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Aimtoplease101 -> RE: Rejection???? (8/20/2007 11:45:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsSimone Why is it on CM when you politely tell someone you do not believe you are compatible or interested ,you suddenly become a bitch? Do male dominants get the same response? are they A(**holes is they refuse a potential submissive? I am very honest about my interests, what I am seeking and my profession. I do not mislead people when they approach me. So why is that a bad thing?? I don't think this is unique to CM, or to the D/s community. Luckily, it's also not a universal trait. While no one likes rejection, some can handle it better than others. I remember in my younger bar cruising days, if a guy got "shot down" approaching a lady, many would react with the comment that she was either a bitch or a lesbian. I think it was just ego preservation from those with fragile egos. If you're getting those types of comments here, I think you're making contact with the insecure and immature crowd somehow. Just ignore them and concentrate on the better candidates. I've always thought that, to make it as a sub, you couldn't have too fragile an ego-- you'd be destroyed! Good luck-- and don't get too jaded. ATP

OedipusRexIt -> RE: Rejection???? (8/20/2007 11:51:08 PM)
I can honestly say that I have never had anyone here, or elsewhere, give back a passive-aggressive response to a kind letdown. IMO, one sad fact is that a function of many male egos, and one not so hard-wired into females, is the fear of rejection, along with the knee-jerk sour grapes response. A lot of guys find their penis literally shrinks every time a woman says "no". Many fail to realize that calling you a bitch doesn't make it grow back... You could either learn to ignore imbeciles, or else practice your "It's not you, it's me" speech.

Dnomyar -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 4:31:48 AM)
DS4Dummies. Lamborghinis arent squirrely.

Dnomyar -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 4:34:18 AM)
Men get over rejections. A woman will let you know about it the rest of her life.

spankmepink11 -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 8:56:05 AM)
I'm just glad the people like that have been the minority in my experience.... Rejection is never easy whether you're on the giving or receiving end.....

iammachine -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 10:49:34 AM)
Some people just have fragile egos and are sore losers. I personally get a chuckle when someone gets their undies in a twist after I've told them that I'm not interested, because that removes any sense of guilt or empathy I might have had for rejecting them. :)

DS4DUMMIES -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 10:55:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar DS4Dummies. Lamborghinis arent squirrely. .....they might be during a woman's rant..... DS4

GhitaAmati -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 11:15:05 AM)
Ive dated someone before just to get to drive their car.......does that make me shallow?

InsAndOutsFL -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 2:07:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati Ive dated someone before just to get to drive their car.......does that make me shallow? Nope! That makes you a genius in my eyes...wonder why I never thought of that...

corsetgirl -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 2:27:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati Ive dated someone before just to get to drive their car.......does that make me shallow? Priceless! I am curious if you liked the car...

GreyGore -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 2:44:10 PM)
I definitely prefer a simple "No thanks" to feeling completely ignored... I try to be appreciative when someone takes the time to respond as such and respectful of their wishes. At least know I know why so many fail to respond at all... Gregory

SeanPony -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 3:37:05 PM)
Ah just shrug those dirtdevils off. Life is too short to drink cheap beer :)

MistressDolly -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 8:26:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsSimone Why is it on CM when you politely tell someone you do not believe you are compatible or interested ,you suddenly become a bitch? Do male dominants get the same response? are they A(**holes is they refuse a potential submissive? I am very honest about my interests, what I am seeking and my profession. I do not mislead people when they approach me. So why is that a bad thing?? Meet bitterness with indifference; you can not please everyone.

DrkJourney -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 8:35:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: curvyslavegirl I secretly get happy when I turn someone down and they become instantly evil in their responses. It makes it so much easier to tell that I made the right decision! my thoughts exactly

DrkJourney -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 8:39:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile quote: ORIGINAL: MsSimone Why is it on CM when you politely tell someone you do not believe you are compatible or interested ,you suddenly become a bitch? Do male dominants get the same response? are they A(**holes is they refuse a potential submissive? I am very honest about my interests, what I am seeking and my profession. I do not mislead people when they approach me. So why is that a bad thing?? While I have never been treated like an asshole for turning somebody down, there have been a few times where it was not a pretty sight. Here's a few cum back lines or types of things said upon rejection... But I give killer blow jobs, too bad you won't know now. But I'm really good at <insert boastful remark>. Alright, but you don't know what you're missing. Basically, just a last ditch rub it in what I'm going to missing thing. yeah I get those too, and the added: you just turned down a rich one....you blew it um...yeah...that's what I'm looking for (eye roll)

DarkDesirestx -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 8:45:23 PM)
I usually just thank them for their interest and say I hope they find the one they seek soon. I find this seems to be effective in not hurting their feelings. I don't like hurting anyone's feelings. I know that rejection is just a part of life and not everyone will be perfect for all out there. I actually find that when I've written to someone first and they don't reply, that for me I can accept that. It doesn't bother me in the least to never hear a reply. I think I actually prefer that to a letter saying ' Hey, I don't like you.' LOL oh well to each their own.

corsetgirl -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 8:56:26 PM)
I have also been blown off because of my being a BBW but I think everyone has certain tastes on what attracts people. I try to tell them good luck in their search and this gives me time to look for a dom who would understand and cherish me. I have also rejected one "dom" that I never met on a first date who was so anxious on "training me" wanted to have sex with me. I remember him being on this site, complaining that there were no "real slaves"...hmmmm...coincidence? I think not.

SireKane -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 9:15:03 PM)
Personally, I've never had a submissive female disrespect me because I expressed my disinterest. I have witnessed on many occasions submissive men make disrespectful remarks when rejected by a dominant female.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 9:21:18 PM)
were not worthy were not worthy lol it is all what ya make it

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: Rejection???? (8/21/2007 9:24:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsSimone Why is it on CM when you politely tell someone you do not believe you are compatible or interested ,you suddenly become a bitch? Do male dominants get the same response? are they A(**holes is they refuse a potential submissive? I am very honest about my interests, what I am seeking and my profession. I do not mislead people when they approach me. So why is that a bad thing?? some Dommes out there can't except rejection either. probably not as many as Doms, but they are out there...trust me. i've turned down a few and got an eyeful from them in my email. that's when the block button comes in handy.

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