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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/2/2007 1:56:49 PM   
goddessAVA


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Status: offline 		my dream would be to literally have a stable of sub boys in my home, I am not sexually into Dom men or any women, however males are generally not able to cope with this in my experience.  How it would work out long term is of no importance to me-things change people come and go.  I keep everything casual for the most part to avoid complications but one day I'd like to try this, maybe move to the OWK

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/2/2007 4:05:24 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I've been involved in a few MFM and MFF threesomes and threesome situations, and in all honesty when there were two M's around, the second M always had head issues.  I'm not saying that two women won't wage psychological warfare too.  On the contrary, that often happens.  But when there's more than one M, there's always this crazy jockeying for position.  And the other one is always like, "Oh my god, who's really in charge here, is it him, is it me, am I less of a man because he's fucking my wife, am I supposed to take her pussy or is he, is it bad that I enjoy it when he comes on my wife's face, can I tell him stuff I really don't want him to do..."  It gets to be a hassle.  Just give me two women, and we'll figure out the "biological" stuff on our own.

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Would like your comments as to why there are so very few "Poly" familys where there would be a Male Master, a female slave and a male submissive/slave. It seems that biologically this would fit much better then the common Male-female-female.

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/2/2007 4:18:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Kinkypupper

Would like your comments as to why there are so very few "Poly" familys where there would be a Male Master, a female slave and a male submissive/slave. It seems that biologically this would fit much better then the common Male-female-female.
I know it happens in the gay community but why not in the BDSM one.


Those aren't dynamics but we are currently a one woman with two men household.

Ideally I'd love to add one more man and one woman to it.

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/2/2007 4:28:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		We were exactly that when i signed on with Gary....Mmf.  It was great!!  However, it ended when the male submissive met a vanilla lady, fell in love, and married her.  We miss him being a daily part of our lives.  We'd love to have the same situation again but it's very difficult to find that right person. 

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/2/2007 5:02:09 PM   
ThinkingKitten


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ORIGINAL: MissIsis

I have always thought it would make more biological sense because most women are multi-orgasmic 



*coughs.... huh? Excuse me? Since when? Damn, another gene I missed getting!
 
I did have some discussions with a straight Dom a short while ago in which he tossed out the idea of a poly relationship... in which I was sub to him, but he'd have a second female sub, and I a male sub. These second subs would be shared in a strictly non-sexual manner, as neither of us are bi, but if all agreed then we might have them play together. It seemed like an interesting concept - at the time.

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/2/2007 5:03:20 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		i just do not get the poly thingy. I am just a greedy sub i am not in to sharing sorry just my take on things mine mine mine i am a happy mizer

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/2/2007 6:37:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: goddessAVA

my dream would be to literally have a stable of sub boys in my home, I am not sexually into Dom men or any women, however males are generally not able to cope with this in my experience.  How it would work out long term is of no importance to me-things change people come and go.  I keep everything casual for the most part to avoid complications but one day I'd like to try this, maybe move to the OWK


Actually sounds exciting to me.

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/2/2007 7:18:32 PM   
MistressBrutal


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Status: offline 		I have never been in a poly relationship and from what I have seen I dont think I would ever want one. Kudos for the ones that can get it to work for them though. I accidentally clicked on something that made me reply to something that was not meant for me, apologies.

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/4/2007 3:52:32 PM   
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I've been involved in a few MFM and MFF threesomes and threesome situations, and in all honesty when there were two M's around, the second M always had head issues.  I'm not saying that two women won't wage psychological warfare too.  On the contrary, that often happens.  But when there's more than one M, there's always this crazy jockeying for position.  And the other one is always like, "Oh my god, who's really in charge here, is it him, is it me, am I less of a man because he's fucking my wife, am I supposed to take her pussy or is he, is it bad that I enjoy it when he comes on my wife's face, can I tell him stuff I really don't want him to do..."  It gets to be a hassle.  Just give me two women, and we'll figure out the "biological" stuff on our own.




My mileage is totally opposite. But it demands an obvious power structure. Those questions need to be answered clearly and obviously, for us. This one is butch and alpha and more of the manly man, that one is softer sweeter and is allowed to be a little needier - All questions and concerns are referred to the person with a pussy. When you have a genuinely omega and sweet sub type and a more switch/alpha type and the former is genuinely HAPPY being a cuckold, and being deferential, it's cake.



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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/4/2007 4:20:02 PM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		It is less common, but certainly not unknown.

I've been in a number poly situations where I've Owned more than one girl
A few situations where My secondary girl has had a 'nilla (but informed and agreeing) male partner
And when I Owned a switch I gave her permission to have a pet, the pet was male.

Personaly I've no interest sexualy in another Male, but many of the young ladys I've been involved with have been bi or bi curious.... Maybe that accounts for it. who can blame them, women are more attractive!


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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/4/2007 4:21:09 PM   
MasterNdorei


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Status: offline 		i am kind of surprised too... the power exchange is a genderless kink as far as i can tell...  When sex enters into the mix, other issues and preferences surface, is my guess.

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/4/2007 4:44:32 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: ThinkingKitten

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissIsis

I have always thought it would make more biological sense because most women are multi-orgasmic 



*coughs.... huh? Excuse me? Since when? Damn, another gene I missed getting!
 


I think a better statement would be that most women are capable of having mutiple orgasms. However, achieving them still requires skill and practice on the part of both partners and some women simply will not have mutiple orgasms, just as some women don't (for a number of reasons) orgasm at all.

Also, the number of potential orgasms a person has doesn't have a direct link to their sex drive. A woman capable of 20 orgasms per encounter could still only be in mood once a month.

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/4/2007 6:11:34 PM   
SeekerofPower


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Status: offline 		No idea why you think Mfm is better biologically then Mff or whatever since you gave no reason. Most males are not bi so see no reason for a male slave even for non-sexual service. More reasoning behind your post would be nice.

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/4/2007 7:33:07 PM   
SeekerofPower


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No idea why you think Mfm is better biologically then Mff or whatever since you gave no reason. Most males are not bi so see no reason for a male slave even for non-sexual service. More reasoning behind your post would be nice.

MJ

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/4/2007 9:14:12 PM   
CuriousLord


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ORIGINAL: Kinkypupper

Would like your comments as to why there are so very few "Poly" familys where there would be a Male Master, a female slave and a male submissive/slave.


In my situation, I just don't care for another male.  I'm straight, and not into voyerism.  Why would I waste my time having another guy around?

I imagine a lot of others probably feel like this.

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ORIGINAL: Kinkypupper

It seems that biologically this would fit much better then the common Male-female-female.


How so?  In nature, one male to two females does seem more reproductive viable.  What would be the point of a second male?

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ORIGINAL: Kinkypupper

I know it happens in the gay community but why not in the BDSM one.


Because the male Masters have no reason to want another guy around?

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/4/2007 9:39:19 PM   
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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/5/2007 5:58:24 AM   
arayofsunshine55


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Status: offline 		One of these days.  I'd even enjoy he's dom, she's switch and he's switch.  Or he's dom, she's switch and he's dom.  And even...  It's finding the right other.  Oh and this wouldn't be an all under one rof kinda thing.  I am poly  but I don't do poly relationships.  Well not so far.

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/5/2007 6:58:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: marieToo

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

I  love  your new pic, sleazybutterfly. It's really cute.

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I have to second that.  (sorry for the tiny hijack)


Thank you, both...I appreciate it!

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I will tell you right now why I want a  MMf relationship in a blunt way.  I love sex, I enjoy sex, it is hard (no pun intended) for any man to keep up with my sex drive.  I am sorry, it's just a fact.  I want it multiple times a day, I need the sex, the contact, the act itself.  I enjoy having men around me, I enjoy the way they smell, the way they talk, and just the strength of their presence. 
 
I like women, I do enjoy being with women in many ways also...but if a man can't hardly keep up with me, how on earth will he keep up with another woman in the home?  I also know that most times the more women, the more drama.  It's hard, very hard, to find a situation where there isn't.  I love women, I love having them as friends, but I am very select in that process, which is why I have fewer, though more trusted friends in my circle. 
 
My Master is pretty good in that area (okay, very good), but heck..even he has to take a breather, work, or sleep . 
 
I don't want a Mfm type of thing, though I thought I did at one point.  Though I can be a controlling person, I don't want to control an individual. 
 
While it is true that a man can get multiple women preg, it is also true in most cases that a man can only go once then have to quit for a long time before doing it again.  If I had more than one man, I could have sex with both, one while the other rested, then that would raise my chances of getting preg..  Or that's just another way to look at it.
 
I just get tired of men saying that having more than one woman is natural, but having more than one man is not.  It's as natural as it feels to the two doing it, plain and simple.  I would much rather cuddle on the couch at night, or snuggle in bed between to hard male bodies, than fight for position with a female. 
 
Yes, I know it's not always like that, but I am using that as an example.  There are many healthy relationships on both sides, it's more the people involved than what their sex is.
 
 

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/5/2007 7:37:20 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kinkypupper

Would like your comments as to why there are so very few "Poly" familys where there would be a Male Master, a female slave and a male submissive/slave. It seems that biologically this would fit much better then the common Male-female-female.
I know it happens in the gay community but why not in the BDSM one.


I think the biggest issue at play here is that most people approach the lifestyle as mostly sexual.  For those of us that don't approach it from that angle, it doesn't matter the gender of the slave as much as the willingness and dedication of the slave. 
 
In the past, I successfully had a male slave and a male submissive at the same time.  Eventually it fell apart because I was not able to be the head.  I was in a bad car accident and had 2 years of recovery.  They were both bi which made it easier sexuallly but they were not permitted to have much sexual contact with each other.  The sub was mostly a worker and would be rewarded with various kinds of things (not always sexual).  Sometimes it was just being allowed to spend the night at the house with us and not be sent home.  Different stroke for different folks. 

I again want to build that type of relationship.  I would like to incorporate  a female or two into the mix as well.  I know it can work if EVERYONE is on the same page and enters the relationship(s) with the real understanding of what is going on.  Round table discussions with all involved is necessary.  When having relationships of this nature, everyone's input is a necessary quotient in the expression or it won't work.  The DOMINANT ultimately makes the final decision.....but she/he NEEDS to strongly consider the input from the rest of the family members.  Otherwise it is a recipe for disaster.

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RE: Poly relationships where there are 2 males - 8/5/2007 7:43:33 AM   
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My Master is pretty good in that area (okay, very good), but heck..even he has to take a breather, work, or sleep . 
 


Just "very good"?  We might have to talk about that tonight my little one.

My minx does have a very high sex drive.  I admit that it's one of the things I adore about her.  We have had some talks about adding someone to our home, either male or female.  I don't have any problem with another man in the home, I am very secure in our relationship.  I won't lie that it would be more fun for me if it were a woman though. 

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