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Finding a Mistress? - 6/28/2007 1:35:03 PM

jerbedo

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Quite simply, how do I go about it?

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RE: Finding a Mistress? - 6/28/2007 1:45:05 PM

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Have you tried WalMart?

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RE: Finding a Mistress? - 6/28/2007 1:49:34 PM

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Dude, I think you have made it clear what you seek and you have even had a mod tell you this was out of line and that you need to use your profile. You aren't making a good impression here. Calm down.

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RE: Finding a Mistress? - 6/28/2007 2:30:52 PM

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Is this a joke?
Really. Go to collarme.com. Search for "mistress". You can even pick more specific things.
It's not rocket science.

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RE: Finding a Mistress? - 6/28/2007 2:39:16 PM

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You know the most effective way of doing anything is quite simple. As this is an internet based focal point that has base rules, all you need to do is remember a four letter word "read". Especially after having been told by a mod what to do, you want a Mistress? Hrm the failure to pay attention much less do as you are told does not always constitute punishment it could constitute a dismissal if its repeat offenses. Failure to follow simple instructions will also make others not look at you. Having patterns of misconduct is not always "cool"

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RE: Finding a Mistress? - 6/28/2007 2:55:26 PM

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C'mon, Skippy! Try to keep up with the room...

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An apology - 6/28/2007 2:55:33 PM

jerbedo

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I am new....brand new....to the message board format, and was unaware that my recent post (Finding a Mistress) was improper and offensive, including a mod. My apologies for the breech. I simply didn't know. Good news: I'm a fast learner

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RE: An apology - 6/28/2007 3:08:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jerbedo

I am new....brand new....to the message board format, and was unaware that my recent post (Finding a Mistress) was improper and offensive, including a mod. My apologies for the breech. I simply didn't know. Good news: I'm a fast learner

Give the guy a break folks, everyone was new once. The quoted post shows sincerity in my opinion.

jerbedo, welcome to the forum. This is a tough old place for putting pen to paper but dont let it put you off.

Try doing a search for people in your own area and read the profiles. Not all Dominas require a guy to be the same age, just to have the right spirit.

Use the search engine to look up topics that interest you. there is a mile of information on there.

Look up male submissive profiles and see how others go about things. Some are very creative and i suspect these get the most responses.

Read the boards and you will soon get a flavour as to what types of comments get jumped on, some of them rightly so. As well as see things that may make you alter your own viewpoints, never a bad thing in my opinion.

A little tip from me on posting would be to stop and count to ten, before posting on anything that has made you angry. Also to read and read again to see if what you type is what you mean, as you only get one shot at it.

Hope this helps... politesub

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RE: An apology - 6/28/2007 3:21:16 PM

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Ok... I can understand being new and confused. Welcome to the boards jerbedo. I too have made mistakes... example last night getting mad and feeling protective of the domme's that I have come to respect on this site. We all are human.

In the first post that you made, there were some good suggestions. If you will notice on the area where it says 'who's viewing you' a couple of us looked at your profile and some made suggestions. There are some good suggestions on this thread.

My suggestion is to try not to be so hungry. It puts people off and says a lot of things you might not wish to say or mean. I have found that a lot of people wait until they can't wait any longer to say or do something about their needs. Try to find ways to temper yourself and meet some needs, otherwise you will send people running the other way. If you want a good Mistress... polish yourself... read... listen... learn and then move into getting to know someone. When you email a dominant, tell her about yourself, but at first I would surely not mention your dreams of a sexual nature. Let her determine when that talk comes about. Just tell her about yourself outside the lifestyle... who you are... who you would like to be and what you might have to offer without all the pretty words that can come off as fake promises. Be real.

Good luck to you!
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RE: Finding a Mistress? - 6/28/2007 4:00:08 PM

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RE: An apology - 6/28/2007 4:43:33 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

quote:

ORIGINAL: jerbedo

Quite simply, how do I go about it?

Give the guy a break folks, everyone was new once. The quoted post shows sincerity in my opinion.

Polite,

Not to call your post out of line, but really, the first 5 responses were to the ABOVE line, not his more sincere post later. Perhaps if he made THAT the post, some would have been more lenient. As for myself, I'm sorry, but we're all adults. I think that if someone is smart enough to figure out getting to the website, someone can figure out how to do a simple search. And if they're not smart enough, well....survival of the fittest, as they say.

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RE: Finding a Mistress? - 6/28/2007 4:47:10 PM

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Ok jerbedo,

1st your profile is not the worst I have seen...a fair first attempt. You might want to improve on it a bit as you go along.

2nd...as in any new endeavor...sometimes the wisest course of action is to sit quietly for a bit and learn about expectations and problems in the venue you seek.

Or to put it another way - take the cotton out of your ears and into your mouth. Watch, learn, the questions will often be answered before you need to ask...
Good luck...

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RE: An apology - 6/28/2007 4:56:42 PM

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MisPandora, point taken and i wasnt meaning to be disrespectful to anyone.
While the Op was short, i didnt read it as one of the "what will You do to me" type posts. i just thought it was a simple questions, even if the Op could have put more effort into it.

As Admin on another forum, im always stunned at how many people with hundreds of posts cant use the search or quote features correctly, but even many who can are unable to express thoughts clearly in writing.

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RE: An apology - 6/28/2007 6:44:57 PM

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Dang! You mean the mods slapped someone on the wrist for posting their personal ad in the forum and I missed it? See...... This is why I hate having to keep the day job.

On a serious note, welcome to the forums. I'm sure you'll make some fine contributions once you learn your way around the place.

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RE: An apology - 6/28/2007 7:07:53 PM

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Sometimes lurking is the better part of seeking.

(badly paraphrased, yeah, whatever)

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RE: Finding a Mistress? - 6/28/2007 7:48:30 PM

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I'd recommend reading the posting in this section of the boards I posted last week on how does a submissive go about being successful at actually serving or showing he or she can be of service. Don't remember the title right now.

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RE: Finding a Mistress? - 6/28/2007 7:53:52 PM

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sarbonn- That was a great post.

jerbedo- welcome to the jungle, man.

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RE: Finding a Mistress? - 6/29/2007 12:40:38 AM

RchmdServiceNeed

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Awe, lol, this post [original] made me laugh my patootie off. ;) thanks for making my night!

Did anyone else hear "1/2 a Million Dollars: How do I make it this month and will you give it to me?" when they actually read "Finding a Mistress: How do i do it?"

Eh *shrugs* I'm a weird little one but it sounded somehow similar........ lol