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Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 1:20:14 PM

goodgirl85

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So, I know that it is not an uncommon thing for females to NOT orgasm during vaginal intercourse. However, from I have been told it is usually because her partner is not hitting her g-spot.

I have never really orgasmed through intercourse. I have had really really small waves of pleasure or whatever you want to call them. Just thought no one was hitting my spot. My last partner however, upon having tied to his coffee table, found it, and I knew he had because I had that "I have to pee really bad" feeling that I had heard about, but after that passed I just felt pressure, no thrill, no waves of pleasure or anything....

Is it normal for a girls g spot to be so unsensitive?

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 1:31:06 PM

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i don't think there is enough experience with g-spot stiumlation research to define normal and abnormal...but personally. i believe that we can train ourselves out of fully experiencing a sensation...pleasure, pain, whatever...so for me it would be a matter of figuring out how things got "disconnected" and reconnect them...to way over simplify it...
however make sure there is nothing physical going on...common things are not enough circulation due to any number of illnesses and anti-depressants amongst other meds...

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 1:31:33 PM

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Gspot is not an orgasm button, some women it drives them nuts, some it doesn't do much for them at all. You sound like the second case. Basically, you and your partner should be focusing on your clitoris if you're trying to have orgasms during intercourse. It's there for a reason, use it.

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 1:34:18 PM

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Some women are not vaginally sensitive. Maybe not a vast majority, but not an incredibly small amount either. Some need more clitoral stimulation, or different angles. Sounds like you might be a squirter. My first lover introduced me to female ejaculation, and it sounds like you might be a natural as well. Might be worth a little investigation; I find my orgasms really intense if I squirt. Granted, most guys call me an easy O girl, but just throwing out a possibility there.

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 1:38:44 PM

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best way to find out is to stimulate it yourself,, for then you know ,, how , where, what , it feels and such,,,
adn thus you know ,, and can guide yourself if you must,,
but also know that the majority of woman usually climax from Clitorial Stimulation and not vaginal ,, unless they can do it for themselves,, or so most of the books and studies i have read have stated,, but the best ones to answer this question would be the ladies

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 1:41:43 PM

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I would recommend that you get yourself a really good G spot vibrator and practice on your own. It helps if at the moment you feel that "gotta pee" feeling, you relax your pelvic floor muscles.

Oh and....not all orgasms from intercourse are a result of G spot stimulation.

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 1:47:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I would recommend that you get yourself a really good G spot vibrator and practice on your own. It helps if at the moment you feel that "gotta pee" feeling, you relax your pelvic floor muscles.

Oh and....not all orgasms from intercourse are a result of G spot stimulation.

on that note ,, one of my old sub/slaves, was able to relax and had the most intense orgasims ever and well thus she began to have female ejaculations,, which i might add were great for the booth of us,, and to this day she still has them,,,,, for she was able to train herself to do it ,,

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 1:59:07 PM

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Most women need direct regular clitorial stimulation in order to orgasm.

The gspot is not, in fact, the same in every woman. This would be common sense you'd think.

There are also OTHER sensitive areas in a womans vagina/vulva which can be as intense or more than the g spot, depending on the woman.

Keep exploring and trying different methods, speed, pressures, toys. The fun is in the exploration- keep focused on that and the rest will follow.

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 2:08:21 PM

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I've found that going for the g-spot only worked when I was at that "I'm almost there-I'm almost there-almost-almost" frustrating point of being ready to come and it put me over the top. But if you just start banging on it right away, it's like you described: gotta pee-gotta pee-well, that was nice, but.,.....

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 3:29:52 PM

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Some women I've known don't have very sensitive g-spots. Others have sensitivity, but the feelings from their g-spot don't seem pleasurable to them.

I always thought the reason most women didn't orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone was because it doesn't involve direct, focused clitoral stimulation--the same reason most men don't orgasm from things that don't involve their penises.

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 3:59:45 PM

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I see from your profile that you are only 22 years old. For what it's worth, I do think that for some females, age has something to do with the ability to orgasm from intercourse. I consider myself a highly sexual person, and I did not have an orgasm with a partner via intercourse until I was in my mid-thirties.

Until then, unless I was masturbating, I was unable to have one (thank God I was a fairly good at "faking it" until then. Maybe I should be ashamed to admit that, but I'm not, hehe.)

And that really didn't have much to do with unsatisfactory partners, I don't think (I liked my partners, and was attracted to them, and enjoyed our encounters, got aroused, etc. I just didn't orgasm from intercourse) . For some reason, in my mid-thirties, I just became a lot more able to orgasm via intercourse.

Not that you have to wait that long. Others here probably have advice on how to make it happen now, so I'd listen to them. I know the clitoris is an important spot. I think I do have a "G-spot", and that maybe a partner of mine has hit it, I am not sure - but I know sex feels more thrilling for me now than it did in my twenties. I know I can orgasm now, and I am 47 years old. So there is hope, probably, for you. I'd had the kind of advice at your age, that others are offerring here, I probably would have followed it. Good luck.

- Susan

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 7:35:52 PM

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For me vaginal and clitoral orgasms are different, but equally pleasurable. The clitoral are more "intense" in a brief omg sort of way, but the vaginal are the ones that wipe me out. Not all intercourse leads to vaginal orgasms, or at least not the intense kind, but when it does it's a spectacular event and we both appreciate it. I do sometimes follow that with a good clitoral orgasm using my bullet after my partner has cum. He loves watching that too as he relaxes after. Of course there are also the times when he uses a large dildo on me and the erocilator... now that's the best...good thing he enjoys that too

Sorry....got a little off track there... the point being you need to explore yourself and take time to learn what works and what doesn't for you. Each cock affected me differently as well as positioning. Different positions for different bodies cause different sensations. Experiment and have fun. And never feel like either of you is failing if it isn't perfect. A good fuck without climax is better than no fuck at all (in our book anyhow)

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 9:32:24 PM

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I am not sure that thinking about a "norm" is very useful. You are who you are. What gets you off does. And that is fine and good. We are all a bit different. ANd the great sexual partner works to understand those differences and capitalize on them.

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/29/2007 9:45:57 PM

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Everyones body is different so there's no normal. I almost always orgasm several times during sex because of gspot stimulation (I think he goes past it and then some weird particular move that gets me to orgasm from it with enough hard stimulation). But I can't really have a gspot orgasm unless I've had other (usually clitoral) orgasms. Then my body somehow gets primed and ready for it. So even though I can orgasm from it, I have to be worked up towards it.

So you may want to try different techniques to see if the stimulation from the gspot feels good.

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/30/2007 5:51:20 AM

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I have experienced the same thing, I think that it's pretty normal. I am just not a penetration girl

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/30/2007 1:30:34 PM

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I too can relate. I do believe it is normal, even as frustrating as it may be. For years I could only climax from clitoral stimulation. I started researching the g spot, and squirting....and I discovered that I could indeed. A good shower head works wonders, though that's not really getting the g-spot. My husband can get me to the gotta pee stage, after multiple orgasms from oral sex. This is while still going down on me, and using his 2 fingers in a pulling towards him motion up against the g- spot. That's as far as we can get, and we are still working on it. If you can get yourself really relaxed, and worked up...try a comfortable couch with nice lighting, a hot movie...and a rabbit vibrator. Sit back and relax, with your feet up on your coffee table and see what happens. The one piece of advice I got, was don't stop, keep going....unless you are in pain of course. When you feel like you have to pee...squeeze your pelvic muscles. It is a rare day that I can accomplish this, but I have done it on occassion. They say to keep practicing, and it will come easier. Remember, REALLY relax your mind, and be really worked up. Good luck!

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/30/2007 6:56:50 PM

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I came like gangbusters before i ever knew what a g-spot was. i like a good balance of stim between my top 3 spots: clit, urethra, and g-spot. Wearing one spot out is the # 1 way to wear out my interest.

I do energy healing work and often an inorgasmic or not-sensitive pussy or penis has an owner who has walled off sensation in that area for various un-distinguished deep personal reasons.

Deep-breath meditation and yoga help to connect a person to the sensations in their body. So does Feldenkrais. Letting your partner do non-sexual massage with no expectations except that you will feel good and relaxed can also help if done over time.

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/30/2007 7:07:10 PM

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Goodgirl85,

There are a few different orgasms that can be obtained so this might be a reason for confusion.
The vaginal intercourse orgasm is actually very rare among women. It is said that only 10% of the female population can do this.
Then one has the g-spot orgasm, sometimes it can be hard to find, sometimes it just screams out as soon as it touches, basically think of it as a bundle of nerves that fire upon touching a specific area usually on the upper wall curving inward against the vaginal wall (ok sorry have a little trouble describing this exactly) that is why you will usually find g-spot toys to be curved rather then straight like a vibrator.
And yes they do make g-spot vibratos....!!!!!

You have girls that can orgasm through nipple play, that the nipples are so sensitive escstacy can be reached with the suckling and fondeling of that sensitive region, and then even a rarity, but is possible, you have Masters who have conditioned their girls with pavlovian conditioning, and intense training those who have the mind body connection to Cum on command!!!

You asked is it normal for the g-spot to be unsenstive, answer is YES. It is totally normal. Reason being a lot of people cant find the g-spot. Another reason is that they are focusing so much on that explosive reaction of trying to find the g-spot that mentally they are not letting go to enjoy the sensations around feeling it.
Yes there are really those out there who focus so much on orgasm that they are actually preventing themselves from achieving it. They are not letting go and melting to the sensations that they are experiencing instead left with a frustration of not being able to have that feeling.

As far as "peeing really badly" yes that is one symptom of a g-spot orgasm, some have felt that, others may feel a cramping as well. Different girls have different reactions to it.
If i may suggest, try having your Master/partner/lover use a g-spot toy, if not manually finding it and see what happens. You never know, just maybe you will get that one time feeling again, and this time you will crave it over and over...

Good luck goodgirl85,
Sincerely,
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RE: Is it normal? - 7/31/2007 2:09:54 PM

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Have never had a vaginal orgasm. If I have a g-spot, no one including me has ever found it. I do have amazing clitoral orgasms. I can have prolonged orgasms or multiple ones as long as they are clitoral. So I tell men all the time a penis is only good for me to torture you .... heeheehee.

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RE: Is it normal? - 7/31/2007 2:19:05 PM

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MY OPINION FOLLOWES:

Trying to orgasm without clitoral stimulation is like a guy trying to orgasm without stimulating the head of his penis.

If you have a "vaginal" orgasm, I bet it's due to the clitoris being stimulated by the stroking done.

If a guy who thinks that all he has to do is "ram it home hard and fast" and you'll cum, it's a sure sign he's an inexperienced lover.

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