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Fantasies - 7/30/2007 6:38:35 PM

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Hi Everyone!

Butterfishmaniac here!

I was wondering how people developed their fantasies/ scenes. is it from books, movies, or usually innocent things that you pervert.
I understand that we all develop things in our heads but is their any external inspiration for the things you do.

I look for inspiration everywhere from Art - Like Alphonse Mucha, Books - like historical books on middle age torture technique, and rather worse books ( and please recognize, I know fantasy from reality it is called fantasy for a reason) even music.

I think it would be interesting to hear where others find their inspiration.

A forward/invasive question possibly but if it was easy what good would it be, if you stayed in your comfortable place.

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RE: Fantasies - 7/30/2007 6:58:28 PM

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"Butterfishmaniac?" Wow, you must really like black cod!

Scene inspiration seems to come as a byproduct of going through life with a perverse imagination. I get inspiration for SM activities by reading books that depict torture and cruelty, as you've mentioned--some emotional sadism ideas are gleaned from there, too. I get inspiration specifically for bondage and stress positions by going to the gym. Coming to sites like this is nice, and reading kinky blogs is fun, too. Porn is fun, of course, and occasionally inspirational. Pervertables are lovely inspiration in their own right--seeing some bizarre pokey-clampy hair accessory and realizing that that would fit very well in certain spots leads one to think about how to integrate it into a genitorture scene, and other contrasting and complementing sensations that would enhance the experience.

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RE: Fantasies - 7/30/2007 7:08:52 PM

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To the OP..I can imagine you can find it from just about any source..it does not necessarily have to be from erotica,porn or even movies with torture scenes. It can come from everyday interactions, from romance novels, from wandering through a store, coversations with your friends (even vanilla)..fantasies can even come from dreams...you just need an imagination to twist it into a suitable scenerio or idea..shoot even knowledge of mechanics can assist with you being able to convert something inocuous into something totally wicked!...Tempting

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RE: Fantasies - 7/30/2007 7:29:55 PM

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My fantasies seem to stem from several sources. When I was a kid, I was exposed to the history of Pompeii, and read avidly about it, and it's sister city Herculaneum. As a result, when I hit puberty, that information began to take hold of my hormone induced sex madness. Literally, I was writing out entire books of sexual fantasies that were all set within those cities at that time. (For a while, I held the belief that I may have been reincarnated, much the same way George S. Patton did.) Sadly, after I moved out of the house, my mother found those books and burned them. I think they were the first evidence my mother had that I was bisexual, and more than a little kinky. I don't remember much about that writing, except that in them I was a boy of about 16, and was bought at auction by an older man and his wife, whose profession was painting political slogans on walls throughout the city, and murals in private gardens. I was worked hard during the day, but in the evening I saw to both his wife's, and his, needs. Usually, it was just pleasing them both, in the bath, or in the bed, or sometimes being told to perform with some of the other house slaves for their entertainment. Most of the books detailed the day to day life of my rather odd alter ego. The strange thing was, many of those details were borne out by later reading. These fantasies faded as I began dating, and were suplanted by real life experiences.

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RE: Fantasies - 7/30/2007 7:34:06 PM

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Ours are from dreams. Angel has had dreams he remembers, where they may have come from we arent sure, and those have been the basis for our shared fantasies. That and real life, the way we interact and the motherly way I care for him has become the stuff of greater fantasies as well. Angel and I were separated for a long time, and weaving stories around our mutual fantasies made it far easier to stay focused on the future.

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RE: Fantasies - 7/30/2007 8:04:51 PM

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I love this question.. very thought provoking for me.. I swear, though I dont know the answer...

I just am in the thought and it goes.... . it is as if there is a little tickle and then my mind takes it to a whole other level... I know there is of course input of some kind as a foundation from .. images.. words creating thoughts....

I remember as a little girl.. under 10.. I found a neighbors fathers porn book.. I remember those women in that leather and domme flavor to the images.. and the shoes.. oh god.. the men were werid to me ..laying around and being stepped on.. but there was this one image that struck me and I can still see it today...27 years later.. she was on the stage.. the theatre filled with men..couples.. she was scooted to the edge and this little man with a bald head was eating her pussy..all you could see was the seedy theater.... the dingy audience .. and this hot sexy siren... in this gorgeous lingerie get up..stockings ..shoes.. legs spread .. everyone watching.. I remember it did something to me..still does.. see it with much more understanding today..

In touch.. when I use to do sessions... I use to have an idea of what I wanted to do with the background of my association with that person.. but once there...it was just what ever felt good.. in that space I am high.. I have never been on any drugs other than my domme space.. (smoked a few joints in college and h.s. yes) but that domme space I go..that is my drug... I have to shake it off when I come out sometimes....I am not talking after orgasm rush..its after intense domme space... ...

some subjects of play entertain me.. some choke me and take me to that space I am talking about..preferences-- just there.

great question Butterfishmaniac-- me too with music.. play Nina Simone.. "feeling good" and I go into a slithering ...lustful state...... I cant sit or stand still.. my head moves slowly... and its in me... there are other songs....but that one...oh dear... it actually turns me on like a swtich.... it is pure sensuality and desire....-- it pops the kooochie...

think naughty and go listen...ooh mm... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HZGq8JO1fY8 loud though.... let it touch you.

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RE: Fantasies - 7/30/2007 9:01:52 PM

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Black Cod, Actually I am not that big a fan of fish, I just thought man that name just sounds funny and rolls off the lips in a crazy sort of way.
very cool, I thikn everyday life is an excellent inspiration for perverting the non-perverted as they say. Very cool

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RE: Fantasies - 7/30/2007 9:07:51 PM

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very nice, I thikn all the best fantasies seem to come from our childhood experience and then tend to morph into somehitng different or better than we were kids. However, its that spark that comes from the childhood expereince that charges us and drives us to what we love.

Is that bad , nope, its fun. Thanks everyone.

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RE: Fantasies - 7/30/2007 9:25:45 PM

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I have no idea, they are just kinda there. I really don't "fantasize" in terms of having a storyline or full scene set up. I tend to just have flashes of movement and ideas and passionate feelings included in them.

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RE: Fantasies - 7/31/2007 1:03:48 AM

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Yup the Inquisition wrote the book on it, as did Betty Page, most supervillians, every movie made for adults...

But the best way to really make it work, is to ask your subbie after subspace, after the after-care, what is the one fantasy that they would want you to wave your magic wand and do.
They may look meek and mild, but most subbies have an aching burn within them, that they don't share with others because they don't think they'll understand. It may vary, but as fanstasies go, they consider it to be theirs.
Let it free, let them be ridden by it, and they will float out into the world with the knowledge that anything is possible

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RE: Fantasies - 7/31/2007 2:29:25 AM

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here is me following da Rafters around again. hee hee.

this is a good post butterfishmaniac. the responses are very cool.

i have vivd serious fantasies. i can get triggered by one word. i have many many fantasies. it kinda scares me actually. some have been ongoing for years changing slightly or evoling somehow. devolving too.

i have not found anyone so far that i feel would want to know about my fantasies or that i feel i can go into detail about them wif. i long too tho. to feel safe enuf to let that part of me out. to have someone interested in wut i got goin on.

i was in a chat the other day and they had a game goin on, "hotseat" ya got 5 minutes each, take turns and everyone fires q's at you. you try and answer as many as possible. since i had no real life experience really to fess to.. i had no "wierd" thing to share, they started to ast me about my fantasies. my palms were sweating the whole time i was in da hotseat. i told one fantasy quickly in da heat of da moment. i shocked myself later that i had.

oh that reminds me of a story ima tell...

i was about 20 nuthin and ridin up north wif my bf in da backset, his sister drivin and their friend sittin beside her as we rode out to her folks place. for fun someone ast da q, 'wut is a dream you have?' silly, silly me answered, "to fuck my way around europe". the q went around da car and they were all like, "to fall in love and have a family." sheesh i felt sooo humiliated by myself. they all went on to have families and me i have not yet been to europe but i kinda hope i dont fuck my way around it like a ho but wif one man would be nice. heehee.

i long to have someone to share these places in me and be okay and safe as wild as they are, my fantasies.

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