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ORIGINAL: smallsoldiers

What are your experiences Misstriss' on using a dildo compared to the real thing?

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ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

I prefer the real thing, frankly.  Thankfully, my slave is well above average in that department so don't have to worry about it.

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

I would figure patrons of a BDSM meeting and discussion site would be more open minded than some of the previous posts.  Yes, its personal information, but we can be adult here.  Every woman I know owns at least one sex toy, my mother included.  (Don't ask, I'd rather not talk about it.) 

I'm going to give you what I've learned about dildoes, men, women, and relationships.  Sex toys can replace a man in a physical sense.  The picture you gave leads me to believe its a bigger vibrating penis... You'll never be able to match it in specs.  You can do things it cannot.  Dirty talk, pulling hair, spanking her, blah blah blah... Men and women enjoy physical pleasure, but women have a more attuned mind for psychological pleasure.  You cannot be replaced by such a simple machine. 

Everything counts in terms of giving pleasure, especially with women.  In addition to size/width (to a degree, there IS a too big), other things count. +5 for a good scent, +3 for a body she can fall onto to grab hold of during climax, +1 for flowers that day, +7 for properly executed foreplay.  (100% arbitrary scale)

I think it's a very wise for you to put aside your insecurities and seek to please her.  It takes a very big man to buy a rubber cock bigger than his own.  She'll recognize that.  The only thing I can suggest is to not allow a vibrating bigger toy to become the standard... As soon as she "needs" it to get off, you should ween her down, ya' dig?  You don't want to be out of the job...  If it gets to that point a few days of not getting off and she'll be back to normal.  I know a handful of women who get addicted to stimulation and needs three jackhammers to even be aroused.  Such an overdose of pleasure doesn't give mortals a chance.

As you posted here in the Mistress's forum, let me assume for a moment she is your Mistress. My previous information has been very vanilla, and more of a vanilla/switch/BDSM=kink response.

As a submissive, you did the right thing in putting her pleasure first.  Buying her a toy that she would want is a lovely tribute.  Few understand better than I the delicate balance of a vanilla / BDSM swirl relationship.  It can get very blurry, and make things harder.  She could be torn between being a "good" girlfriend, and not asking for her mate to get a toy bigger than what he has, and being a Mistress... Surely she doesn't want to push you away, so there is a delicate balance.

In terms of the dildo you bought, I can't say much... But I will tell you what I know.  MOST women I know prefer a soft but firm rubber material that feels like skin, but keeps a rigid shape.  Life-like can be a plus, but grooves, ribs, ridges, veins and the like are always welcome.  Size is based on preference, but you have that set.  Vibrating is almost always a plus.  I can't comment on the make and model because I've never tried it.

On thing to look into is an extender... It is the best of both worlds for her (man and machine) and can be fun for you... Imagine a really big condom that gives you a little extra length and width...