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The one that got away - 7/2/2007 1:38:47 PM

satyrsnymph28

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I am sure this happens in both vanilla and lifestyle relationships...

Have you ever seen someone who you had previously simply adored, while they were with their "someone new"... and then looked back and wondered what caused your relationship with them to end previously?

There's a certain someone out there who I had always wanted to play with... and I can't remember what stopped that from happening when I finally got my chance. Seems strange looking back on it now...

This person is the only person I can think of who I regret not getting a chance to play with... the chance was completely there... and somehow it went away...

I'm virtually sure it was in my days of discussing limits to death because I was so scared of what swould happen (because of what HAD happened previously) if we didn't talk it through enough.

Anyway... I wondered if any others had experienced the physical and emotional momentary pain of such a situation... The caught in the middle feeling between being happy for them and wishing you were standing in those shoes instead

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RE: The one that got away - 7/2/2007 4:05:03 PM

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An ex bf, just before we broke up we talked about possibly checking the kink scene out. I still miss him and if he said that he wants me back, a vanilla relationship, I would take it.

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RE: The one that got away - 7/2/2007 4:14:13 PM

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I listened to a friend's jealousy-based fear about me playing with a certain man in my life almost two years ago. So, I didn't. I didn't have sex with him again (the first and only time was a thing of beauty), either. Now, he's dead....and the impact he has made in my life and the paths that impact has taken me down are too numerous to list in one post.

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RE: The one that got away - 7/2/2007 5:01:02 PM

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it hasn't happened in the lifestyle but has happened in vanilla.

his birthday is coming up this month, and he'll be on his way home from Afghanistan (millitary of course) we were together for years, childhood sweethearts but I see and talk to him all the time and know the reason it never worked out. We could never get passed our innocence together as screwed up as that sounds we could never get passed the kissing stage (we tryed a few times) and it just never worked it was too awkward and now I regret it. Even though we had both been intimate with other people we just couldn't do it together, and honestly I'll always regret it.

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RE: The one that got away - 7/2/2007 5:48:15 PM

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My first Dom - we broke up for a few reasons, mainly distance. I'd so like to see him just once more, to find out how he's doing now... I never got closure.

I'll always be so grateful to him for the world he opened up for me.

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RE: The one that got away - 7/2/2007 6:29:04 PM

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I dated a woman a few months ago and she broke it off because I related a story of my meathead past. She was really cool, I wonder what could have been with her and I, but such is life. I can't change the past, I just shouldn't talk about it

Obviously not the long lost love that got away, but soething I'd been thinking about recently.

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RE: The one that got away - 7/2/2007 11:46:12 PM

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i suppose i'll finally get involved in one o' these here "character development" threads =P

as a general note, i'd say everyone has someone, that we wish things had gone differently, no matter how obscure (remember "Citizen Kane"?)

With mine i never wondered, well, not seriously. i was with someone who ended up being one of those who thought "hey being bisexual means i can have a boyfriend, AND a girlfriend!", and being in college this was long distance before i decided i didn't want any more of it. She always told me that as long as we were far apart like that, she wouldn't hold it against me if i decided to date or sleep with someone else, but for me there wasn't anyone even close.

There still isn't to this day. Despite all the interesting people i've met here since then.

And before anyone says anything: You can know something's bad for you and still crave it. But my life still pales without her in it. My suffering is my own doing.

BUT, it is the past, and it is lost, life goes on ^_^

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RE: The one that got away - 7/3/2007 12:23:04 AM

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I've always tried my hardest to make something work, even when it was an obvious long-shot, at best. Beating my head against the wall in the past, putting my heart and soul into all of it leaves me with one great advantage: I have no regrets.

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RE: The one that got away - 7/3/2007 5:53:57 AM

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A few years ago I met a man at a BDSM convention that I truly enjoyed getting to know. When the convention was over I didn't have a clue how to contact him again. I didn't even learn if he was dominant or submissive because we were working together at the convention and didn't see each other during dungeon hours unless working. I always wanted to know more and wondered for a couple of years. This past March we met again at a convention. This time I did what was right and told him of my interest. We played once; it was great we emailed and chatted on the phone and enjoyed a couple of nice meals together. It appears life has happened and we've not connected for a while. I believe I've missed the opportunity and while I don't regret (I enjoyed every moment we had together) it, I wonder what could have been or may one day be.

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RE: The one that got away - 7/3/2007 7:25:24 AM

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Like becca my first Master, we went seprate ways for a few reasons ......... but there was never any closure bewteen us. I miss Him daily but hope that all worked out for the best for him. I too would love to hear from Him one last time...... But then I wonder if I could leave Him a second time.

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RE: The one that got away - 7/3/2007 8:03:55 PM

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I think that everyone can find a similar story, there is "what might have been" in most peoples past. Some lost touch, some lost forever, lives would change but would it be for the better?

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RE: The one that got away - 7/3/2007 8:19:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mystique567

I think that everyone can find a similar story, there is "what might have been" in most peoples past. Some lost touch, some lost forever, lives would change but would it be for the better?

It's that not knowing that keeps niggling, isn't it - wondering what might have been?

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RE: The one that got away - 7/3/2007 9:20:52 PM

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I always thought "KA" was the kind of guy I'd like to settle down with, but I wasn't ready to settle down yet. We were friends and I was in no hurry..... Then he disappeared without saying goodbye and I felt hurt and realized I was more ready to settle down than I thought. I got engaged to someone else and he reappeared the night of the Marine Corps Ball (he'd been in a really bad accident when home on leave. Even mostly recovered he hardly resembled the man I'd known). He declared he had feelings for me and asked me to break off my engagement, but I thought that would be a rotten thing to do. I still think about him and wish I hadn't been so foolish. I hope he met someone who deserved him.

*Edited to add clues in case he's reading.....You never know

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RE: The one that got away - 7/4/2007 2:50:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: becca333

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mystique567

I think that everyone can find a similar story, there is "what might have been" in most peoples past. Some lost touch, some lost forever, lives would change but would it be for the better?

It's that not knowing that keeps niggling, isn't it - wondering what might have been?

Absolutely, and I could sit here and let it niggle me all the time or I could move on and only think of it occasionally

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RE: The one that got away - 7/4/2007 11:16:54 PM

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She and I worked in the same department of a major international corporation.. (arent they all), she was having a bit of trouble with her work. My supervisor suggested that I help her and give her a bit more instruction as well as extra time on the things she was having trouble with. We were both in computer hardware and software tech support. I helped her, I taught her some "tricks of the trade", and generally made sure that she was doing things right.. We became good friends. went to lunch a few times. She was married in an abusive (verbally and mentally) relationship. Her husband was screwing around.. she even found deleted emails on the family computer. We spent a few of our days off just driving around talking, or on the phone.. she was forced to work two jobs to support her and the kids.. he wasnt helping out. I could go on and on..

She asked me to fix her computer at her home one time.. I had been there before and knew the entire family... When I was there.. this one day.. she was obviously trying to get my attention in a "sexual" or intimate manner.. I didnt do anything...

I left the company, and we continued to talk on the phone, and an ocassional lunch... one day at lunch.. she mentioned that she had kicked him out.. but wanted to see me on a more regular basis.. I dont date married women.. so I declined... but wanted to remain friends.. I still wish I had accepted her offer.. I still think of her and even though we lost contact.. I have heard from some people that we worked with.. that she broke down and told some of them.. she was in love with me.. and even was willing to do whatever I wanted to be able to be with me..

I still think she was probably one of the best women I ever knew.. and yes.. very attractive and sexy.. but I couldnt get over my upbringing to date a married woman.

I hope she is well.. and doing great.. (and yes.. I know she reads these forums..)

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RE: The one that got away - 7/5/2007 4:30:49 AM

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quote:

I wondered if any others had experienced the physical and emotional momentary pain of such a situation... The caught in the middle feeling between being happy for them and wishing you were standing in those shoes instead

Absolutely
I have, I am, and I am sure I will again

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