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RE: Polyamory - 6/8/2007 11:02:17 AM

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It can work, but from personal experiance both dom's must be very confident in who they are. And one must have the final say. If one of the doms is unable to accept their faults then the other is left picking up the pieces.

I do understand that the idea of two doms goes against some people's personal beliefs and I dealt with a lot of flack over living that way. But, even though the secondary didn't work out and turned out to be someone less than trustworthy, there are certain aspects of that situation I do not regret. Including learning to accept all of who I am.

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RE: Polyamory - 6/8/2007 2:35:49 PM

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We're a Dom/Domme couple and we reside in a rural and sparsely kink-populated area. It's a Male Dom/female sub majority. We've never had a problem with being accepted for who/what we are, and the type of arrangement we seek with a slave, or slaves, as the case may be.

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RE: Polyamory - 6/8/2007 3:59:05 PM

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In the situation i am currently in who i follow depends on a system that They have worked out between them, so that i have clear cut guidelines. One lives closer to me than the Other, so i obey that One while at home. When W/we both go up to visit the other Dominant, because W/we are in His house, He is the one to follow in case of a conflict. It can be worked out, if all parties are willing.

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RE: Polyamory - 6/8/2007 6:32:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlespicyone

Is it okay for a sub to have more than one dom? Doms can have more than one sub, in fact, it seems to me that many doms EXPECT and feel they are entitled to multiple subbies scuttling after their every whim, so it is okay for subs to have multiple doms?

I'm not asking if it's desirable to have more than one dom. I want to know if it's acceptable.

I wonder if, in much the same way that promiscuous boys are "studs" but promiscuous girls are "sluts," there is a stigma placed on serving more than one dom.

I read this.. and I wonder Acceptable to who?

and does it really matter to you if it is or isn't Acceptable to them?

frankly it is the last question that is of the greater importance.

but I will add... Why does it matter to you if it is Acceptable to them or not?

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RE: Polyamory - 6/8/2007 6:57:03 PM

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here, here! i agree 100%. each person has to find what is "acceptable" and "unacceptable" to themselves. if you and your Dom agrees, then that is what is acceptable.
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