LafayetteLady
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
It's his own fault. You said no, several times and then he tried to pin you. Frankly, he's lucky he got off with just a punch. You could get him serving some jail time.
I made sure he was well aware of that. I also pointed out that if I chose to do so, given the fact that he is employed by the Newark Public School System that just filing a complaint would cause him to lose his job under the morals clause of his teaching contract.
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
But no, to answer your question, I have never had that experience. Mostly because I inform them, in no uncertain terms, that I am capable of, and will, remove their man bits and stuff them with sawdust to use as Christmas decorations if they violate the terms of consent.
To be very clear here, that discussion has frequently occurred with people that I talk with, including this guy, when the subject of limits and activities come up. No one has ever questioned that I meant what I said. But like the use of safewords, if someone is going to choose to ignore it, it is all wasted breath anyway.
While I never have and still do not condone physical violence, I think the shock of having someone who is submissive essentially "switch" in a second caused such shock, that it threw him off guard. The other posts in this thread where the sub has responded similarly they all have gotten the same reaction of shock. When so many threads are all about how "true" submissives and "true" dominants behave, reality can be a great eye opener. From what I have learned about most submissives and slaves on THIS site is that almost all of us are self sufficient productive human beings functioning quite independently in the "vanilla" world.
I forget who mentioned the "fight or flight" instinct, but most of us have it. I think one of my biggest "issues" emotionally is my stoicism. That inner strength and wall of protection, in this case, has been helpful because I am not really suffering any emotional issues (although they may come in the future, for all we know) from the event. When something happens, I deal with it, and move on. It has served my life pretty well.
I began this post, however, for those who read those "true" whatever threads, and think they are learning what is expected from them at all times. As I have said before, I believe that being submissive is very empowering. One must truly know who and what they are to emotionally navigate this lifestyle. Without that self esteem, many types of play are emotionally crippling, or just help to foster someone's already poor self image.
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