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WhiplashSmile -> RE: New BDSM analogy (5/18/2007 12:03:23 PM)
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Analogies and Metaphors can be great to convey thoughts, ideas, meaning and emotions. However, you have to be consious of your target audience.
What one persons mental image of sailboating is totally different from another persons. This is based on their own personal experience or things they have read or saw about sailboating.
A group of farmers in Iowa may not fully connect with the deeper meaning or concepts being associated with Sailboating.
I found it interesting that CuriousLord spoke it being important that one should have partner with a paddle too, else you'll be rowing around in circles. While there is merit in what he posted, it itself does not strongly connect with the sailboating analogy. Where as Sailboating is about being powered by the wind and not by human power of oar strokes. The OP was expressing the harnessing the natural power and energy about oneself and using it for ones own purpose and direction. In many cases to the point where we can take engery that is working against us to move in the right direction we want to go. That we can move in a direction other then simply going with the natural flow of things. This is an aspect of my own Domly nature, that I don't simply go with the flow or follow the mindless masses at times. So many ways I equate the OPs post regarding being a Dom.
In regards to CuriousLords post, it reminds me of a passage out of the bible about a OX and an ASS being Yoked together trying to plow the field. An OX and Ass (jackass aka mule) coupled together will plow in circles. Well, so how does this apply to BDSM. It simply means that two like minded people need to get together. This does not mean that a pair of Dom/mes or submissives should get together. It just means that two people need to like minded on the choice for the type of relationship they desire to be able to have a relationship that has direction to it.
I think the OP was equating the wind to the power exchange itself. That the levels of power might change direction or even fluctuate and that one must be prepared to deal with it. Hell, not to mention what can happen in an unexpected storm. Relationship power dyanamics tend to be just that! Dynamic! it's not a simple matter of two people rowing in unison at a constant rate or direction. The sailboat dynamic also account for outside forces that threaten to change the direction of the boat as well. Wind itself being any force that exerts itself upon the power exchange dyanamics. For instance what happens when a Dom or submissive becomes ill, or let's say disabled for a matter of a few months. This is a bit of a change in the wind is it not? This is when two people can not simply row or even think about oaring a boat.
What if there is a death in the family, where somebody needs a break with the normal dynamics of the relationship. Peoples priorities can change and their focus is changed based on things such as the loss of a friend or family member, loss of job, changing jobs, relocation, and other things. Hell, the house could burn down. There are situations that will confront and test any Dom/me and it might be up to the other person (submissive or whoever) to pick up the slack or step out of their normal day to day role. For example, lets say.. I have a slave and her mother was killed in an auto accident! She would be in no frame of mind to function properly under the role of being a slave. It would be time for me to read this wind, and make adjustments in the sails to accomodate for the changes in the power dynamics. Last thing in the world I would be doing is expect for her to row in unison with my ass.. if this was a RowBoat...
There's a difference between the type of power involved in sailboating and rowboating. In my book if you can't row the boat yourself with both oars in the water or even one what are you going to do, in the event the other person becomes sicks, hurt, injured or god forbid falls over board. Will you find yourself rowing around in circles then?
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