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Karynn -> RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? (6/27/2007 3:42:53 AM)
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Hello ya'll,
I consider myself a submissive in a world where Gor is considered a lifestyle, and as a submissive woman, aware of the power of men, yet not enslaved by men, I'm in a position that's a little like being in the middle of a sandwich. Most days, my lifemate will call me anything that pleases him. He can use patronizing words, sweetheart words, chastizing words, and so forth. Depending on tone and expression, I can tell how I should feel and react to him. It isn't just the words. He's known me for almost twenty years and by experience, knows exactly what to say and when to get his desired reaction.
When I share with other Goreans, it would truly offend me to be called "girl" in public because it has come to represent the slave girl and not all females on Gor. I've attended BDSM gatherings, however, and in such settings, the group dynamic might define what words are pleasant and what words are obnoxious. As with most things, a word or phrase might be used to convey a lot and also might invoke different reactions depending on how it is said, when it is said and who does the saying.
If I make time to build a relationship that is discreet and private, personal and special, then those rules evolve as well. While in public, I'd still wish to be shown the respect associated to my status in my lifestyle, in private, I have some patience and even desire to hear phrases and words I'd care not to hear spoken publicly. Some things will make me melt. Others will make my whole body feel like warm butter. It's all according to who is speaking and how well they know me. Obviously those who do not know me well would not know my triggers well, and button pushing wouldn't work, positive melty buttons or negative bristle buttons. If you don't have an inside line, in my inner circle, you can talk all day and I barely hear.
Great discussion topic!
Karyn
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