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MHOO314 -> How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 4:58:13 AM)
I have found patience to be a virtue greatly lacking in petitioning submissives these days---they go to great lengths to pour out what they will do or what they want---I am very open about the activity of My life---I do not sit at home eating bon bons---I embrace life---I am very honest, " you have to be patient"--" I am not going to jump into anything with out geting to know you, you won't get My phone number immediately" ---and "I do not sit at the computer and wait for you to appear"---and yet it seems THEY want to direct the interactions--if I am not there, they get peod and storm off----what happened to taking one's time, growing the relationship, exploring and what the hell happened to people having real lives??

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 5:31:51 AM)
well, for me, i DID ride a blasted Greyhound clear across the country to visit a potential "Mistress" (after searching for over 10 years for one). that turned into a complete nightmare, so right now, i am having trust issues and will be taking a lot more time getting to know someone (i knew Her for months online and we talked on the phone quite frequently also) before going to such lengths to meet them. since it is apparent i don't fit into the mold of some of the local Mistresses here, they don't fit what i seek or they just don't even respond to even the kindest of greetings, it seems that looking outside of my city is my only option here. if it seems i'm a bit bitter, You're right. but i will back away from this subject.

littlesarbonn -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 6:39:34 AM)
I'm a strong believer in taking a long time to get to know someone. Just ask my teddy bear Edgar. He's been here in my place for nearly a decade now, and only now is he finally getting comfortable living with me. I wasn't sure he was going to fit in with the various penguins, frogs and other bears, but after a great deal of time, he's part of the family. So, I truly understand.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 7:02:18 AM)
While there are plenty of do-me subs and needy no life people online- there are just as many wanker manipulative doms who will ignore what they have made commitments to. Once again reason why people need to be clear on what their expectations and needs are, clear on what they will and won't commit to, and then hold to that.

earthycouple -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 7:14:19 AM)
Ah....lives. Where did mine go? Oh yes....when I started searching for a slave. No, wait. My life didn't end there. It ended with UMs and an MBA goal. Searching for a slave only took what was already dead and jumped up and down on it. I understand your question, OP. I don't happen to see it as an issue though. I've not come across people who feel I've neglected my "computer" duties for something else. I will say though, when I'm getting interested in someone online I do things like check in and let them know my expectations and what they can expect of me as we move forward. Every once in a while I break away from this computer to do things like go to the cook dinner, take my UMs to the park, grocery shop, or I may even do something like take a whole day and go to the zoo. Otherwise I pretty much am on the pc doing homework. (Currently it is Privacy in Direct Marketing). My list of "chat partners" is long right now. Long enough on messenger that I group them specifically so I don't forget which new contact is which. Damn I really am a geek. Now, there are about 4 people I would inform if I were going on hiatus and there are about 35 who I keep myself invisible to so they aren't bugging me unless I choose to be bugged. (They must really be peeved that I'm never around) The rest fit somewhere in between. So maybe it is not that my life is devoid of these pesky people but that I know how to handle them, in my own way, that is satisfactory to me.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 8:53:32 AM)
here is the problem.. people have forgotten the bonding process. While there is heavy pattern of kinky swingers because this is the in thing now to be kinky, the 60s redone yuckers they tried it and failed. I think people need own up to responsibility. some are just to lazy to do it. this not someone you want in your life. To me set standards by which you will accept someones behavior and not. after all its the things that make us feel good that we are attracted to... D's should be like a plant. some people are like roses others are like weeds so in a nut shell forget about em live life for you.. most are to stupid to see something great

LaTigresse -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 11:09:04 AM)
I find that very few tend to keep in touch after a dozen or so none wanker material emails. About what I expect from the net.

BossySSBBW -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 2:01:49 PM)
I would hope that whoever contacts me does a search on the area that I live in. This gives them an idea of what to expect of the job market, neighbors, shopping, parks, fun outside the home things. I would never consider someone entering my home I have only spoken to online, even if the conversations have been for years. Marriages have failed by living together for years and still not knowing the person. I would go slow, have the person I am considering to live independently from me, not in my home. We would have visits and overnights, but nothing on a daily basis for a while. I have to be able to have full trust in someone before I let them in my home or my life, much less my heart.

zumala -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 4:41:52 PM)
I'm sorry, totally off-topic, but... I've been off a few days and just now saw LaTigresse's new pic. WOW! Lookin' GOOD, Ma'am. If I may say so. [:)] zuma

WhiplashSmile -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 5:07:57 PM)
OH lord, this is so funny and true at the same time.

daddysliloneds -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 5:08:39 PM)
what happened? the internet happened! people hide behind false persona's; lie, cheat, etc., etc.... i have the patience of a saint, but i'll be damned if i'm going to spend eternity getting to know someone through e-mail, etc... i want a phone number, a name and a meeting sooner than later, and if i can't get that, i'm not going to waste my time; then again, i don't petition 'to belong to' or to be 'considered ' to belong to words on a screen.

KatyLied -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 5:32:00 PM)
I think that many people in our society, in general (regardless of lifestyle) have an abnormal need for instant gratification. They don't seem able or willing to allow things to develop. They don't understand the beauty of nurturing a relationship and they seem to want to rush through the "getting to know you" stage and immediately make a decision about suitability and compatibility. They don't have the patience to live life. It bothers me a lot. When people push me I go back to my default -- they must be desperate, or at least much more desperate than I am.

PsyVamp -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 5:45:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: earthycouple Ah....lives. Where did mine go? Oh yes....when I started searching for a slave. No, wait. My life didn't end there. It ended with UMs and an MBA goal. Searching for a slave only took what was already dead and jumped up and down on it. I understand your question, OP. I don't happen to see it as an issue though. I've not come across people who feel I've neglected my "computer" duties for something else. I will say though, when I'm getting interested in someone online I do things like check in and let them know my expectations and what they can expect of me as we move forward. Every once in a while I break away from this computer to do things like go to the cook dinner, take my UMs to the park, grocery shop, or I may even do something like take a whole day and go to the zoo. Otherwise I pretty much am on the pc doing homework. (Currently it is Privacy in Direct Marketing). My list of "chat partners" is long right now. Long enough on messenger that I group them specifically so I don't forget which new contact is which. Damn I really am a geek. Now, there are about 4 people I would inform if I were going on hiatus and there are about 35 who I keep myself invisible to so they aren't bugging me unless I choose to be bugged. (They must really be peeved that I'm never around) The rest fit somewhere in between. So maybe it is not that my life is devoid of these pesky people but that I know how to handle them, in my own way, that is satisfactory to me. OMG! You are Me! Its nice to know that I'm not the only one. Anyway. It is difficult to keep up communications between all of life, and I appreciate when a potential gives me a quick "Hi, where've you been" FRIENDLY email if he/she hasn't heard from me.. Heck, I have a half sister that I just remembered I haven't spoke to in a few weeks! Dang... Need to clone me I guess... One of me just for the correspondence. And to the OP, I noticed that a lot of people want to rush into things.. and some of them don't even give you an idea of who they are. ~Psy

Elorin -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 5:49:41 PM)
I'm willing to work just as hard as the person on the other end of the computer. If they are willing to write daily, I'll try to write daily. If they are only willing to write weekly, I'm only willing to write about weekly. I am not, however, willing to come home and spend hours on the computer every night, replacing my real life with a "cyber" relationship. If someone wants to spend time instant messaging with me and sets it up ahead of time, I'll try to be online at a scheduled time once or twice a week. I will not, however, go out of my way to be online every waking moment, turn down invitations to "in the flesh" activities in favor of online time, or in any way replace flesh socialization with online socialization. I will send an e-mail or instant message if I can't make a scheduled meeting, beforehand if possible but as soon afterwards as I can if I can't make it before hand. I will apologize if I wasn't able to tell someone that I couldn't be online beforehand, and I will accept if someone is going to be online to chat with me and can't make it. ~E

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: How hard are you willing to work (7/31/2007 6:03:26 PM)
if you do not work at it you will never respect it. if it is just given you will never value it

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