten -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 7:08:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aine Eh, delete him, block him, forget him and move one. He's probably just a wanker. Hopefully/probably that is all he is. However, if he reads the OP, then he isn't going to be a happy camper at the description given, even though he is anonymous. I think grl's concern is whether she just acquired a potential stalking problem - and that may depend on just how much personal information she has revealed about her location and contact details/work etc. There have been some stalker threads here previously, with some scary stories told, but also a pile of very useful information on how to protect yourself/deal with one - try a search, if you're worried. If it didn't feel right, it probably wasn't, so blocking/ignoring any future attempts at contact from him is, I believe, the way to go. Be safe. Better to be aware and taking precautions for absolutely no reason, than end up regretting not having done so.

domiguy -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 7:09:40 PM)
Well since your profile states that you are "I'm happily under a Dom right now" I guess there is little to be said...Ok a tad bit flippant....Why would you place that in your profile? Why wouldn't you keep your options open to first find someone that might be local and secondly and equally important someone who does not have anger issues. I do get a little amazed at some of these posts...What would you say to a friend who said she is talking to someone who she finds kind of annoying, seems childish and has anger issues?....Would you say, " Jeez, he sounds great! Ask him if he has and identical twin?" I highly doubt it. As far as the "you should be careful what you say" comment...Since you are a sub there are obviously some things that you might want to contemplate before blurting out...It depends on the argument and what was said. Lastly, what exactly does this statement mean..."After another argument, and i'm no way attached to him."...Your profile seems to contradict that statement. Where your profile states that you are, "Happily under a Dom right now..." It's difficult to give advice when you don't know all of the details....The blame might all fall in your lap....You seem confused enough that this is a possibility that should not be completely ignored. Edited to add...Damn posters are fast out here...(Shakes my fist at LaM)

Aine -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 7:14:05 PM)
That is, assuming he's on this site. She only mentioned him being in contact with her on yahoo. If I got worried over a little comment like that, which I've gotten a hundred times over, I'd be a neurotic mess. Now, if it were a more involved story, then perhaps I'd consider something more along the lines of stalker material.

KatyLied -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 7:15:32 PM)
Well, I guess this means he won't be relocating to you.

domiguy -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 7:37:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied Well, I guess this means he won't be relocating to you. Well, at least she is still happy.

proudsub -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 7:56:08 PM)
I am also very confused as you said in a July thread that you have been with your dom for 5 mo. but you were frustated with some things. And now you say you have been talking to another dom for 2 months and it was "going great 'til recently". Getting upset with My Dom

feastie -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 8:08:45 PM)
Whatever her status truly is, if she's not happy, comfortable, has misgivings, whatever with someone, it's time to cut that one loose. Don't lose any sleep over it. If he admits to anger issues, makes you feel like an adult to his child and just generally creeped out, then block him on IM and email.

kittinSol -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 8:12:43 PM)
I worry that the fact you are posting your personal concerns over your (very) private relationship may mean that it is doomed. From what you say, the man is immature. Now, my perception utterly depends upon your reaction to him... See what I mean? How can anyone help at this stage? Really, it's between you and him. Good luck.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 9:03:52 PM)
Thanks- good to know I'm not the only one confused with these seemingly conflicting statements.

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/26/2007 9:58:21 PM)
I'm not spending much time with anyone I find annoying. And I'm certainly not seriously considering relocation with someone I've yet to meet in the flesh.

came4U -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/27/2007 2:20:26 AM)
If you don't mention the guy's name, what does it really matter what you say? I am sure he probably knows your nik here and can read the forum posts lol, if It wasn't over then, it is now. If you are genuinely concerned, remove comments (if any) about him in your profile and start out fresh. Yet, what you have posted here, it is too late to remove.

atendersoul -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/27/2007 9:39:38 AM)
it states in your profile that you are happily under a Dom now.....what is your concern?

MHOO314 -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/27/2007 9:43:59 AM)
*If he sounds like a child in somethings, are you sure he isn't?*

FullCircle -> RE: Suggestions on im (8/27/2007 9:52:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn Any advice would be helpful. Thank you http://www.mattelgamefinder.com/demos.asp?demo=mb It has never steered me wrong yet.

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