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cyberdude611 -> Good looking men are boring? (5/23/2007 5:17:56 AM)

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We only date ugly men

May 22, 2007

Slicking on another layer of lipgloss, Selena Maria slings her bag over her shoulder and struts into the bar.
A sea of dark, handsome heads turn to ogle her. Jaws drop and good-looking men raise their eyebrows or move in to offer her a drink.
But Selena walks on by. She only has eyes for one man. He’s waiting for her in a dark corner. He’s not one of the handsome guys in sharp suits. He’s not even ‘average’.

He’s bald and podgy, with a pock-marked face, and is easily the ugliest man in the room. She sidles into the chair next to him.
‘Hi, gorgeous,’ she purrs. The man’s gargoyle face breaks into a toothless smile.

The good-looking men know they don’t stand a chance.

Selena has dated her fair share of hunks, but has given up on gorgeous guys because they’re dull – both in and out of bed.
‘I can’t imagine anything more boring than classic handsome looks,’ she says. ‘I prefer no teeth, baldness and piercings to model looks. I like celebs such as Adrien Brody and Mackenzie Crook rather than Brad Pitt.

‘Ugly men try harder. They care more about you and treat you like a princess. Good-looking guys are self-obsessed. That’s not attractive.’
And Selena is not alone. In a recent study, sociologist Diane Felmee found only a third of women said looks were the first thing that attracted them to a man. Most preferred a sense of humour or financial and career success.

Researchers at Newcastle University also believe ugly men exist as a way of repairing our gene pool. Women would rather date men with good genes, who can fight disease easily, than a classically beautiful man.

So are good looks really that important? Love It! found three women who definitely don’t think so.

'Good-looking men are just boring!'

Mum-of-one and model Vanessa Upton, 28, from Southeast London, has been living with Colin Kane, 34, a boxer and car renovator, for four years.

I lay back in my bikini, arched my back and stuck out my breasts to strike an alluring pose. Then click!
‘That’s beautiful,’ the photographer cried. ‘You look absolutely gorgeous.’

As a glamour model, I was used to hearing those words every day. For 13 years, I’ve been constantly surrounded by hot-looking men, too.
People always assumed I’d end up with a gorgeous male model on my arm. But looks alone weren’t enough for me. Most of the male models just didn’t turn me on.

I wanted something more. And then I met Colin. I was working as a ring-card girl at a boxing match.
As I strutted around the ring in a little bikini with a giant card telling everyone what round was next, I couldn’t take my eyes off Colin.
He was a cornerman and looked after one of the boxers in the fight. He had a shaved head, a broken nose – and electric-blue eyes.
And when those eyes met mine, I felt the most incredible sexual charge flash between us.

I couldn’t believe my luck when he stripped down to a pair of shorts. He was taut and toned.
‘Phwoarr!’ I thought. ‘He’s just my type.’ I wanted to rip his clothes off right there and then.

I’ve never been attracted to smooth-looking men.

I’m surrounded by male models at work, and while they’re often lovely guys, the chisel-jawed Italian-stallion look makes me cringe.
They are so very ordinary. I like a man who looks different – intriguing, with something to offer on the inside.

And there’s something about blokes with bald heads that drives me really crazy – especially if they can make me laugh, too.
Colin made me giggle from the second he came over to chat me up that night. He’d heard I had a bad back. 
‘How do you fancy a massage?’ he said with a cheeky grin. ‘I’m a sports therapist.’

I turned down his offer, but I took his number and couldn’t stop thinking about him for the next two weeks.

Finally, I plucked up the courage to phone him and asked: ‘Can I have that massage now?’
We met up and he massaged me for two and a half hours, and I realised that no matter how anyone thought he looked, Colin was brilliant with his hands.

Our next meeting was a proper date and we couldn’t keep our hands off each other.

Four years later, we still can’t – and I feel so lucky to have found a bloke who makes me feel this way, every day. 

A few of my model friends have taken me to one side and asked: ‘Why are you with him? What do you see in him?’

But I really don’t know what they’re talking about. In my eyes, he’s drop-dead gorgeous. He’s my perfect man.

My five-year-old son, James, absolutely loves him. I want to have children with Colin. I’m sure they’d be just as adorable as he is.

Besides, once the bedroom lights go out, it’s down to sexual skill and personality – and my Colin has tons of both.

http://www.thesun.co.uk/article/0,,11000-2007230354,00.html




sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/23/2007 5:59:16 AM)

if you want to be happy for the rest of your life
don't make a pretty woman (man) your wife (husband)




puella -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/23/2007 6:22:42 AM)

I will say that as a rule I would never seek out a really super handsome man (once bitten twice shy I guess)... but (and I think this is pretty relevant) I do recognize that this is tied up in many of my own issues, not any sort of scientific study about what sort of man makes a wonderful life partner.

I will add that beauty does tend to breed a sense of extraordinary entitlement.




KatyLied -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/23/2007 6:56:24 AM)

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I will add that beauty does tend to breed a sense of extraordinary entitlement.


True.  It's society's fault.  Look at how advertising, media, etc fall all over pretty people.  Heck I've been known to stand in awe of a beautiful woman or man, sort of acknowledging them as a piece of flesh and envying them their good genetics.




subfever -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/23/2007 7:48:56 AM)

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In a recent study, sociologist Diane Felmee found only a third of women said looks were the first thing that attracted them to a man. Most preferred a sense of humour or financial and career success.


This is old news to those who have been paying attention to the dynamics of female to male attraction.

The key isn't necessarily the money, it's the confidence that money tends to give men... which they then project outwards during the initial attraction phase with women.

But too much confidence less humor is often
interpreted as arrogant and/or conceit, which is typically a losing combination for attracting women who have choices in men... unless the women are gold-digging.  




pinksugarsub -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/23/2007 7:54:17 AM)

The beauty of A/anyone is always in the eye of the B/beholder.  Sounds like cyberdude or Selena or whomever found Colin particulary attractive.
 
i was just crazy about a Man in my school years because the way He smelled made me feel drunk.  He was not especially attractive and i couldn't stay away from Him.
 
i have also met "handsome" Men who just do not smell/move/etc. in a way that pleases me.  i also do not care for "Metrosexual" Men or Men afflicted with some glaring personality problem.
 
i think Whom we find attractive is highly idiosyncratic, and that all that matters is Selena finds Colin irresitable.




shyinini -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/23/2007 10:15:11 PM)

Metrosexual?




dcnovice -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/23/2007 10:19:18 PM)

quote:

I will add that beauty does tend to breed a sense of extraordinary entitlement.


I wouldn't know.




dcnovice -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/23/2007 10:21:10 PM)

quote:

Metrosexual?


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Metrosexual




OedipusRexIt -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/23/2007 10:40:03 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: puella

I will say that as a rule I would never seek out a really super handsome man (once bitten twice shy I guess)... but (and I think this is pretty relevant) I do recognize that this is tied up in many of my own issues, not any sort of scientific study about what sort of man makes a wonderful life partner.

I will add that beauty does tend to breed a sense of extraordinary entitlement.




.... and so I feel entitled to start eating donuts and stop working out...

I am so screwed!




SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/23/2007 10:57:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: puella

I will say that as a rule I would never seek out a really super handsome man (once bitten twice shy I guess)... but (and I think this is pretty relevant) I do recognize that this is tied up in many of my own issues, not any sort of scientific study about what sort of man makes a wonderful life partner.

I will add that beauty does tend to breed a sense of extraordinary entitlement.


Unless one is lucky enough to find a gorgeous man who happens to be clueless about his looks.




Vendaval -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/24/2007 3:15:08 AM)

That type of attitude is far too often the case with very physically
attractive people.  I really cringe when some of the very handsome
jock/frat boy types try to pick up on me! 


quote:

ORIGINAL: puella

I will add that beauty does tend to breed a sense of extraordinary entitlement.





MadameMarque -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/24/2007 7:45:57 AM)

To people who make blanket assumptions about someone's heart or intellect or creativity or behaviour or moral substance, based upon their being considered physically beautiful, I say,
 
*Who* is being superficial??


...and if you're making the inverse assumption about people who are, by common standards, less physically attractive, and imagining them to be, therefore, more kind, brave, creative, intelligent, etc.,
...see above.
 
 
We are more than the sum of our parts.
 
 




pahunkboy -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/24/2007 7:51:07 AM)

in the gay world looks are EVERYTHING. 

over 30? forget it.

yet-  i see so many broken straight folks too.




Tuomas -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/24/2007 8:13:37 AM)

The article reads like it was written by a bunch of "ugly" guys that couldn't get laid [:'(] Different people are attracted to different things. I know the (physical) things I like in a girl do not fall in the traditional model of "hot" -but that doesn't mean she's ugly.

The article is just one blatant hypocritical rant....

And this is very insightful:


quote:

ORIGINAL: subfever

quote:

In a recent study, sociologist Diane Felmee found only a third of women said looks were the first thing that attracted them to a man. Most preferred a sense of humour or financial and career success.


This is old news to those who have been paying attention to the dynamics of female to male attraction.

The key isn't necessarily the money, it's the confidence that money tends to give men... which they then project outwards during the initial attraction phase with women.

But too much confidence less humor is often
interpreted as arrogant and/or conceit, which is typically a losing combination for attracting women who have choices in men... unless the women are gold-digging.  





puella -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/24/2007 8:35:27 AM)

Indeed.. did anyone be me notice the irony in the article, at how important it seemed to be to mention in more than one way and instance that the chick was HOTTTTT!!!!.... So it validates the fact that it is important for the woman to be beautiful and makes the man who is not good looking that much cooler for the chick being hot... nice double standard there, eh? I bet the validation of the 'ugly' guy would not be a rich (if at all) were he being appreciated by a woman of average looks or an 'ugliness' equal to his own...

Strange, that.




pahunkboy -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/24/2007 8:38:26 AM)

i noticed a double standard. yup




slaverosebeauty -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/24/2007 8:50:51 AM)

I did the 'ugly guy' thing, my friends all said 'she depressed' once I got out of that stupper, I went back to dating men who are/were attractive.

I want to look good on a man's arm, and him look good next to me as well. What's on the inside counts a LOT, yet, I will be honest, looks do count for a portion, heart, chemistry, who they are matters more; yet, at the end of the day, I don't want to have to lie when I cuddle up close and say 'night handsome.' Also, having a small child, my son will say 'something' kids ALWAYS do. He has even asked me why I was 'friends' with men who were 'not very handsome.' Oh.. not that this is ANY indication of a person who is less attractive, but the few guys who were 'less attractive' also turned out to be abusers and I had to get orders of protection {restraining orders} against them, after one tried to kill me and the other became obsessive, to the point I had to have a boyguard. Both were nice guys in the beginning, then they went psycho.

I will stick to attractive men, tyvm.




Lashra -> RE: Good looking men are boring? (5/24/2007 9:37:23 AM)

Looks fade, brains tend to stick around. I go for personality myself, though having a big cock and a willing tongue are pretty high up on my list.

~Lashra




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