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imthatacheyouhav -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/20/2007 2:26:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

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ORIGINAL: imthatacheyouhav
OMG...you mean ones sparkling personality doesnt automaticially shine through on ones profile??....DAMN IT!!!


Now Now.. don't poke fun at the ones that read more like dimmly lit light bulbs in a dark musty closest! :-)

LOL...touche !!



imthatacheyouhav -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/20/2007 2:28:35 PM)

Oh my God yes....Ladies LOVE cock shot...yes indeed!!..the only problem is when you actually do meet in person you tend to be looking for a short bald guy that drools....... LMAO...i crack myself up.....



LadyHugs -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/20/2007 2:32:22 PM)

Dear EasyE, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
In my mind's eyes I see, a profile is a public presentation.  I would advise not to falsely proffer experience when none is the truth.
 
It is not a very easy task to find someone, regardless of how seasoned or how brand new individuals are.  It requires a lot of patience to weed through the many profiles and many rejections along the way.
 
Communication is a must.
 
I highly recommend seeking a local BDSM support and education group and look for like minded individuals who are beyond just speaking about the lifestyle but, actually participate in it.
 
I would network with individuals on Collarme.com and seek high and low for what you seek.  Just don't forget to live while you seek.
 
Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



Masterdarkone26 -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/20/2007 2:45:16 PM)

I think that you have to be active and be willing to step out of your shell and rather than just be dormant and let you profile try and get you noticed.. you some times have to go out of the way to greet the new subs as they sign up..  Send them a short little message welcomeing them to CM. Tell them about yourself and wish them luck in what ever it is they are searching for and if you feel you can do that or would like to talk with them then offer or ask.. you might be suprised. just a simple hello and good luck in your search to the new members helps get you noticed and could lead you to that perfect Sub who would like to know more.



maledave7 -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/20/2007 3:00:10 PM)

Be honest with what you write in your profile. Tell people what you are seeking and do not change your profile to match with what someone else is seeking. A photo is good to have with your profile.
Being involved with the Message Boards is a good way for people to notice you. You should read many different topics. Be honest with your opinions and feels on different subjects. People will have different opinions and ideas.



EasyE -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/20/2007 6:37:13 PM)

I wasn't asking anyone to view my prof to troll.  I really just wanted to see if there was room for improvement.  Anyways I'll take a look at the those typos and fix those up in a few I got to get to sleep for work.  Thanks for the help.  And I was asking about the pic because I wanted to know about privacy more than anything.



stella40 -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/21/2007 12:29:52 AM)

Your profile seems okay, good photo, it appears to have all the right information, but, it doesn't engage anyone.

How about starting off your profile with a quotation? Doesn't have to be Wordsworth or Keats, it could be a lyric from one of your favourite songs.

Ask a question to engage whoever's browsing your profile, make them think. As long as you can keep someone thinking you got them reading your profile.

Try and stand out from the crowd, be yourself. 'Oh yeah, I'm a young dom guy, I'm doing college and I'm into...' - so are thousands of other dom guys. How about starting out with something which makes you unique? Different?

Don't be afraid to experiment or change your profile. It's like a mini-website, your mini-website, so easy to change and update.make it your's.

Good luck.  



TeacherNStudent -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/21/2007 1:14:24 AM)

Five-nine is not short.  And I only drool when I'm asleep. Well, usually.

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ORIGINAL: imthatacheyouhav

Oh my God yes....Ladies LOVE cock shot...yes indeed!!..the only problem is when you actually do meet in person you tend to be looking for a short bald guy that drools....... LMAO...i crack myself up.....



tosted -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/21/2007 1:55:33 AM)

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HeavansKeeper -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/21/2007 4:50:24 AM)

Being on the prowl for a relationship is a matter of selling oneself.  What makes you worth her time (to be your Dom or sub)? My profile is horrible, I only have one picture, I tell nothing about my experiences, I don't discuss my likes/dislikes, I don't show my humor, I don't show my thinking style.  It only has the most important tidbit about my existance here. (Hello, My Love, how is your forum reading assignment going?)  Not to brag, but I've gotten an email or two from people who wanted to play around/have a relationship/ask questions.  The reason is because I probably said something on a thread and they had a "He gets me!" moment.  I was never much good at the dating game, and I can't sell ice to the ekim- indigenous people of the Pacific Northwest.  Just be yourself, and have fun here.
 
Avoid lying about yourself and accuracy through numbers.  Your profile screams "I'm new."  I'll be honest.  You're getting 'marked off' for:
1) Wanting a sexual relationship. (Many people view BDSM to be seperate from sex, or at least don't see it as a sexual thing by nature.)
2) You list an age bracket and desire someone pretty. (It's honest, but it's off-putting for women in the community.)
3) You used the statement "I'm not interested in any long term... (The very next line you say you're cool with it.  'chicks dig long term, dude')
4) You're a Dom/switch, but you don't make it clear.
5) The whole profile is negative.  It reminds me of a woman on AOL where her profile reads "NO MEN.  NO CYBER. NO PHONE. NO A/S/L OR I BLOCK YOU. NO IM'ING ME. DON'T ASK FOR PICS. I DON'T HAVE PICS. Single. I HATE SPAM AND LIFE AND BLAR BLAR BLAR!
 
Why list so many disqualifiers?  Women hold all the cards when a relationship (defined, in this case, as any dynamic betwixt two or more people) starts.  You only get the cards she drops.  Stop slapping said cards away.

Edit: There's an "e" in "one"



PrincessEllie -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/21/2007 5:34:33 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

Re-post your profile as a young, attractive, inexperienced fem/sub who's willing to try *anything* at least twice.  See if your email improves then.... lol 
 
Or if that's too scarey, just post yourself as female - that should pare it right back to about 10 a day....
 
Focus.

Only ten? Make sure you specify you're only looking for people 30 and under so you can attract all of those 40+ twue Dom members.

That should get you about fifteen a day.



Kana -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/21/2007 5:47:58 AM)

1-Work on your writing. It is garbled and incoherent.Examine the first paragraph for evidence.
2-New pic please, something with some more appeal
3-The poster above is correct, your profile, while most likely not intended to be so, comes off negative. The first paragraph is defensive, which is never a good start. Try standard english instead of "da" and avoid words  such as "corrupt."
4-Realize that the numbers are against you, that the best way to meet is to outreach, whether through the forums or e-mails, but your best bet is always the live local community. Profiles are a platform for which you can reach out, for a variety of reasons, there are not too many submissive women who initiate a greet (I know, I know, broad generalization, but the numbers seem to be true, at least for me)
5-Put some thought and effort into your journal, show people something about you. Me I write peotry and post that. Some people love it, some people hate it, but it breaks the mold and lets people know I am not trying to be an "Uber-Dom."
Anyhow, that my  two cents worth, you asked so...shrugs.



whisperedsighs -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/21/2007 11:52:26 AM)

You might want to take the ball in hand and do some looking yourself.  Reach out and email a sub/slave who looks interesting.  Refer to something in their profile that caught your interest or attention and start a discussion on that.  I would suggest you don't drive directly for the "your hot, wanna fuck" email.  Not to say that you would.  Good luck in your hunt.



EasyE -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/21/2007 5:45:57 PM)

Thanks for all the positive advice!  I never thought about offending people with age brackets or involving sex in the relationship as negative.  Also, the whole defensive thing about being switch is good to take out.  I have to get to another Jim's Diamond shop munch again, if anything there is live play to look at.  That's where I met my first Domme. 

Thanks,

Ed

BTW I don't know why anyone would post here to get views of their prof.  I'm into realtime so the chances of someone from my area viewing the post... worse then the chances of finding and attractive Domme that still needs a sub.  LOL.



Slavetrainer2007 -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/21/2007 8:29:03 PM)

Well one of your problems is going to be your age. You are going to be looked at as inexperienced. Naturally people assume that if you are 20-24 you have no or little experience and if you are 40 you have 10-20 years experience. Your profile dont look to bad. The main thing is you dont bitch moan and groan.  you want to come off as a positive person.

You want to log in often. It will keep you near the top of the list. I would say once a day  at least. You have to remember odds are against you and  you are young so you have a handicap and  bad odds already.  You can make up for the age typically by writing( in journal/blog) and posting on the boards. People will be more  comfortable with you age if you show responsiblity, maturity, and good intellect. You may also want to go profile trolling at people you are interested in. Many people check "whos viewing me"  at least occasionally.




Sinergy -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/21/2007 8:36:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

Cock shots.

Big, huge cock shots.


Dont forget to have a roll of Lifesavers next to it so everybody can judge the size correctly.

Sinergy



whisperedsighs -> RE: How to spark interest in your profile (5/22/2007 2:54:21 PM)

I am not saying involving sex is negative, what I am saying is often times it is not the initail approach to take with someone.  I have heard many women laugh at private play parties about the first emails they get at times, that go right for the sex, and ignore the person. 

Definitely sex in the relationship is great! 

I think going to the local venues is a great idea!  I am sure you will find the right one.



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