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RE: Daddy..... - 7/6/2007 12:03:12 PM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		i don't know about anyone else but i grew up hearing my grandmother refer to her husband and father as Daddy...in fact its been a point of confusion thats usually straightened out with more details in the story (ie. her husband was never a share cropper and her father never flew a plane or lived in Mason) now i don't know what they used in the bedroom...in fact i am pretty sure if i asked my grandma...she would tell me...but i don't want to know...so from my personal experience, i would say that not calling your husband Daddy or not attaching your before saying Daddy (as in "your Daddy will be home soon") is a fairly recent development, but thats just me....

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/6/2007 12:27:43 PM   
dovie


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Status: offline 		Greetings Ghita,
 
Thank you for sharing what I have intepreted as a wonderful warm experience. As for me....
 
This is my opinion alone. I did not borrow it, steal it, nor was it given to me. It will not hold up in anyone's court; no trial by jury, no microscopic scrutinization. It is mine alone:
 
Daddy?   *****PERK
 
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RE: Daddy..... - 7/6/2007 12:48:21 PM   
charismagirrl


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Status: offline 		It is and has become extremely normal to me, it is ALL i have ever called my Master (except for maybe twice when i used the actual word Master)

Although it is totally normal to me, it is his "name" basically, there are alot of times when the word just brings about a special feeling within me. Sometimes it is warm and fuzzy and cozy other times it is sweet and giggly...it really depends on the situation at the time as well as how he is being and/or how i am being/feeling at the time.

Then of course there are those times when it is said with a semi pout, or knowing that i really can't control what's happening and all i can say is "yes Daddy." (like when i was younger and my Mom would tell me to go do homework or something and i would've rather been doing something else)

Also, for me, i never had a father person so my Daddy is the embodiment of that too.


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RE: Daddy..... - 7/6/2007 12:52:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Faramir

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ORIGINAL: Emperor1956

FR:  I'm curious if the "Daddys" being so addressed by the warm, squishy crowd are in fact biological fathers of women/girls?   I have no problem with the term "Daddy" generally (and yes, I see it used, and use it, and have it used about me in the leather circles I frequent) but in an intimate sexual relationship, it gives me pause.  My 20 year old biological daughter usually greets me with "Hi Daddy", and when she wants something, its often "Daddy, would you..."   If my girl used the same it would squick me out.

E.


Not only am I a biological father, I'm also an adoptive father for two children off the public adoption rolls, and I was a foster-father to 35 children over 10 years--I have been "Daddy" in a very comprehensive sense. 

The first time a girl whispered in my ear, in this drawling Texas twang: "Oh Daddy, I just love you so much, please come in me.  Please come in my cunt so I can be a good girl for you Daddy.  I just love mah Daddy and want to be a good slut for him," I came indeed, galvanically, spasming ito her.

Later on it did kind of freak me out--what was wrong with me?  Did I have some lurking paedophillia or incestuous desire?  The first time after that when my birth daughter jumped ito my lap I was stiff with worry and fear--for about 2 minutes. 

Then I realized it wasn't that way, that what I has experienced was not a transference of desire, but a transference of mode.
 
What we were borrowing was the intimacy, trust and power dynamic of a Daddy and a little girl, and I like that very, very much.  It works for me--in addition to my explicit father roles I have been a Marine Officer, a coach, a literacy mentor and tutor, and am now a teacher.  Those are all father roles as well.  It's just who I am, and I am cool with who I am.

My little girl responds to me as the Daddy she did not have, but deserved to have.  It's hawt as fire, it is close as we can be, and it works for us in a very pragmatic sense.


Being the father of two feminine UMS myself, I know exactly what you are talking about when you note the "squick" factor soon after the "heat" factor of hearing something like that said to you.  I was on the receiving end of a whisper like that and it was amazing...up until the next day when my oldest called and said "Daddy...would you...?" 

Sat down and thought about it.  Realized the good places it touches the great majority of the time and even some of the darker aspects a minor part of the time without going full-blown into the really sick aspects of it.

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/6/2007 12:59:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Using the term Daddy is an indication of age play for us, and sometimes of the nurturing, safe, protective atmosphere he surrounds me with. He almost never refers to himself as Daddy, but when he does I feel amazingly accepted, because it means he is choosing to be my Daddy, not being forced into the role by me unwillingly.

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/6/2007 2:35:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Emperor1956
FR:  I'm curious if the "Daddys" being so addressed by the warm, squishy crowd are in fact biological fathers of women/girls?   I have no problem with the term "Daddy" generally (and yes, I see it used, and use it, and have it used about me in the leather circles I frequent) but in an intimate sexual relationship, it gives me pause.  My 20 year old biological daughter usually greets me with "Hi Daddy", and when she wants something, its often "Daddy, would you..."   If my girl used the same it would squick me out.

I usually call my Master "Master," but many times also use "Daddy."  He is 60 and I'll soon be 35.  He is of an age that He could biologically be my father and He has one biological daughter and two step-daughters, all three of whom are either my age or very near to it.  They don't call Him "Daddy."  His daughter calls Him "Dad" and the step-daughters call Him by His given name.  I have no doubt, however, that if they DID refer to Him as "Daddy," there would be no sexual confusion in His mind.  We have talked about this as the "Daddy/little girl" dynamic was a huge interest of mine when we entered our relationship.  It was nothing He had ever toyed with or utilized.  He loves it now and never has any conflicts about whether or not enjoying it with me means that He wants to have sex with His children.  That's as ridiculous as inferring that I want to fuck my own father simply because I call Master "Daddy."  Faramir said "What we were borrowing was the intimacy, trust and power dynamic of a Daddy and a little girl, and I like that very, very much."  I couldn't agree more.............luci

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/6/2007 3:23:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Emperor1956

FR:  I'm curious if the "Daddys" being so addressed by the warm, squishy crowd are in fact biological fathers of women/girls?   I have no problem with the term "Daddy" generally (and yes, I see it used, and use it, and have it used about me in the leather circles I frequent) but in an intimate sexual relationship, it gives me pause.  My 20 year old biological daughter usually greets me with "Hi Daddy", and when she wants something, its often "Daddy, would you..."   If my girl used the same it would squick me out.

E.


Well, my Daddy is the biological father of a female, but He was never squicked...originally, I was the one who had the name issue.
 
After some thinking, though, I came around mostly because the term has two connotations for me...although, it does lead to confusion if I'm talking about my father, in which case I call my Dominant "Daddy Bear" to ease up on any confusion.
 
I also come from a family where referring to the man of the house as "Daddy" is common, although it often morphs into "Grandaddy".
 
And, more personally...I'm terrible with names, so I'll often call people "Boss" or something of that nature.
 
I guess that was all a long way of saying that although the similarities are duly noted, the differences steal the show.

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/6/2007 3:40:33 PM   
Littlepita


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ORIGINAL: Emperor1956

FR:  I'm curious if the "Daddys" being so addressed by the warm, squishy crowd are in fact biological fathers of women/girls?   IE.


My Daddy is a father of two sons. It's not about anything in the normal parental sense. I called my ex-husband daddy because he was the father of my UM. My feelings were entirely different than what they are now with my dominant. I also tell people that I'm five, yet we aren't about age play. Sort of hard to explain all this stuff.  

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/6/2007 4:10:52 PM   
CuriousLord


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Status: offline 		Frued is often creditted with being the "father of modern Psychology". With his views on such a subject, one might wonder if he was also the father of a naughty immature?

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/7/2007 10:37:46 AM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		Master doesn't like it when W/we're in the shopping centre and i spot something like chocolate and i say "can i have it? please Daddy? Awwww pweeese!"

Maybe it's to do with the fact that i am a BBW who is 51 and He is a longhaired rock'n'roller who is about to turn 36??

However, He doesn't object at home when i say to the dogs and cat ... "go and give Daddy a cuddle!"

Context, context ... it's all in the context *grin*

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/8/2007 6:29:44 PM   
SoquilisGirl


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Status: offline 		Mine is a father of a girl and I just asked him if it squicked him when I call him Daddy. He said, "No. Unlike some people I can tell the difference between my biological daughter and my little girl." ;)

(I'm sure he wasn't referring to anyone on this thread. He's just sarcastic like that.)

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ORIGINAL: Emperor1956
FR:  I'm curious if the "Daddys" being so addressed by the warm, squishy crowd are in fact biological fathers of women/girls?  

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/8/2007 6:40:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		my ex used the word with me and i had an immediate visceral reaction to it.  i tensed up and didn't like it at all.  i had once before asked him not to use a certain other word with me and he was of the mind, being my master, that there would be no barriers between us - hence there was nothing i could say he could not say or do. So i never told him how squicked i was by the term "daddy" - i never used it in reference to him and if he had requested me to i think my tongue would have snapped off my roller lol..... 

Isn't the "daddy" romantic reference a southern thang?  Just curious?

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/8/2007 6:46:30 PM   
BayBgirl


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ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati

I just about melted, or something melted anyway because the bed all of a sudden managed to get wet again. It was a total shock to me that him saying that effected me that way. I of course moved up to his arms and really dont remember much else other than feeling extreamly safe as I fell asleep in his arms.


i have had a few of these moments myself  ...i am very happy for you and your Daddy. 

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/8/2007 7:11:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MaamJay

Master doesn't like it when W/we're in the shopping centre and i spot something like chocolate and i say "can i have it? please Daddy? Awwww pweeese!"


Yeah.. I try to be open about the lifestyle in my normal life. Not that it's exactly easy to explain to everyone.

Sometimes, when introducing my slave- as "my slave", as opposed to the more social cover of "my girlfriend"-, she often finds joy in slipping, "I'm scared, Daddy!", and hiding behind my back. She thinks it's cute to embarrase me like that. Which, it is, but it's still embarrasing.

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/9/2007 4:57:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Littlepita

I also tell people that I'm five, yet we aren't about age play. Sort of hard to explain all this stuff.  


I, for one, know exactly what you mean. Though I probably can't explain it any better. My little girl is "twelve" or thereabouts but it's really not about ageplay to us either. Then again, she is also biologically male, yet it's not about crossdressing. Talk about confusing. Hey, it makes sense to us and it works, so I guess that's all that matter :)

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/26/2007 1:57:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I had a very similar experience with my Daddy. He asked me once to call him that and at first I kind of thought it was funny, but when I tried it I was shocked at the effect it had on me.  It was like an electric shock! At first I was a little bothered about what that might mean about my psyche or my relationship with my father, but I've never called my father (or anyone else) "daddy" and it seems to have very little to do with age and quite a bit more to do with feelings of safety, dominance, and having someone do "what's best for me" or "spoinling" me. 

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RE: Daddy..... - 7/26/2007 2:40:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: velvetears

Isn't the "daddy" romantic reference a southern thang?  Just curious?


Yes it is...and although my Daddy is far from southern (but i am) he did write something on Daddy Dom stuff and brought in that idea as well

www.mycollarspace.com/daddy.htm




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RE: Daddy..... - 8/14/2007 9:44:14 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati

I was just wondering about how the rest of you felt when Sir says something like that? Or how you feel when you call Him Daddy? or He calls himself Daddy to you?


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RE: Daddy..... - 8/14/2007 9:49:20 PM   
Ysabol


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Status: offline 		I am my Daddy's little girl, 24/7. I LOVE calling him Daddy, and I love the feeling when he calls me his little girl, or girl, or a lot of other endearments we use for each other.

Before I met Daddy, I was NOT into Ageplay. I really didn't know much about it, and I certainly didn't know that there were so many different ways to practice ageplay. But, when I met Daddy, he asked about it, and I said I'd try it, see how it works out, and we could go from that point.

I'm happy to say that a year later, I've found the little girl inside myself, and I LOVE having my Daddy.

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RE: Daddy..... - 8/14/2007 10:41:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, velvetears, I think the romantic reference of "Daddy" is very well a southern thing...I live in TX, and my great aunt calls my great uncle 'daddy' frequently, though they never had any UMs.

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