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Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wonder w... - 7/30/2007 1:55:35 PM

littlesarbonn

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Just another one of those posts that I figure might generate some thought. As usual, I shall write the basic introductory material, such as that at one time I used to be really into prison scenes, involving a very strict environment, kept by a woman who loves absolute control over me. Well, for about three years, I lived in exactly that. It was exactly what I had sought for more years than I can remember (which means I can't remember a lot, more than it means it was a lot of years). So, like a lot of relationships, we eventually went our separate ways.

Since then, I've found myself in a weird quandary in that I don't really know what to fantasize about anymore. I mean, I keep going back to the old fantasy, but to be honest, I've been there, did that, had the t-shirt ripped from my body. So, my question to you all, is twofold (which means I folded it twice...strange language we have here in this country):

1. Have you ever managed to achieve your ultimate sexual/fetish fantasy, and if so, does it still remain your ultimate sexual/fetish fantasy.

2. If the answer to Number 1 is "Yes, I achieved it, but it is not now my ultimate sexual/fetish fantasy", then did something else replace the fantasy, or did you end up with nothing? If the answer to Number 1 is "littlesarbonn is a total moron, and God/Goddess, I wish the moron would just stop posting or go back to the planet he came from" then Press 2 on your phone. If the answer to Number 1 is "Oh man, littlesarbonn is the hunk I've been waiting for my whole life and I just HAVE TO HAVE HIM," please press 3 on your phone and/or leave him a message through collarme's message service.

3. Do you ever feel the need to add extra numbers because you ran out of things to say when using the first two choices?

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 1:57:41 PM

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No, it would be highly inappropriate, unethical, and cause far too many negative consequences for me to live out some of my ultimate fantasies.

But I have had many fantasies fulfilled- some were better, some were worse and some were just plain off the wall compared to what I'd expected.

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 2:02:33 PM

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I have been fortunate to live out a number of "Top 10" sexual fantasies from my list, but number 1 is still elusive. My reaction to most of the others has been, "WOW! Cool! - can't wait to do it again!" and a couple have gotten the "Well, I never have to do that again."

Many have remained as part of the fantasy realm and will never see the light of day - just like that elusive Number 1...

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 2:03:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

No, it would be highly inappropriate, unethical, and cause far too many negative consequences for me to live out some of my ultimate fantasies.

But I have had many fantasies fulfilled- some were better, some were worse and some were just plain off the wall compared to what I'd expected.

I gotta go with LA. To fulfill my biggest fantasies would either be physically impossible, not within the realms of reality or plain unethical.

Simulating them has been pretty good to me though. I can honestly say that we have yet to get bored of "replaying" a scene.

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 2:07:51 PM

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Yea, I am currently living out my ultimate fantasies. What I fantasized about for decades, what I wrote about in my p0rn--I mean erotica--my heart's desire. It's off the hook good, and I so far all I want is more of the same.

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 2:09:02 PM

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My hard wired fantasies are here to stay. The ones that will always remain fantasy because they are too extreme are one thing, but the ones that I have acted out, I see as totally new when I do them with a different person. Different person can mean a totally different perspective. Surely if you had the opportunity to relive the fantasy you described with a woman you found more intoxicating and exciting than the first, you would want to do it? Why not. Chances are, it would not be the same.

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 2:12:27 PM

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I wouldn't want to live out my ultimate fantasy, there would be too many dangers and investigations and I'd be far too scared! Other fantasies I never expected to realise are starting to be explored in reality and so far they are nothing like I imagined them to be. Not better not worse but more intense. And I do want more and more and more!!

I had the worry that once I started on this lifestyle which I've always fantasised about, I would feel let down and think "oh shit well if that's not gonna do it for me what is??"But fortunately it worked out nicely. But I imagine if I lived out the one or two things that I can always rely on to turn me on baby, then they would loose their magic because nothing in reality can ever be as good as it is in my head. So in that sense I would feel like you littlesarbonn.

Meant to say, interesting subject by the way!

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 2:14:25 PM

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As LA said.........a few of mine will not ever be realized.

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 2:19:07 PM

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yea....some of mine will have to stay fantasies......until lots of laws and morals get changed at least...

the fantasies I have been able to live out...some of them didnt live up to expectations...anticipation was great...moment not so great....

Some of them, Id love to do over and over again.....

As time goes by, some fantasies become more or less important, sometimes new ones pop into my mind and other fall behind...

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 2:25:08 PM

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Well, maybe this isn't a good comparison to what you stated, but I did manage to do some low-level Ponyplay with my ex-Dominant, (even though he wasn't that "into" the idea, he "indulged" me a few times). Ponyplay is something that I can imagine myself doing as a Domme, as well as a submissive, and I really love the idea of it. Doing it (even with "home-made" equipment, and on a very "beginner"-type of level), only fueled my fantasy and desire to do it on a more involved and complex level.

I want to do it again sometime for sure - however, I am not sure if that will happen soon - since it seems to be the kind of BDSM activity only a few are interested in (maybe this is something it has in common with "prison scenes", I am not sure, that seems kind of specialized as an area as well, although maybe it's not. I personally think it's kind of "hot").

I've heard people complain that Pony play can be "expensive" (equipment, etc.) but to me, it isn't any more costly than say, buying a high-quality flogger would be, or some other piece(s) of high quality, non-Pony play-oriented "toys" would be).

- Susan

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 2:27:19 PM

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I lived out most of my realistic fantasies and crave more of those experiences, anything unrealistic, can't be absolute (or ultimate to me) because I want to experience them.

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 2:35:12 PM

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quote:

Have you ever managed to achieve your ultimate sexual/fetish fantasy

My ultimate sexual fantasy? No, I haven't. But for me it's not because it's "immoral" or"unethical" but because it's simply illegal here.

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 2:51:28 PM

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I've never had regret over fulfilling a fantasy, and amazingly enough....new ones consistantly pop into my mind.

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 3:11:39 PM

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Interesting. i don't really see losing a fantasy just because it's been fulfilled. i would assume, if it lasted for several years, that it was not a disappointment. Did you burn out on the experience?

Do you feel that a fantasy needs to have an element of the unknown/unexplored/forbidden to really be tasty?

i've had issues with realizing long-held fantasies, only to be disappointed by the experience for various reasons... some fantasies vanished from the trauma, others remain... It's hard to imagine getting "too much of a good thing" to the point of no longer wanting it at all, but i'm always willing to give it a shot

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 3:58:45 PM

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Fast reply.

Yes.

But upon achieving My ultimate fantasy, it opens a door to the path of another.

As broad as I like to think My imagination is, I don't think I'll be running out of ideas any time soon.

Now.. where can I find a well-hung true hermaphrodite? :-D

(edited for spelling)

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 4:14:23 PM

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1. As much as I hate to admit it I agree with Instynctive, each time I fulfilled a fantasy another has been there to take its place.
2. 2
3. I have done it many times

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 4:24:08 PM

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I'm not sure i could ever really go through with my ultimate fantasy. The risks are too great and i am afraid the experience would not be what i imagine, so i'll keep that for lonely nights alone with BOB. But i have been able to incorporate some aspects of my fantasies into reality and they do make things much sweeter.

I have to echo the thought that perhaps a similar fantasy with someone else would do it for you...or perhaps you have not explored far enough to have developed another ultimate yet...On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with being satisfied, satiated with particular fantasy and not having a desire to repeat or mar that memory either...

good questions as usual sar

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 4:34:43 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

As LA said.........a few of mine will not ever be realized.

I agree. Some of mine should never be brought to life.

So they will remain the ultimate fantasies.

MC

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 4:44:28 PM

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I must be boring. I seem to make my fantasies come to fruition because they are not unobtainable, illegal, immoral or unethical. Now I'm sad. *S*

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RE: Ever live out your absolute fantasies and then wond... - 7/30/2007 5:13:43 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Phin

1. As much as I hate to admit it I agree with Instynctive, each time I fulfilled a fantasy another has been there to take its place.
2. 2
3. I have done it many times

My new fantasy: To yank on Phin's beard.

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