What Helps Y/you Decide?

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pinksugarsub -> What Helps Y/you Decide? (5/18/2007 1:53:12 PM)
What factors did or are or will help Y/you decide to enter a D/s dynamic with A/anyone else (or elses)? i know what qualities i want and don't want but i also think there will be a sense of "pull" that i really enjoy and ultimately give into. What's Y/your opinion?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What Helps Y/you Decide? (5/18/2007 2:02:02 PM)
Connection is part, intuition is part, good judgement is a BIG part, and compatibility of goals, desires and personalities is the core.

whisperedsighs -> RE: What Helps Y/you Decide? (5/18/2007 2:12:32 PM)
I need to be inspired. No pressure there...LOL Being inspired in someone often comes from the day to day things.

earthycouple -> RE: What Helps Y/you Decide? (5/18/2007 2:17:41 PM)
Ditto to LA's post and whisperedsighs....Amazing photo!

slaveish -> RE: What Helps Y/you Decide? (5/18/2007 3:47:29 PM)
They have to be people I can respect, people who are comfortable in their command, good sense of humor, intelligence, a warm and genuine personality. There has to be some chemistry there. A sense of fun.

WhiplashSmile -> RE: What Helps Y/you Decide? (5/18/2007 4:46:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Connection is part, intuition is part, good judgement is a BIG part, and compatibility of goals, desires and personalities is the core. This is the most important aspect for me as well. This applies in my book for either D/s or D/D base relationship dynamic. Hell a lot of this applies to nearly any relationship I form with anybody, it extends simply beyond the scopr of 24/7 relationships.

CrazyC -> RE: What Helps Y/you Decide? (5/18/2007 6:31:58 PM)
A connection where in his care i can only feel that sitting at his feet is my place.

Einzelganger -> RE: What Helps Y/you Decide? (5/18/2007 6:58:18 PM)
First and foremost, I need to get along with her. Second, but far more importantly, I have to trust her. I discovered, the hard way, that trust is not something to be handed out freely to people we want to trust. It has to be earned. -Einzelgänger

SanDieganMichael -> RE: What Helps Y/you Decide? (5/18/2007 7:19:50 PM)
Chemistry, and trust. I guess we're not all that different than everyone else.

juliaoceania -> RE: What Helps Y/you Decide? (5/18/2007 8:26:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub What factors did or are or will help Y/you decide to enter a D/s dynamic with A/anyone else (or elses)? i know what qualities i want and don't want but i also think there will be a sense of "pull" that i really enjoy and ultimately give into. What's Y/your opinion? I do not know to be honest. A year ago we met, I saw him peering out a glass door at me, and even though I had no real close face pics of him (basically I had seen his kilt pic and that was all), I knew immediately that it was him. I know this is going to sound pink unicorn disgusting, but one look into his eyes and I knew that he was going to be very special to me, and I was right (ok, everyone can put away their barf bags now[:D]). I think that over the phone we talked for hours everyday before we even met. I knew he was 1) Intelligent 2) funny 3) spiritual in a similiar way to myself 4) independently liberal 5) we shared the same kinks... etc etc etc...so that common ground happened before we met, but it was when we met that we knew the spark was there.

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