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Phin -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/26/2007 7:09:00 PM)


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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

Mmmm.... a BDSM honeymoon retreat.. now that is tempting! [;)]

not a "retreat" per say, but a B&B on the outer banks that I would love to spend a weekend at

http://www.bondageandbreakfast.com/frame.htm



AquaticSub -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/26/2007 7:12:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Phin


quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

Mmmm.... a BDSM honeymoon retreat.. now that is tempting! [;)]

not a "retreat" per say, but a B&B on the outer banks that I would love to spend a weekend at

http://www.bondageandbreakfast.com/frame.htm


Awww... they don't allow wax play. It's one of my favorites so I don't think I'd want to pay that much to not be able to do it.



Phin -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/26/2007 7:14:42 PM)

I know that did suck, although I have only done it a few times, I see myself becoming a wax slut...



AquaticSub -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/26/2007 7:16:29 PM)

I love it, love it, love it! You have to be a bit careful about what kind of candles you buy though. Some of the scented candles have surprisingly high melting points but I hear good things about kosher candles. You can pick those up just about anywhere too.



proudsub -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/26/2007 8:32:24 PM)

I can understand offering a kink oriented collaring ceremony.  However a wedding usually involves both sets of parents and various other relatives so for many it wouldn't be appropriate.[:o]



sweetdesire50 -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/27/2007 6:04:00 PM)

Good suggestions and comments which Master and I are evaluating and taking seriously. The B&B idea is a great idea! As to collaring ceremonies vs. weddings, there is plenty of room for both...and perhaps we shall offer both.

I'm not worried about the "issue" of vanilla folks at a kinky wedding. We're just offering the service. The couple know their families and friends. They can make their own decisions what they want to do. In my experience, second weddings among kinky folks are often celebrations with friends, rather than family, so I believe there IS a market.

If people want to be married in a church, great! Their choice. But if they don't, then we'll be there...*S* Marriage isn't just for those connected to a church. It's for everybody.

I'll continue to welcome your comments...*S*

~sweet



Perplex -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/27/2007 10:19:00 PM)

I did a traveling tent show during the 80's which catered to the non traditional elements of society, doing weddings, chrsistenign/wiccanings.  This was pre internet so our biggest problem was being in the right place at the right time.  A lot of what we did was simple main stream celebrations for the families of the 'non trad' lifestylers...after all back then Mom & Pop weren't ready for some stuff.  We also did  an ultrafundy snake handling marriage in TN for a prodigal son marrying a NYC daughter (I got paid but the reaction from the bride's family was enough I'd given back the fee) but we served as a liason between non-trad and old world ideals.

I think your place could have merit, I know two hundred pagan couples who who might use your service if they could get what they want.  As stated above though on a long term $$$ basis, I'd worry about a customer base and the backlash you'd have by marriage-groupies but if you can survive it you can turn the protests into an asset, budget a press agent.

and just be aware with the B&D lifestylers who are out in the everyday open is a really small percent of the population, even in a city like atlanta of 4million people, I don't know of more than 1% of the overall pouplation who are out of the closet it total. 
good luck with it, I hope it works out,



chellekitty -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 3:03:57 AM)

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ORIGINAL: proudsub

I can understand offering a kink oriented collaring ceremony.  However a wedding usually involves both sets of parents and various other relatives so for many it wouldn't be appropriate.[:o]


do weddings usually involve both sets of parrents and various other relatives? especially weddings in vegas??



proudsub -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 2:35:19 PM)

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do weddings usually involve both sets of parrents and various other relatives? especially weddings in vegas??


My guess is most do unless the couple elopes or it's a very spur of the moment one. My daughter was married in Vegas and we were all there.



phonesexgirl4YOU -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 3:00:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sweetdesire50

Hi all!

I am seriously considering opening a BDSM wedding service/chapel with my Master in Vegas and am testing the waters here to see what kind of response I might expect. This is in its preliminary stages, so I'm still in the brainstorming mode. As a person ordained in a mainline denomination for many years, I have been asked by fellow members of the kink community to preside at their weddings, with or without kink elements. I'm wondering if folks in our community would be interested in going to Vegas to be married in a kink ceremony and if vanillas would do it just for the shock value/thrill/what the hell aspect of it. Any reactions?
Thanks so much for your input...sweet



Ok i live in "Sin City" and let's just say any sin but the bdsm sin is ok here. with that said there is actually a law on the books forbidding BDSM practice in Las Vegas, NV.  It is almost impossible to have a play party without someone ratting it out and calling the cops. but don't take my word for it, go check out yahoo groups called SinCityDs and LasVegasBDSM.

good luck!



flower2007 -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 3:04:12 PM)

I wouldn't be up for it, but I bet a lot of people would be.

Actually, the only reason I wouldn't be up for it is that I want a normal wedding....if I could go to Vegas or something like that and have a second, unofficial, BDSM ceremony, so much the better!  I just can't have the family and friends seeing something kinky like that.  Not my style.



sweetdesire50 -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 3:10:01 PM)

candy slave,
With your living in LV, we really appreciate the local information you've given. When we get this little enterprise up and running I'll be sure to post it here and you can come check us out!

~sweet



sweetdesire50 -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 3:12:45 PM)

I'm loving this idea and it could well happen. Stay tuned...*S*



cloudboy -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 4:28:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

There is some interest, but for the most part people choose to go the traditional route with marriages and have a small, less formal, completely separate ceremony for the collaring. Very rarely are the two merged completely.

This IMO is a continual sign to me of how people ACTUALLY prioritize the importance of marriage vs Ms in their lives, no matter what they say.


If you are taking a shot at marriage, I'm glad to see it.



cloudboy -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 4:30:52 PM)

I wish President Bush had consulted you before the IRAQ invasion.

Still, maybe there's a niche market, and if any place could support it, Vegas could.



AlexanderC -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 4:38:59 PM)

Could a bruised ass count as something blue?



lonlyrossInNeed -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 4:49:28 PM)

I have to agree i think it would turn into a 3 ring circus media not good for us .
 
Ross.g
Rosie the puppy

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ORIGINAL: MissyRane

Call me pessimistic but I think it would turn into a circus/media circus and might meet harsh protests by the ones that are allowed to marry people such as priests, judges, shamans etc..
just my opinion...
and no no matter how kinky I would be I think this's disrespectful for the marriage ceremony. I'd consider it being made fun of.

edited to add: on the other hand I wouldn't be opposed to having a 2nd ceremony as a kinky one but in my opinion there should be one regular ceremony.



Joseff -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 6:53:44 PM)

Are you sure it hasn't already been done?
Joseff



michaels4evr -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/28/2007 9:27:01 PM)

My first Master and i had both a traditional Vanilla wedding and a Lifestyle Wedding..the Vanilla wedding was held the day before the Lifestyle Wedding and we asked that our minister ( a very good friend) NOT pronounce us Man and Wife until the next day at the Lifestyle wedding at a chapel on the grounds of a vanilla Bed and Breakfast.(I had been collared for nearly two years before the wedding), therefore, our official wedding date was the day of the Lifestyle wedding which we always considered to be the "real" ceremony. (btw. my mom was at both ceremonies and even sang for us) I think there is definately a market out there for Lifestyle weddings. We had a blast at the BB and they were very accommodating. In fact, the wedding party rented the entire B and B for the weekend and our wedding nite turned into quite the play party. Its a shame that LV is so hard on Lifestylers..but I wish you well in your endeavor. I am working on something similar..not in your market though. :) 



phonesexgirl4YOU -> RE: BDSM Weddings (8/29/2007 7:00:55 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sweetdesire50

candy slave,
With your living in LV, we really appreciate the local information you've given. When we get this little enterprise up and running I'll be sure to post it here and you can come check us out!

~sweet



Oh so you don't live in vegas? Ok here is the scoop, housing is expensive, electric is expensive, food is expensive.......we are in the dessert so everything is expensive. Well unless you gamble and get comp's but hey that can get expensive too! It is also a very competitive dog eat dog world here. Please do alot of research,  Sin City is a very hard city to get permits in. Also no business can advertise BDSM at all, it is against the code and the law. It's funny whore houses are ok, but don't you dare spank a person and call it BDSM....giggles.  I wish you lot's of luck, and if you can get it approved, hell ya be there in a heart beat.

candy slave



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