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RE: roles and scenes - 7/21/2007 1:32:27 PM

lateralist1

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Thankyou LadyPact.
Yes it should be fun shouldn't it.
Unfortunately it hasn't been a lot of fun for me yet but I live in hope.
Maybe I just always attract the wrong men.
Or am attracted to the wrong men.
Anyway I'm glad you are having fun
Take care

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RE: roles and scenes - 7/21/2007 7:07:46 PM

LadyHeart

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When it comes to BDSM, we have two rules: it must be safe and it must be fun.
"Play" covers the second rule nicely, because if we're not enjoying it, why are we doing it?

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RE: roles and scenes - 7/22/2007 3:49:05 AM

lateralist1

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I do it because I enjoy it. It satisfies every part of me. I have to take too many risks in vanilla life to get the same buzz .Or spend too much effort and money on it. Skiing beyond my ability. Breaking an Arab stallion Writing a book. Playing the stock market. Diving etc. However the problem has always been finding someone that I really want to do it with. It's the same with any activity. Finding someone compatable, caring and diverse enough that I actually want to spend quality time with.
My vanilla life is ok now. The 'lifestyle' has helped me solve most of my emotional problems. Coming 'out' helped with that. The stress of trying to behave as other people thought I should had made me into an emotional wreck. I spent most of my early childhood resisting attempts to try and get me to wear a bloody dress and play with a doll. A cowboy outfit, a bow and arrow, a gun, a whip and a pen knife were my toys. I had to do cooking at school instead of metal work. I could already cook better than the teacher. Has anything changed that much? I went into Education to try and change things the system beat me. I fostered a child when I couldn't have my own. The system treated me like shit. I went into Social Work to try and change that. They sacked me. I now want to be the first openly BDSM person in politics lol. I don't think I have a lot of chance do you? I get sick of trying to change the world on my own. You only get one life and I'm trying to enjoy mine. Oh and now because I smoke I can't meet in hotels anymore. So it looks as if I am going to have to find my own accomodation. More expense that I can't afford. I could become a pro Domme I suppose. But I think it might spoil it for me. No way can I do what I want to do with a client. I went to one munch and scared the living daylights out of them. As a bottom I took the most pain that the Dom had ever given out in 20 years or so he said. And now I have probably frightened off any sub on this site who reads this. Ah well that's life I suppose.

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RE: roles and scenes - 7/23/2007 7:50:19 PM

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Mistress Sassy are you talking about your clients when you talk about your submissives? If so then what a great way to make a living lol.
If not do you have a personal relationship with them outside BDSM activities?
This is my other problem.
I want the whole thing a complete relationship.
Whereas men only want to meet me for BDSM 'play'.
It's like it's the only thing about me that interests them.
Actually I've just realised there are vanilla men who only want women for one thing as well lol.

I dont get a chance to always get online so I know this is a couple days late
but I wanted to answer your question.

Yes I guess you could call them clients but I prefer submissives or better yet
worms.
Some are strictly Professional (submissives),I dont see them often and then there are regulars they join the worm farm.
I have had relationships with some as friends,like going for motorcycle rides and dinners etc. A couple were a lil more,(had thoughts of a Poly type thing) those were a mistake they had a hard time with being second to My Punk.The whole jealousy thing.
Even if it ends in just a friendship,I have gained something from the relationship and thats what I value most.
I havent given up on finding someone for a live-in situation,the right person
will come along when the time is right.

I hope that answers your questions.

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