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RE: Dragging my heart around - 7/1/2007 9:25:31 PM

Mystique567

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ORIGINAL: feelingrisky

I know it is a hard road ahead. Only today, he tossed out a crumb of inquiring whether I want to help him clean his place up.... then he stated to me, "No, you probably don't want to help fix up a place another woman will be visiting." It was like a dagger had dug in my chest and twisted up and back before being pushed out of my spine.

For him, it is over. But as he has told me many times over the years.. "men are friends with women because they think someday they might get their penis wet." I know that is why he keeps me as a friend. Logic has not left me yet. If only I could take the heart from the equation.
*sigh*
Risky

You have figured out the answer to your own question, and the quote up there that he said was just mean and nasty. He has no idea the pain his words have caused because you are not telling him.

I have been in this same situation. My former Master released me to be with a vanilla woman and have a vanilla life. He also got the vanilla heartbreak and games that went along with it (not that nillas are the only ones to play games) He also wanted to stay friends, I chose to distance myself, and find the peace I needed to move on with the life I wanted. We are now friends, but it can never be the same as it was.

I have still not found the Master who is right for me and looking for me as well, but when I do I know the it will be the best for both of us.

Keep going to the meetings, flirting, and having fun, it will happen, just give it time.

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RE: Dragging my heart around - 7/1/2007 9:39:08 PM

charmdpetKeira

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Feelingrisky,

In reading your OP, the one thing that stuck out for me; I didn’t notice you mentioning what the relationship, as it had been, was doing to you.

I have found, for myself, the best way to “get over” someone, is to realize how damaging the relationship had been to me; regardless of how much I wanted it to work; perhaps even better, look for the benefits to not being with him.

Just a thought for when you’re ready.

Sincerely,

k

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RE: Dragging my heart around - 7/1/2007 9:56:46 PM

SexyRed

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Please cut off all contact with him. I have been through a bad break up over a year ago. Just stop. It took ages to finally break up because we kept in contact. It will only prolong your agony to speak to him or see him.

He loves that you are still crazy about him, it serves his ego and he does not care about you and shows it by being mean. I think his comments speak for themselves. You may be submissive and think you love him, but you just miss the addictive nature of the relationship, otherwise it would still be happening.

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RE: Dragging my heart around - 7/1/2007 10:41:43 PM

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wow...when I read this post it hit home. I am currently in the same situation. I was with a Man for two years and everything was so wonderful. Then all of a sudden he said he was lonely...and that we needed to move on. I still love him with everything in me, and like you did, I am waiting, hoping that he will come around and see. I have a great friend that is helping me right now. He knows my situation and my feelings for this other man. But is still willing to be here for me. I know the feeling of being in love and so many tell you to just stop loving him...or to just move on. It's deffenately not that simple. When you spend as much time as you do, it is hard. VERY hard. And honestly, Ive tried to move on, but it hasn't worked. I have screwed up so many relationships because of it too trust me. Ive given up the chance to be happy. But when your heart feels something, you can't just put that to the side. So, I know how this feels. I wish you the best of luck with all of this. If you ever want to talk dont be afraid to pm me if you see me online or send me a private message!!!

Huggggggggggggggggssssss
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