PairOfDimes
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I seem to think I wrote about this in an earlier thread. Ah, well, it's a nice topic to think about, anyway.
Fisting is delightful. Do read A Hand in the Bush. Fisting is not rocket science--it's essentially digital penetration taken a bit further. If you can collapse your hand (in other words, if you can make the bit of palm under your thumb touch the bit of palm under your little finger) you will do better. When inserting, remember to keep your outside fingers out of the way and positioned such that they will not be painfully bent backward (or even broken, in theory) if your fistee's vagina contracts unexpectedly. I find it best to start with my middle and ring fingers, because the shape one is working toward is a sort of waterfowl bill, or pyramid, with the middle finger on top, my index and ring fingers under it, and my pinky and thumb squished under and sort of between them. The knuckles are the hard part. Back to that vagina-contraction thing, once the knuckles go in, be prepared for the rest of your hand being...er...sucked in, occasionally past the wrist. (For this reason, it is good to wash and lubricate--or, at least, apply lotion to--your wrist. I realize that I'm characterizing the vagina as a rather voracious, unpredictable creature. There is some truth to that, and that's not misogynistic--it's part of what makes playing with it fun. Actually closing into a fist can be awkward. If the vagina being fisted has more depth than breadth, get your room by putting the duckbill shape mentioned above all the way in and then curling the fingers, trying to curl from the fingertips in (rather than from the palm out). If breadth is greater than depth, you should start to fold your fingers on themselves even before you get the last knuckles in--this inhibits your ability to collapse your hand, so it's not wise to use if you don't have much sideways room. If there doesn't seem to be any room, try rotating your hand and probing different directions--either the probing makes more room, or one always finds more room, often by moving downward (i.e. nearer to the anus).
Oh, yes--you can fist in just about any position, but fistee-on-back is generally easiest, followed by fistee-on-hands-and-knees.
Artificial lubricant is almost always necessary. You would likely want to go with something water-based that has a gel consistency, rather than something too watery. I like Maximus, myself, because it stays relatively wet without getting horribly sticky, and doesn't smell odd to me, but you can play around--another woman I know prefers Sex Grease, for example. KY is not a very good choice. Nyplex or latex gloves are useful, both for safer sex and because they soften the lumps and rough bits on the hand--if you understand how slips or undershirts work to smooth out the lines of clothing, think of gloves and vaginas as similarly related. Do make sure that the glove doesn't get wrinkled up at the entrance, please--getting sized gloves can help with this, failing that, take a rubber band or hair elastic and secure the extra glove material at your wrist.
Once you're in, have fun! You might want to talk to your fistee about her preferred type of stimulation--fingering or dildo/penis penetration can be useful reference points if your fistee is inexperienced. You can do all sorts of things. You can pump your hand back and forth--i.e. "fist fucking." You can stretch out your fingers and clench them again. You can rotate your hand. You can expand your hand (which, by the way, is likely pretty scrunched up, when you first get it inside) laterally or vertically. You can simply let it sit. Use your imagination--and take input from your fistee, ideally.
As with all things, plan how to get out. Vaginas can create vacuums of a sort, making it difficult to remove one's hand--orgasms seem to increase this possibility. Please do not panic--just insert a finger of your other hand to break the seal that has formed around your wrist. Be gentle, because most fistees are pretty sensitive at this point of things, and it tends to be an uncomfortable process (but, you know, most regard it as better than being a permanent hand puppet). Some people want a gentle, slow, perhaps stimulating withdrawal, while others just want you OUT, NOW. Again, this is something to think on, and you could consult your fistee, too.
Even though I haven't talked about double fisting above, one note on it: please avoid binding your fistee if you are going to do double fisting--or, if you do want to do bondage and double fisting, please do it with company, as double fisting can be a sort of bondage for the fister!
In general, visualize the inside and concentrate on moving each part of your hand deliberately and with care. Don't move too quickly, but don't be too cautious, either--some people's elasticity and muscle control can be pleasantly surprising, and do try to talk with the person you're fisting. I like talking in scenes, although I realize that it's not to everyone's taste--if it's not your thing, please try to negotiate and debrief thoroughly. Even though it's essentially upgraded fingering, the idea of having my entire hand inside another person is pretty neat, and the hand-receivers seem to like it, too. Have fun!
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Fisting..curiosity - 
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My boy hadnt done it before it kind of just happened with us. I think because we were so relaxed with each other. I havent read the bok recommended yet but ive heard its really helpful good luck 
RE: Fisting..curiosity - 
Gonna keep looking though. Other than a pain factor...this does seem like a very rewarding activity.
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