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MadRabbit -> RE: no meaning at all (5/20/2007 1:35:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave
There have been so many debates about what is a sub what is a slave what is a bottom what is a Dom or Master or Top and it seems there are as many different definitions as there are people, Everyone says it depends on the people and what they call themselves to define it for themselves, But i ask you when do these words just simply lose any meaning at all. When you have as many definitions as people the words begin to mean nothing at all, Labels are no good because one persons slave is anothers sub and one persons Master is a Top to another, and then you get words like fake and wannabe thrown out because these people who label themselves these ways do not measure up to the definition someone els personally gives the word. I think this breeds a lot of animosity amongst the community. I mean how many threads have there been in the last few weeks alone about Fakes and wannabes not to mention the number of threads asking what the difference between sub and slave is. The only thing we can seem to agree on is that these words have no definition at all and there for in my opinion are meaningless and rather worthless to us as a group trying to find a way to define ourselves so that we can match up with our perfect other half!!
Magik's slave
The words lose meaning when we start to think on too large of a scale outside of ourselves.
My definitions have meaning to me. They are how I categorize people in an attempt to provide some order and sense to things. My definitions, however, are only relevant to me and my experiences.
I can say...well this person is a bottom to me and this person is a submissive. This is simply how I view them. Whats important to remember is that these are solely my views and dont apply outside of myself.
The drama starts when people start to take a One True Wayism approach and forget that how they see things isnt necessarily how the next person sees them. That they are always right and everyone else is always wrong.
I can see someone as a bottom and that person can see themselves as a slave. It would be wrong and flawed of me to take the standpoint that they are wrong about their own self imposed label and claim they are not in fact a slave when I see them as a bottom.
Labels are very useful and have valid meaning when kept in the scope of each individual. Its when people start to go outside of that scope and start to apply the labels to other people with a One True Wayism mentality that it becomes a problem.
Sure, we can all come up with 40 different definitions for the word Master, but each definition has meaning to the invididual becauce it allows them to define and summarize their own path and experiences. You just have to remember that your path isnt the same as the next persons.
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