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New York wants to ban "bitch" and "ho" - 8/8/2007 12:18:06 AM   
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August 7, 2007It’s a Female Dog, or Worse. Or Endearing. And Illegal?
By MICHAEL M. GRYNBAUM 

The New York City Council, which drew national headlines when it passed a symbolic citywide ban earlier this year on the use of the so-called n-word, has turned its linguistic (and legislative) lance toward a different slur: bitch.

The term is hateful and deeply sexist, said Councilwoman Darlene Mealy of Brooklyn, who has introduced a measure against the word, saying it creates “a paradigm of shame and indignity” for all women.

But conversations over the last week indicate that the “b-word” (as it is referred to in the legislation) enjoys a surprisingly strong currency — and even some defenders — among many New Yorkers.

And Ms. Mealy admitted that the city’s political ruling class can be guilty of its use. As she circulated her proposal, she said, “even council members are saying that they use it to their wives.”

The measure, which 19 of the 51 council members have signed onto, was prompted in part by the frequent use of the word in hip-hop music. Ten rappers were cited in the legislation, along with an excerpt from an 1811 dictionary that defined the word as “A she dog, or doggess; the most offensive appellation that can be given to an English woman.”

While the bill also bans the slang word “ho,” the b-word appears to have acquired more shades of meaning among various groups, ranging from a term of camaraderie to, in a gerund form, an expression of emphatic approval. Ms. Mealy acknowledged that the measure was unenforceable, but she argued that it would carry symbolic power against the pejorative uses of the word. Even so, a number of New Yorkers said they were taken aback by the idea of prohibiting a term that they not only use, but do so with relish and affection.

“Half my conversation would be gone,” said Michael Musto, the Village Voice columnist, whom a reporter encountered on his bicycle on Sunday night on the corner of Seventh Avenue South and Christopher Street. Mr. Musto, widely known for his coverage of celebrity gossip, dismissed the idea as absurd.

“On the downtown club scene,” he said, munching on an apple, the two terms are often used as terms of endearment. “We divest any negative implication from the word and toss it around with love.”

Darris James, 31, an architect from Brooklyn who was outside the Duplex, a piano bar in the West Village, on Sunday night was similarly opposed. “Hell, if I can’t say bitch, I wouldn’t be able to call half my friends.”

They may not have been the kinds of reaction that Ms. Mealy, a Detroit-born former transit worker serving her first term, was expecting. “They buried the n-word, but what about the other words that really affect women, such as ‘b,’ and ‘ho’? That’s a vile attack on our womanhood,” Ms. Mealy said in a telephone interview. “In listening to my other colleagues, that they say that to their wives or their friends, we have gotten really complacent with it.”

The resolution, introduced on July 25, was first reported by The Daily News. It is being considered by the Council’s Civil Rights Committee and is expected to be discussed next month.

Many of those interviewed for this article acknowledged that the b-word could be quite vicious — but insisted that context was everything.

“I think it’s a description that is used insouciantly in the fashion industry,” said Hamish Bowles, the European editor at large of Vogue, as he ordered a sushi special at the Condé Nast cafeteria last week. “It would only be used in the fashion world with a sense of high irony and camp.”
Mr. Bowles, in salmon seersucker and a purple polo, appeared amused by the Council measure. “It’s very ‘Paris Is Burning,’ isn’t it?” he asked, referring to the film that captured the 1980s drag queen scene in New York.

The b-word has been used to refer to female dogs since around 1000 A.D., according to the Oxford English Dictionary, which traces the term’s derogatory application to women to the 15th century; the entry notes that the term is “not now in decent use.”

But there is much evidence that the word — for better or worse — is part of the accepted vernacular of the city. The cover of this week’s New York magazine features the word, and syndicated episodes of “Sex and the City,” the chronicle of high-heeled Manhattan singledom, include it, though some obscenities were bleeped for its run on family-friendly TBS. A feminist journal with the word as its title is widely available in bookstores here, displayed in the front rung at Borders at the Time Warner Center.

Robin Lakoff, a Brooklyn-born linguist who teaches at the University of California, Berkeley, said that she despised the word, but that enforcing linguistic change through authority “almost never works,” echoing comments from some New Yorkers who believed a ban would only serve to heighten the word’s power.

“If what the City Council wants to do is increase civility, it would have to be able to contextualize it,” said Ms. Lakoff, who studies language and gender. “You forbid the uses that drive people apart, but encourage the ones that drive people together. Which is not easy.”

Councilman Leroy G. Comrie Jr., the Queens Democrat who successfully sponsored a symbolic moratorium on the n-word that was adopted Feb. 28, said he supported Ms. Mealy’s measure, but acknowledged that the term had many uses.

“We want to make sure the context that it’s used is not a negative one,” Mr. Comrie said yesterday.

Back at the West Village piano bar on Sunday evening, Poppi Kramer had just finished up her cabaret set. She scoffed at the proposal. “I’m a stand-up comic. You may as well just say to me, don’t even use the word ‘the.’ ”

But at least one person with a legitimate reason to use the word saw some merit in cutting down on its use.

“We’d be grandfathered in, I would think,” said David Frei, who has been a host of the Westminster Kennel Club dog show in New York since 1990. The word is a formal canine label that appears on the competition’s official materials. But Mr. Frei said he worried about the word’s impact on some viewers, especially younger ones.

“I think we have to take responsibility for that word on the air. The reality is it’s in the realm of responsible conduct to not use that word anymore.

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/08/07/nyregion/07bword.html?ei=5090&en=8bb9b60b7da0d2ed&ex=1344139200&partner=rssuserland&emc=rss&pagewanted=print
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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 12:21:04 AM   
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Ms. Mealy sounds like a real bitch.

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 1:12:42 AM   
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New York is getting even more ridiculous with their laws than California. And how the hell do they ever think they are going to enforce this?

I wonder what words the New York City Council plans to ban next....

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 2:31:21 AM   
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Fuck censorship. Hug a hoe.......

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 2:39:13 AM   
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Level, must be lonely where you are if you actually want to hug a hoe (1 : any of various implements for tilling, mixing, or raking; especially : an implement with a thin flat blade on a long handle used especially for cultivating, weeding, or loosening the earth around plants).
It might be a lot more fun to hug a "ho" though.   
On a serious note, I can understand why NYC would try to protect women from these derogatory remarks, but it's clearly taking shit too far with medling in insignificant BS.   I dare say most women can successfully intervene on their own behalf when called out of their names, after all, the type of man who would indiscriminately call women out of their names are fairly easy to insult given their shortcomings.   M

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 2:41:58 AM   
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http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=H-O-E

I believe this is one of those "toMAYto", "toMAHto", "Koran", "Qur'an" situations, dear lady

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 2:43:41 AM   
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Surely if they are going to ban bad language anyplace, then the film and broadcasting and music industries are the place to start. This is partly where children pick up bad language.

I know its censorship, but none more so than telling you what you can and cant say ?

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 2:44:09 AM   
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LOL, now that is serious research.
I'll have you know that when they write it in lyrics, it's ho usually.  LMAO.  
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Surely if they are going to ban bad language anyplace, then the film and broadcasting and music industries are the place to start. This is partly where children pick up bad language.
I completely agree, and for that reason, I don't let the lil one watch >90% of the channels on TV, but have to tell you, that doesn't stop him from learning the words just the same.   Fortunatly, he possesses the good judgement to keep his mouth shut about them in mixed company.   M

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 3:49:59 AM   
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Cute.

For those who missed it, it's a symbolic ban.  They already did the same with nigga.  I doubt that keeps the raceplay crowd from making good use of it; just one more law we break in our little world.

The issue really has nothing to with the actual word, though.  Making bad words 'illegal' would just be a quick way to create new words.  Words don't define people; people define people with words. 

/end bitch

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 5:46:14 AM   
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"Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof;

or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press;

or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances."

or as wiser poets than I have sung ( Which apparently would qualify for the banning ) :


"Fuck tha police
Comin straight from the underground
Young nigga got it bad cuz I'm brown
And not the other color so police think
They have the authority to kill a minority

Fuck that shit, cuz I ain't tha one
For a punk muthafucka with a badge and a gun
To be beatin on, and throwin in jail
We could go toe to toe in the middle of a cell

Fuckin with me cuz I'm a teenager
With a little bit of gold and a pager
Searchin my car, lookin for the product
Thinkin every nigga is sellin narcotics

You'd rather see me in the pen
Then me and Lorenzo rollin in the Benzo
Beat tha police outta shape
And when I'm finished, bring the yellow tape
To tape off the scene of the slaughter
Still can't swallow bread and water

I don't know if they fags or what
Search a nigga down and grabbin his nuts
And on the other hand, without a gun they can't get none
But don't let it be a black and a white one
Cuz they slam ya down to the street top
Black police showin out for the white cop"



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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 6:05:06 AM   
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hmmm- well here in pettyt junction, the tone of your voice can make for soem mudslinging,

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 7:22:11 AM   
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Bitch is alright but Son of a Bitch is not. So hencefoth the expression is banned.

I also intend to ban the use of the word FUCK on CM posts.
So stop using it 'cos I dont like it. OK ?

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 10:07:11 AM   
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you know what is going to be funny all the hip hop artest are going to really suffer no more hip hop in ny rofl

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 10:20:36 AM   
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And you don't think the New York City Council has more important things to do than pass symbolic bans on vulgar words?  Sounds like fiddling while Rome burns to me.

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ORIGINAL: Stephann

For those who missed it, it's a symbolic ban.  They already did the same with nigga.

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 11:03:50 AM   
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Bitch and ho are gone, but that still leaves you the choices of cunt, twat, slut, tramp, etc.  That kind of surprises me since a lot of the women I know proudly call themselves bitches.  But, I have yet to meet a woman that finds the words cunt or twat to be an endearing nickname.  I thought the same thing when they banned the word nigger.  I reckoned that it was okay to use the words spook, porch monkey, coon, spade, etc.  In all seriousness, I realize that this a symbolic ban to try and make the word unfashionable to say in the hip-hop crowd.  But, it is insulting when any government entity feels the need to give us all ettiquette lessons.  These words have been used so much, that they have ceased to have any shock value.   

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RE: New York wants to ban "bitch" and "h... - 8/8/2007 3:24:06 PM   
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Guess that makes the females of our species the "new niggers".
 
Gee New York, thanks a bunch.  So this is representative of your "culture".
 
Call me that to my face and you'll be picking up your teeth.

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