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GhitaAmati -> Daddy..... (7/6/2007 6:05:02 AM)
Id been planning on coming online this morning and starting this thread, and I get here and there is already a similar one going on the "power of one sentance thread" But I really just wanted to talk about this one word and what it meant to alot of you. I have never thought of my Sir and I having the Daddy/girl relationship, even though most people think we do when they see the age difference between the two of us. (I was born the year He graduated from high school). We started our relationship as a vanilla couple, and it was only until after getting married and being together close to 4 years that we have begun to explore D/s together. He has been in past D/s relationships, and until I met him I was active in the lifestyle for alsmot 10 years. I have never once called a Sir, Daddy, nor have I ever been with anyone who wanted me to, I honestly never "got" that connotation. Truthfully, I refer to my husband as Daddy on a daily basis, but only to the UMs cause well..he is...I never thought of it in any other way. Last night, after a truly amazing and rather heavy play session and a pretty amazing f*ck too...I was still all curled up in a ball near the foot of the bed shaking cause my muscles were still twitching and I hadnt even gotten to the point where I would even consider moving yet. He was laying up on the pillows and after a few minutes said "why dont you come lay down up here with Daddy" I just about melted, or something melted anyway because the bed all of a sudden managed to get wet again. It was a total shock to me that him saying that effected me that way. I of course moved up to his arms and really dont remember much else other than feeling extreamly safe as I fell asleep in his arms. I havent had the chance to talk to Him about it yet because he leaves for work while I am still half asleep, but I plan to as soon as He gets home. I was just wondering about how the rest of you felt when Sir says something like that? Or how you feel when you call Him Daddy? or He calls himself Daddy to you?

daddysliloneds -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 6:10:56 AM)
i feel like i've found my way home at last!

SoquilisGirl -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 6:14:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati I was still all curled up in a ball near the foot of the bed shaking cause my muscles were still twitching and I hadnt even gotten to the point where I would even consider moving yet. He was laying up on the pillows and after a few minutes said "why dont you come lay down up here with Daddy" <snip> I was just wondering about how the rest of you felt when Sir says something like that? Or how you feel when you call Him Daddy? or He calls himself Daddy to you? OMG! Yum! God, I read that first part and could quite easily put myself in your place at that moment. Ohhh! It's hard to describe how I feel when he refers to himself that way. Elated, happy, giddy, aroused, joyous. I think I feel those things because I'm so happy that he wants to be my Daddy and loves it and enjoys it. When I call him Daddy my feelings depend on when and why I say it... I call him that all the time. At home I say to the cats, "Daddy's home!" or to him "Daddy! Come open this jar for me." While out in public (like shopping), "Daddy! Look at this!" In bed, "Oh! god! DADDY!" [:D] So the feelings usually match the situation, but underlying it all is that nice warm feeling in my belly that I get from knowing he loves me no matter what. I'm happy for you and I hope this is the beginning of something new and wonderful for you both. [;)] Soquili's Girl

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 6:57:37 AM)
Sometimes it's made me cry due to the simple sincerity of it and the truth of our connection with it. Sometimes it makes me giddy. I'm glad you found a place of happiness with it- to some people saying something like that would have caused a whole night of anxiety issues.

SweetAndInnocent -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 7:08:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Sometimes it's made me cry due to the simple sincerity of it and the truth of our connection with it. Sometimes it makes me giddy. I'm glad you found a place of happiness with it- to some people saying something like that would have caused a whole night of anxiety issues. Thanks for mentioning this side of the coin LA. I wasn't sure the OP wanted to hear that, or if she was only looking for happy, giggly, melty responses to Daddy. The idea of calling a man daddy in any form of sexual context is always one of those things that makes me cringe. For me, that's a special word reserved for one man, and it's definitly not used in a sexual way.

GhitaAmati -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 7:10:01 AM)
quote: I'm glad you found a place of happiness with it- to some people saying something like that would have caused a whole night of anxiety issues. I think if it had been said to me by someone in a former relationship, it would have caused just those anxiety issues, and Im glad you mentioned that. Because I understand that its not a good issue to alot of people. It did make me feel safe, and it was a shock to me, because it was such a drastic change to the way I used to think of it previously. quote: I'm happy for you and I hope this is the beginning of something new and wonderful for you both Thank you for your comments, Soquili's Girl. Alot of what you said was exactly the feelings I felt last night. ~~edited for bad spelling and to add that yes sweet and innocent, I am interested in hearing both sides of the coin...or all three if we happen to have more than two opinions. I always like hearing everyones opinions, even if they differ from mine...sometimes I learn more from those comments than from hearing 90 people all say the same thing.

slaveish -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 7:44:42 AM)
It depends on the situation. If I've been in work mode and haven't had the chance to transition, M saying "Come to Daddy" (or whatever) leaves me a little flat and sometimes even a little annoyed. I have a high stress, extreme control job though and it can take me a little while to come down from it. After having a chance to "re-head", hearing him use "Daddy" makes me feel safe and sweet and relaxed.

Littlepita -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 7:48:47 AM)
Calling him Daddy has become completely natural and normal. It depends on the context of when and why I call him Daddy that forms my feelings. I agree with how Soquili's Girl put it in her post. I know that calling him Daddy makes me feel warm and fuzzy, loved and protected, owned and His. There is never been a relationship like this in my life. [:)]

DominaSmartass -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 7:57:50 AM)
I used to be squicked by it, majorly. I never would have wanted to call a man Daddy, no matter who he was. It wreaked of incest to me and that's not one of my kinks. Then the strangest thing happened...I fell into the gay Leather world and the next thing you know EVERYONE is called Daddy. There's this Daddy and that Daddy and I guess I got desensitized. All of a sudden it wasn't a gross thing but a term of endearment and I really knew what it meant more than I can explain, it's just a feeling. Then another crazy thing started happening and I started becoming a Daddy myself. I never identified with the Mistresses, Goddesses, Queens, Princesses, and all other stereotypical female dom words...yet when I not only saw, but felt what a Daddy is, I knew that's what I wanted to be and it's what I had on the inside that had never known a true manifestation. So yes, I love to hear my partner call me Daddy and I refer to myself as such sometimes when I say specific things (we have a joke about not waking Daddy up.) To me, it has nothing to do with incest and very seldom to do with ageplay, but all to do with the sense of security it provides both of us knowing the other is loyal, devoted, and sharing of unconditional love, along with my very parental type guidance through which there is some D/s present but no claim of ownership or expectation of absolute obediance. edited cause the first time it said "I wreaked of incest..." and that is SO not a quote i want following me around.

lighthearted -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 8:17:44 AM)
I sought out a relationship that had a bit of the "Daddy" dynamic, in part because my own father has been largely absent. I had never known what it was like to have someone commit to protecting me, helping me through difficult situations, give me advice, etc. when I expressed this as something I was looking for, Master was uneasy, largely in part because of the misconception that it all revolved around age play. when I explained what it meant to me, his response was that it was what he wanted to be for me, and what he hoped for our relationship. that was a wonderful moment for us both. there are times when I call him "Daddy" and the joy is so apparent...because I'm fulfilled in that aspect of our relationship: I'm happy, I feel safe, I'm so devoted to his happiness. and he loves it, too. I think because I didn't have a strong paternal presence growing up that using word "Daddy" while in the bedroom doesn't bother me like it would others. there are no other memories/connotations to interfere. it seems like the situation the OP described was pretty devoid of age play (correct me if I'm wrong, pls) and it was all about loving the man that is her Master because he keeps her safe and secure.

lilya -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 8:36:48 AM)
I never in my entire life called any man Daddy, no matter what the relationship (even my own father or my stepfather). The thought never even crossed my mind. I guess because I grew up feeling rejected by my biological father and then spent years trying to push away my stepfather (who's a sweet man, don't read any hints of abuse in this), I was always a bit weary of transforming a romantic or D/s relationship into a substitute for the fatherly love I never had. However, Sir sometimes calls me "young girl". And even though I know he calls most women that, no matter their age or the context, it always gives me a warm, fuzzy feeling. Whenever I hear (or read) these two simple words, I instantly feel myself becoming a little girl and want to run into the warm and protective embrace of his strong arms. lylia

Emperor1956 -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 8:44:11 AM)
FR: I'm curious if the "Daddys" being so addressed by the warm, squishy crowd are in fact biological fathers of women/girls? I have no problem with the term "Daddy" generally (and yes, I see it used, and use it, and have it used about me in the leather circles I frequent) but in an intimate sexual relationship, it gives me pause. My 20 year old biological daughter usually greets me with "Hi Daddy", and when she wants something, its often "Daddy, would you..." If my girl used the same it would squick me out. E.

GhitaAmati -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 8:51:13 AM)
quote: I fell into the gay Leather world and the next thing you know EVERYONE is called Daddy. I hadnt thought about this, but I have become a member of a Leather household (where im actually the only non-gay member, only female member) since my previous relationships. I dont know if that changed my feelings for the word "Daddy" or not...seeing as how there is only one person reffered to as "Daddy" in that community, and I see him as a wonderful mentor to me...of course I didnt get him that title, it is one he already had when I met him. In truth though, I didnt even think of that last night, or as Ive thought about it this morning until you mentioned it. quote: it seems like the situation the OP described was pretty devoid of age play (correct me if I'm wrong, pls) and it was all about loving the man that is her Master because he keeps her safe and secure. You are compleatly correct....it had nothing to do with age play...which is where that word has always taken my mind before and why I was negitive towards it previously...last night was the first time it didnt, and it was wonderful

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 9:01:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Emperor1956 FR: I'm curious if the "Daddys" being so addressed by the warm, squishy crowd are in fact biological fathers of women/girls? it would be realistically impossible since Daddy is 7yrs older than me however He's more a father than my real one.

Faramir -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 9:10:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Emperor1956 FR: I'm curious if the "Daddys" being so addressed by the warm, squishy crowd are in fact biological fathers of women/girls? I have no problem with the term "Daddy" generally (and yes, I see it used, and use it, and have it used about me in the leather circles I frequent) but in an intimate sexual relationship, it gives me pause. My 20 year old biological daughter usually greets me with "Hi Daddy", and when she wants something, its often "Daddy, would you..." If my girl used the same it would squick me out. E. Not only am I a biological father, I'm also an adoptive father for two children off the public adoption rolls, and I was a foster-father to 35 children over 10 years--I have been "Daddy" in a very comprehensive sense. The first time a girl whispered in my ear, in this drawling Texas twang: "Oh Daddy, I just love you so much, please come in me. Please come in my cunt so I can be a good girl for you Daddy. I just love mah Daddy and want to be a good slut for him," I came indeed, galvanically, spasming ito her. Later on it did kind of freak me out--what was wrong with me? Did I have some lurking paedophillia or incestuous desire? The first time after that when my birth daughter jumped ito my lap I was stiff with worry and fear--for about 2 minutes. Then I realized it wasn't that way, that what I has experienced was not a transference of desire, but a transference of mode. What we were borrowing was the intimacy, trust and power dynamic of a Daddy and a little girl, and I like that very, very much. It works for me--in addition to my explicit father roles I have been a Marine Officer, a coach, a literacy mentor and tutor, and am now a teacher. Those are all father roles as well. It's just who I am, and I am cool with who I am. My little girl responds to me as the Daddy she did not have, but deserved to have. It's hawt as fire, it is close as we can be, and it works for us in a very pragmatic sense.

GhitaAmati -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 9:18:03 AM)
Faramir, thank you very much for speaking about this from your perspective.

DominaSmartass -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 10:37:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Emperor1956 FR: I'm curious if the "Daddys" being so addressed by the warm, squishy crowd are in fact biological fathers of women/girls? I have no problem with the term "Daddy" generally (and yes, I see it used, and use it, and have it used about me in the leather circles I frequent) but in an intimate sexual relationship, it gives me pause. My 20 year old biological daughter usually greets me with "Hi Daddy", and when she wants something, its often "Daddy, would you..." If my girl used the same it would squick me out. E. Yes, I can definitely imagine that someone who actually is the bio or step father of a little girl might have an entirely different feeling. Kind of how pony play squicks me and always will because of my extreme involvement in the real life equestrian community and my deep love (don't read anything in here!) for my horses. It's nothing even remotely sexual and using the same terminology just gets freaky. By the way, off topic but is your sig line ("We gotta go to the crappy town where I'M a hero!") a Firefly quote by any chance?

PlayfulOne -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 11:13:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Emperor1956 FR: I'm curious if the "Daddys" being so addressed by the warm, squishy crowd are in fact biological fathers of women/girls? I have no problem with the term "Daddy" generally (and yes, I see it used, and use it, and have it used about me in the leather circles I frequent) but in an intimate sexual relationship, it gives me pause. My 20 year old biological daughter usually greets me with "Hi Daddy", and when she wants something, its often "Daddy, would you..." If my girl used the same it would squick me out. E. Yes I am the biological father of two unmentionables, one of which is female. Yes, my partner has called me Daddy since the beginning of our relationship. One has nothing to do with the other in any way. Your squicks are just that, yours. K

Emperor1956 -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 11:19:02 AM)
quote: sambamanslilgirl: quote: ORIGINAL: Emperor1956 FR: I'm curious if the "Daddys" being so addressed by the warm, squishy crowd are in fact biological fathers of women/girls? it would be realistically impossible since Daddy is 7yrs older than me however He's more a father than my real one. That's nice. We are all so happy you chose to tell us how wonderful a father your partner is. But you haven't answered what I asked. If you read my simple question carefully you'd see that I asked "is the 'daddy' the father of ANY girl or woman". It isn't always about you. Faramir: I appreciate your comment, masturbatory as it may be. You did point out an error in my original question. I'm not so concerned with biological fatherhood, and I should broaden my question to include any actual fatherhood of any female - adopted, "step", biological or otherwise. My point simply was to ask if the men being so addressed were fathers in another non-sexual, non-power sharing arrangement. DominaSmartass: Thank you for that excellent analogy. And, yes, re: my sig. line, it is one of my favorite quotes from Wash. A few kindred spirits have noted that...and I count you as one SMILE And lest this become too much of a mutual admiration society, I love your sig. line too. E

mistoferin -> RE: Daddy..... (7/6/2007 11:30:48 AM)
I don't have any issues with people using the word in their relationships. In my own life though, there is only one man who deserves to hear it come from my mouth....my Father.

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