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Public Play - 6/26/2007 2:01:00 AM

Dini

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Ok… I was thinking to throw this one out for some comments.. I have a new boy that I am starting to play with.. he is VERY new to the scene and I am easing him in very slowly. I don’t want to scare the boy away before he has even found his feet.

I am planning on taking him out for dinner tomorrow night and was looking for interesting ideas as to what can be done in public, without attracting attention since the other guests at the venue will all be vanilla. He is not ready for figging! But I still want to push him a bit since this will be the first time I am taking him out of the “safety” on my dungeon.

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RE: Public Play - 6/26/2007 2:56:49 AM

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There's been other threads on this lately, hopefully LA will pop up with the links!

However, here's 10 ideas to get You started! You could:
a) hold his hand or wrist while walking, will make him feel about 6 years old again
b) have him walk just a step behind You
c) make sure he opens doors, helps You on and off with Your coat, pulls out Your seat for You etc (You could have him do likewise for all the ladies, but that might show up their hubbys' bad manners LOL!)
d) order his meal for him without asking what he wants (need to know his general food preferences eg steak, chicken or seafood and any allergies beforehand) and don't let him speak to the waiter at all
e) be a tad more daring and order an extra large meal for Yourself and just feed him from Your plate (only You would know if that would freak Your vanilla friends or not)
f) have him wearing a rope brief ie use ropes to simulate men's underwear and don't allow him any other underwear (good with fairly loose trousers, not so good with skin tight jeans LOL)
g) have him wear a small butt plug or anal beads for the evening (if he's ready) ... wonderful if he then sits on a hard wooden chair all night, he's bound to start squirming sooner or later! (fondly recalls taking a newbie sub thus adorned appropriately to a GREEK restaurant in Melbourne LOL!)
h) insert a small remote-controlled egg vibe into him (pop it in a condom) and then buzz him every now and then (if You don't have one, do Yourself a favour and get one, they may not last forever but they are brilliant fun while they do! ... and they've got a good range even through walls into toilets etc!)
i) banish his wallet, mobile phone ... all his usual trappings of independence ... into safekeeping for the evening
j) depends on what he's wearing, but he could be wearing ankle and wrist cuffs under trousers and long sleeves with the admonition NOT to let them show
Oh and a bonus idea ... make sure he has plenty of water to drink ... and that he knows he has to ask You for permission to go to the toilet ... discreetly of course!

Have fun! (And let us know what You did!)
Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: Public Play - 6/26/2007 3:53:02 AM

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A favourite of mine is to require him to use the wrong hand all night, so if he's naturally right handed, he has to use his left for holding his drink, cutting his food, passing round plates etc. It will keep him on his toes all night. Every time he slips, just count (One! .. etc) which is the number of smacks he'll receive later for forgetting himself.
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RE: Public Play - 6/26/2007 4:55:42 AM

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There are many wonderfully devious ideas contained in this thread.. thank you all for sharing.

There is a way to get him to not use his dominant (pardon the pun) hand during the evening.. put it in a fake cast... or, with the use of some creative binding, put it in a sling and clandestinely bind his arm to his torso. Imagine his frustration when he has to pee... which ties into the whole "drinking lots of ice water" idea. Trust me on how difficult it is to unzip and pull out with your non-dominant hand... heh heh heh

I love the idea of the remote controlled vibrator.. if you have it available, go a step farther and utilize a remote controlled, battery-operated TENS unit. If he has a hairy chest and/or nipples, apply several strips of "Gorilla tape" to those areas (or even his pubic region), so he can sit there all night long, scared to death of the pain he will be receiving later on when you rip the tape off his body.

If there is a coat room available, be sure to stock your coat with a few random and different items... innocuous things such as lipstick, etc., and at different intercals rummage through your purse and in a pouty voice remark "I must has left my lipstick in my coat".. of course he will go retrieve the lipstick, at which time you can tell him "no, that's the wrong shade, and send him back...

Hand him $5 and send him into the nearest drug store to purchase a package of "feminine hygeine products". He does, of course, pick out the wrong brand or style. Or.. you could go in with him and ask the person at the counter if they carry extra small condoms. Nothing like starting the evening off with a little "private" humiliation...

Oh, this thread should go on forever. :-)

-J

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RE: Public Play - 6/26/2007 8:41:15 AM

Dini

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I love the ideas.. smiles... o the puppy is going to have SO much fun! I will be sure to keep an eye on this one and let You all know how it went *smiles*

Dini

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RE: Public Play - 6/26/2007 1:33:36 PM

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Hello Dini. I'm old fashioned, I like things subtle. Have him dress, behave like a gentleman. Tell him to shut up, and only speak when "you" cue him. Ex: you meet someone and he/she says hello, you say to your sub "say hello to the nice lady (man)"; "tell the nice lady what you think about....", "tell the waiter I want....(make him repeat your order to the waiter, even if the waiter has heard it already)" etc.

Try to accessorise with the biggest purse you can find and make him carry it for you at all times. Once in while, look for stuff in your purse, practically empty it on the table ("embarrassing" implements are recommended: leash, collar, condoms, lube, but plug, cock rings etc) and have him pick it up, and put back in the purse, while you are carrying aloof conversations.

Last, you do not hold his hand or wrist, "he" takes your arm. Have your picture taken with him holding holding on to your arm, and carrying your purse, as a souvenir. Have fun! RL.

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RE: Public Play - 6/26/2007 2:09:05 PM

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I don't understand. If he's new and you're trying to ease him into the communittee gently, why are you pushing doing things, even if "under the covers", so to speak, in vanilla company. I understand that this might be a hot fetish, but it seems to me maybe trying these things is likeminded company FIRST might be a good idea.

UNLESS, I've misunderstood the intent of your post and what you're wanting are more actions rather than "public play". If that's the case, getting him to behave like a gentelman would be a pretty good thing to do. That's not often taught these days (it was rarely taught in MY day, too). While you might get glances, it'd most likely be the approving kind.

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RE: Public Play - 6/26/2007 2:35:03 PM

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hopefully LA will pop up with the links!

You know LA will be on here with other great advice

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RE: Public Play - 6/27/2007 12:19:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

UNLESS, I've misunderstood the intent of your post and what you're wanting are more actions rather than "public play". If that's the case, getting him to behave like a gentelman would be a pretty good thing to do. Master FIre

Hi - Sorry I may have been misleading in the choice of heading, It is more a case of actions.. very subtle, The company will be mixed both lifestylers and vanilla but the venue is totally public and open to all. So even though the conversation may touch on lifestyle at times the managemant of the venue do not allow any open play.

One of his big turn-ons is public and exhibisionism, or so he thinks, I am not sure how much he has been asked to do in the past, and I have never taken him in that direction, so I dont want to puch to hard since this boy has great potential...

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RE: Public Play - 6/27/2007 2:13:07 AM

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My public play experience. I had my sub wear panties and bra set under his clothing and made him reveal the bra strap to me for proof. I took off my shoes and jammed my stocking feet in his crotch while he massaged them under the table. I interrupted him as he began to order his food and ordered for him. I could tell the waitress was getting a big kick out of the whole thing.

I had a sub that told me his Mistress took him to a womens clothing store and made him try on dresses. I've got to try that one.

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