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RE: How long? - 7/21/2007 5:43:13 AM   
Littlepita


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quote:

The current relationship I share with Himself is in the neighborhood of twelve years with no end in sight. It's 95% perfect, 3% what the fuck and 2% pinch me I must be dreaming because being pretty much stupid-happy all the time wasn't in any of the manuals I read on real life.  That 3% what the fuck is what keeps it all honest for us.

Celeste


Celeste, I seriously love the way you phrase things! If you don't mind, I will take your percentages because so far they fit perfectly with my relationship to my incredible Master.

Daddy and I have been together for a little over 2 1/2 years. I have been permanently collared since June 19th of this year. I know in my heart and soul that he is the one for me and I won't be going anywhere.

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RE: How long? - 7/21/2007 6:11:47 AM   
Kidsphoenixx


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Status: offline 		I have been with Master just over 4 years....married to him almost 4 years. He was my first  and only BDSM experience, first and only Master, and his collar is my first and only one.
It will end only when he releases me.


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RE: How long? - 7/21/2007 6:26:24 AM   
Wildfleurs


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

You have SUCH a dirty mind!  I mean how long have your bdsm relationships lasted and how did it end?

I have had the handful of one night/week/month relationships but my only collared submissive and I were together more or less for three years, ended badly, it was sort of like the most blissful car wreck you can imagine, half bliss have rendering boyd parts.

My ex and I a bit long longer, over three years, started off ugly, I got better and it became pretty wonderful and we split because she wanted children and I didn't.  We are still dear friends and talk often.

The relationship I am in now is about four months old and wonderful  A few fights but they have been handled pretty much drama free and have led to being closer and more intimate but more importantly worked out the kinks in our communication in ways that greatly reduce friction and enhance us.  All is going well, I see her again in less than two weeks. Together there are no problems.


My owner is my first owner and I've been with him for nine and a half years, but I did have short term BDSM relationships that were a few months of dating and maybe playing. 

C~


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RE: How long? - 7/21/2007 6:46:57 AM   
SlND3R3LLA


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Status: offline 		I had my shorter ones in the beginning when I first started out.  Some would last days, or a few play sessions, some might even make it a month or so.  The one I am in now has been a year, he is the first one I have been collared to, and the first man I have ever married.  We really love each other and are very happy, hopefully he will be the one I grow old with.
 
Sin

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RE: How long? - 7/21/2007 9:17:26 AM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I have been enslaved to my Master for three years, collared to him for 2 1/2.  He is my first "r/t" Master (I submitted online to a Dom off & on for 4 years prior to that, which taught me a lot but, well, was not r/t).  I don't see an end in sight, and as he has said, as long as I keep pleasing him, he doesn't, either.

But I'd increase the "what the fuck" percentage to somewhere closer to 10!   He is awesome, but a challenge, no doubt!

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RE: How long? - 7/21/2007 10:52:55 AM   
Laure


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Status: offline 		Married for 19 years, poly, and our Other was with us for 8 years.  He left us a couple of months ago without a word of explanation to go live with a vanilla woman.  I still have the collar, but........

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RE: How long? - 7/21/2007 2:00:32 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		Our marriage is going on 34 years this August.
 
My D/s (different person) is going on 11 years.

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RE: How long? - 7/21/2007 2:08:46 PM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		My first few actual D/s relationships were rather short, 5-6 months at the tops, had a few in there when I was young and learning to differenciate D/s from abuse that averaged 1-2 months. I have had the same Mentor for almost 7 years now, I am not collared to Him in anyway, but I am a member of his household and he holds a special place in my heart. Before I met my current Sir, I think 18 months is the longest D/s (or any) relationship I ever had. Sir and I have been together now for a little over 4 years and I hope I continue to please him for many many more.

ghita~

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RE: How long? - 7/21/2007 3:13:03 PM   
ELUSIVE1


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My first d/s was rocky, but on and off for 3 years...we are still friends, talk from time to time...
second lasted 9 months
the last most recent, well 6 weeks....hey that is almost embarrasing to write...


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RE: How long? - 7/23/2007 3:01:22 AM   
sierraflowr


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From: Northern California
Status: offline 		i haven't really had any conssistent relatiships albet play so i couldn not say. if you count topping my husband 3 years.
i am not devoid of experience just haven't been in the position to have a long term

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RE: How long? - 7/23/2007 3:54:56 AM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		The live-in relationships have varied between 8 months and 7 years (and another for 5 years totals about 13 years).  The non-live-in relationships have not always been as lengthy.  Probably the shortest there was 6 months or so.

In every instance where there was an esteablished relationship (those not counting meeting someone for a time or two to determine compatibility), I ended the relationship.

The relationship I'm in now, long-distance (a first for me), we've been seeing each other for 4 months, will be living together within another 2 I hope (or my stuff will have been packed a LONG time), and expect this one to be very enduring.

Jeff

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RE: How long? - 7/23/2007 10:51:43 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Laure

Married for 19 years, poly, and our Other was with us for 8 years.  He left us a couple of months ago without a word of explanation to go live with a vanilla woman.  I still have the collar, but........



don't you know the sixties are over. I just do not get the poly thing.. but thats my point of view.. It is like the human mind is so vast the it takes a lifetime to explore that you can not do that with one person.
maybe it is sexual boredom  shrugs

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RE: How long? - 7/23/2007 10:57:42 AM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		It physically lasted only a few short months.  It will live in my heart for the rest of my life.  It ended because life is life and we have to live it as it comes to us. There is no anger, no animosity, no hatred, no incompatablity with each other.  Our life with each other was wonderful.  Every moment he is gone is a moment I gain strength.  Every moment he is gone is another moment closer to our phone calls and emails.  We will never, ever, under any circumstance lose each other completely. I love you, Robert.  Be well always.

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RE: How long? - 7/23/2007 11:25:49 AM   
greeneyes1962


Posts: 117
Joined: 9/7/2005
Status: offline 		Previously, I've only had play partners. As I've said before, I wasn't looking for a LTR
when I met Master. Things just fell together for us.

I've now known him 2 years the end of this month, and he says he will be collaring me
soon.

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RE: How long? - 7/23/2007 12:31:50 PM   
BeingChewsie


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R and I have been together 7 years and 5 months.

Before that I did a short stint in a contractual service submissive position but I would not call that a relationship. Then shortly after that contract ended I met R.

Before that I was with the same man I dated since high school(and was married too) and tried exploring BDSM with him but he was submissive and wanted me to run the relationship.


quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

You have SUCH a dirty mind!  I mean how long have your bdsm relationships lasted and how did it end?

I have had the handful of one night/week/month relationships but my only collared submissive and I were together more or less for three years, ended badly, it was sort of like the most blissful car wreck you can imagine, half bliss have rendering boyd parts.

My ex and I a bit long longer, over three years, started off ugly, I got better and it became pretty wonderful and we split because she wanted children and I didn't.  We are still dear friends and talk often.

The relationship I am in now is about four months old and wonderful  A few fights but they have been handled pretty much drama free and have led to being closer and more intimate but more importantly worked out the kinks in our communication in ways that greatly reduce friction and enhance us.  All is going well, I see her again in less than two weeks. Together there are no problems.


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RE: How long? - 7/23/2007 12:39:09 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		I collared my slave babygirl over three years ago, and married her a little over two years ago.

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RE: How long? - 7/23/2007 2:00:23 PM   
hana20


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Status: offline 		about 2 years..

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RE: How long? - 7/23/2007 5:58:32 PM   
Mystique567


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ORIGINAL: earthycouple

It physically lasted only a few short months.  It will live in my heart for the rest of my life.  It ended because life is life and we have to live it as it comes to us. There is no anger, no animosity, no hatred, no incompatablity with each other.  Our life with each other was wonderful.  Every moment he is gone is a moment I gain strength.  Every moment he is gone is another moment closer to our phone calls and emails.  We will never, ever, under any circumstance lose each other completely. I love you, Robert.  Be well always.


That brought tears.

My one and only collar was for 2 years, my release was because he fell for a vanilla woman. We remain the best of friends and I wish him well.

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RE: How long? - 7/23/2007 6:17:59 PM   
Faramir


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Status: offline 		10 years, and it ended in divorce.  Truth be told though, our last 4 years were more like occaisonal BDSM sex, not a PE relationship. 

We lost our groove.

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RE: How long? - 7/23/2007 6:32:49 PM   
SexyRed


Posts: 529
Joined: 8/19/2004
Status: offline 		First BDSM relationship, lasted 4 years. Second, lasted 2. Then I got married and while he tried to be Dominant, he could not fulfill me. Married 10 years.

Then my longest was 8 years, my ex boyfriend/Dom. It ended last August and since then, short term dating/play relationships, which are not my first choice, but sometimes needs must be met.

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