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Notanaddict -> multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 11:47:35 AM)
After I cum, its like my clit disappears and other parts of me becomes over sensitive and its avtually quit uncomfortable to stimulate them.... I sometimes try to come again, because I know I can when I wank (although every orgasme gets progressively worse) but its like it ruins the first orgasme (at least partly) and its VERY frustrating when I can't come.... Its like its just there, but I just can't get to the finishline.... Does ANYone have any ideas on something new to try? Its frustrating, and my girlfriend would love it if I could come mre than once, I know this.... And I would LOVE to be able to do it... I'm just lost for ideas.... Like if I'm getting fisted and come, then It almostly always starts hurting a LOT if she doesn't pull out, it kinda burns... its so annoying

drawntothedark -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 11:52:33 AM)
I sort of do the same thing. Sometimes, it helps to take a break (like 20 minutes) and then try to have another one. Also I have a bullet and it helps a lot. I have had to work very hard on not pulling away after I cum. I'm so overtly sensitive there that it's the first thing I do after. If you have anyone who sells adult toys and creams (like fun parties) you could try some female responce gel or cream. They seem to make me multi half of the time.

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 11:54:39 AM)
i have the same issue...Master just lets me take a few minutes....

Notanaddict -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 11:54:58 AM)
Thank you for yr reply... I can come after having a break, but its not multi, its just having sex again.... I had some of those female gels ( i think though, it was mostly menthol) and it just BURNS

mstrjx -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 11:58:41 AM)
Probably someone else will answer this before I do, but I'll give it a go. Although I'm not a woman, and can't directly relate, I might be able to help. I think the first thing is, by your own admission, subsequent orgasms, while 'possible', are unpleasant. Sex isn't a marathon, and it's not a competitive sport. In the end, we should do what feels good (all other distractions aside). You want to please your partner, and that's quite understandable, but she is probably built or 'wired' differently where she doesn't have this difficulty and could be hard for her to understand. Certainly you have discussed this with her, and she should recognize that if it's not 'good for you' past the first time doing it with someone who knows your body better than anyone (you), then she 'probably' can't make it any better coming from her. Certainly the desire is there, but the execution isn't bearing the fruit either of you think it should. You probably just need to call it a day with one, until your body readjusts back to its equilibrium point. Just one guy's take on things. Jeff

MercilessMarcy -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:04:29 PM)
A better goal might be to see how many times you can cum in 12 hours. Seriously make an effort to think up different ways to cum (the bullet is a good example) every two hours. The anticipation of cuming a different way each time is great! How many ways do you know?

darkinshadows -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:05:32 PM)
Something that helps to understand (for yourself) is what kind of orgasm you are having. (It can also assist with advice from others). Do you have clitoral, vaginal, internal, sensual...? Peace

Notanaddict -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:05:43 PM)
I have been able to come multiple times.... i just can't remember how:/

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:06:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Notanaddict I have been able to come multiple times.... i just can't remember how:/ Well Geezus....[sm=ofcourse.gif]...........LOL

Notanaddict -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:08:16 PM)
I come quite easily from clit stimulation, but have a much better orgasme if there is both vaginal and clitoral stimulation... I have only on very very few occasions come from only vaginal stimulation but its been rare, but absolutly GOOD

drawntothedark -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:08:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: imthatacheyouhav quote: ORIGINAL: Notanaddict I have been able to come multiple times.... i just can't remember how:/ Well Geezus....[sm=ofcourse.gif]...........LOL LOL - well it is sort of the last thing your thinking about. It's not like your keeping a journal at the time to review. You just HAVE them.

CreativeDominant -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:09:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Notanaddict After I cum, its like my clit disappears and other parts of me becomes over sensitive and its avtually quit uncomfortable to stimulate them.... I sometimes try to come again, because I know I can when I wank (although every orgasme gets progressively worse) but its like it ruins the first orgasme (at least partly) and its VERY frustrating when I can't come.... Its like its just there, but I just can't get to the finishline.... Does ANYone have any ideas on something new to try? Its frustrating, and my girlfriend would love it if I could come mre than once, I know this.... And I would LOVE to be able to do it... I'm just lost for ideas.... Like if I'm getting fisted and come, then It almostly always starts hurting a LOT if she doesn't pull out, it kinda burns... its so annoying I can't say that I disagree with anything that has been said here. It all sounds like good advice although I will address the fisting. Perhaps part of the reason it burns is because of the expansion due to the fist and then, the tighter contractions that come with stretched tissue. Sometimes when muscle is stretched, the contractions that come into play are much stronger.

Notanaddict -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:11:46 PM)
The bullet is great, but i find that it makes me numb muchs faster than f.ex oral... Fisting works:) so does oral.... strap on combined with bullet is also good... I guess I'm lucky, its not like I can't cum.... I come rather easily.... but I feel like there is potential there, and i'm not tapping into it:)

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:13:32 PM)
Add lube Try a sybian- lots more control over levels of stimulation Be ok with stopping and starting again Be ok with this never happening, you aren't bad or a failure because you don't get your body to do what you want for this

CuriousLord -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:20:37 PM)
Mind screw, maybe? I trained a slave to cum over a dozen times in five minutes from touching her ears alone and having her utterly convinced it was the most errotic, dirtiest thing possible. I checked your profile, which says you're a switch. If you're in Domme mode, you might have to figure things out for yourself, as a dominant, to me, seeems to often be the one to come up with solutions and make things work. If you're in sub mode, and you can find a Domme (or, if you're not completely opposed to it, as they seem to be easier to find, a Dom) who is able to reshape your mind at a whim, she'd basically be able to reprogram you to cum at command. From my experience, to reprogram someone, the reprogramee must be relatively willing and the reprogrammer must be more intelligent. How far it can be taken depeonds on how willing the reprogramee is and how effective the understanding and skill of the reprogramer is.

Notanaddict -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:25:24 PM)
Thanks CL for a good reply... yes, I find mind games work wonders.. have had great experiences with sensory depravation and sensation play, like knives, feathers and sharp nails... it was devine.. off course I was tied up spread eagle, blindfolded and earplugs in... :)

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:25:47 PM)
quote: LOL - well it is sort of the last thing your thinking about. It's not like your keeping a journal at the time to review. You just HAVE them. LOL...ok you got me there....

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:28:14 PM)
i wish i could have multiples

Notanaddict -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:32:53 PM)
I was also quite suprised when I had some rather good orgasmes from online stuff.... which I never thought was gonna be interesting, but I guess the lack of access to experiences made a bit of a difference..

PONYSEEKER -> RE: multiple orgasme issues (5/23/2007 12:42:25 PM)
I have had good results with woman in the past when it comes to multiples by first switching the type of stimulation. By that I mean by doing something like a clitoral orgasm with oral then vaginal orgasm by penetration then moving on to either G-spot or back clitoral again using a different method of stimulation. The other thing I do is more of a mental thing by trying to teach the woman not to work so hard for the orgasm and by teaching trust which seems to work in a couple of different ways. The first is that they have to trust that they can have an orgasm through some means and it isnt going to pass them by so to speak which seems to take some of the performance issues away and also trust that I have enough knowledge about them to not over stimulate and also get them into the headspace where they are accepting of the stimulation and can mentaly meet it instead of running from it..lol. I am a guy so all this could be bullshit because woman are so good and lieing about such things but its kind of like a enjoy everthing else and let your body do what it does and hang on for the ride instead of trying to make everything happen a certain way. I also feel that a lot to do with the orgasmic response in woman is by association which seems to cause a lot of problems so I allways start out trying to learn what those associations are and how to break them of it which is not hard at all to do.

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