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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/15/2007 11:24:58 AM

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Welcome Home was actually much more about solving the problem of homes seperating couples because there was no "legal family" connection. We want a couple's room together. No you can't have one you're not married.

Personally I'm opting for the whle recruit new slaves that are younger and task them with my upkeep, and that of my slave Elegant when she is no longer able to serve. A major reason we did marry was to protect her future should I die prematurely.
That and the insurance, LOL.

Edited to add in That one responsibility I was taught a Master has is to make sure that their slave is provided for in the event their owner dies prematurely.
My Leather brother Gregory and I have an agreement to take in the other's slave should one of us die before our slave.

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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/15/2007 2:40:24 PM

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"What happens to the aged submissives without a dominant? Nursing home time?"

If i outlive Hubby and am still capable of serving at all, I will look for a new dom to serve. I see an assisted living home or nursing home as the last resort when i can't care for myself. A home geared toward the lifestyle would be fun but i would still want to be close to my kids if possible.

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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/15/2007 3:14:45 PM

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I know of one project that a number of people have been working on known as "Welcome Home". The person working on organizing the BD/SM retirement community I heard about is Vi Johnson, a well known person in the scene for many years. Vi was an "old guard" slave for many years, an author and was an important person to the scene in several parts of the country. She has spoken and worked on fund raising at a number of BD/SM regional events.
I do not know if this project has yet decided upon a site or not as I have been out of touch with them for a couple of years.
I believe her concept included assisted living for dominants, switches and submissives of any sexual diversity, with visitors lodging for friends, family or partners not in need of assisted living.

I know of this project as well and I believe the location was going to be in rural Tennessee. From what I know about it though, it wasn't actually going to be a "retirement home" the way you're thinking of but rather an adult oriented community (like a kinky commune if you will.) It was going to be for adults only, no raising kids, no starting families, just people who wanted to live out in the middle of nowhere in a fully emersive bdsm environment. Sounds kind of nice for a vacation maybe but it's a little too much "Exit to Eden" for my tastes fulltime. I could be wrong, but I definitely didn't hear the part about the assisted living.

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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/15/2007 3:26:23 PM

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Should any be so fortunate to find someone to completely trust with your life; part of that decision should include consideration of the realities of life. That includes, growing old, dieing, becoming infirm, and everything that goes along with it. Life isn't all 'whips & chains'. No matter how much you pack into each day of living 24/7 as M/s, life has a way of interjecting non 'whips & chains' events. "Project out" must be a part of every considered relationship. Short term, you put your stuff in storage. Going long term, the "project out" better include the real and practical idea of death.

Great point. The 2006 International Ms. Leather, Lady Faye, goes around to M/s events to speak on the topic of having a will in place and making those arrangements so that people in non-traditional relationships like D/s, M/s, O/p are not left out in the cold if a partner passes unexpectedly. It's not a topic most people want to think about but you know what they say about death and taxes.

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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/15/2007 5:13:56 PM

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You know I read the main post and I have to share this thought, after having nearly fell out of my chair laughing.

So there I am, 70 some odd years old or more in this switch retirement home with some bullshit name like "Topping From the Very Bottom Retirement Home for Switches".
Everyone's going around on crutches, walkers and assisted with nurses and whatnot.
Every Friday night is the annual bowling league where everyone gets a free doctor's visit with every pin they manage to bump over after having thrown their back out.
And every Saturday night is the fetish party. Come in all your leather and latex or what-have-you and join in the orgy!
Though... the disturbing sounds of hips breaking and women saying "It's as stiff as a yard of silk rope!" echo down the halls as people -try- to enjoy swapping control.
But don't fear! The nurses come in at 5am to pry everyone off one another and put them back in bed.

~twitches~
Okay, maybe I'm just that twisted. ^_^
Enjoy that thought, I'm sure I'll have nightmares from it. *LOL*

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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/15/2007 5:20:16 PM

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ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/15/2007 5:44:08 PM

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Some buddies and I often talk about being in retirement homes sitting in wheel chairs...
Nipple rings chiming out a merry tune as they clink against the sides of the seat. Elongated tats, which began on our breasts and now sit in our laps, proudly proclaiming "OWNED". While we are smirking because the scarred flesh from whip marks keeps the wrinkled skin to a minimum.
And of course, with fewer teeth (or at least removable now), it makes those BJ's all the better for the orderlies. Then there are a few tenants who have switched over to bag disposals, that now have pristinely clean holes for various prods.
With luck some thoughtful dominant who has passed on, or passed YOU on will pay for your stay in this new guard retirement home.
The only question is what to call it?
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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/15/2007 6:46:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: Mysia

During one of our (group of friends) many "wandering thoughts" episodes, someone asked "What happens to the aged submissives without a dominant? Nursing home time?"

This got me to wondering... is there a retreat or center or "home" that houses (or assists in living) retired submissives? Does anyone know of such a place? Or this just too far-fetched idea? Or?

(We're the ones that always end up on the news getting the shit kicked out of us on some back street in the bowery section of town. What...you thought that shit always happened to unsuspecting rubes who didn't want it? We love that shit).

(I'll be the one in ICU).

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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/15/2007 6:47:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Some buddies and I often talk about being in retirement homes sitting in wheel chairs...
Nipple rings chiming out a merry tune as they clink against the sides of the seat. Elongated tats, which began on our breasts and now sit in our laps, proudly proclaiming "OWNED". While we are smirking because the scarred flesh from whip marks keeps the wrinkled skin to a minimum.
And of course, with fewer teeth (or at least removable now), it makes those BJ's all the better for the orderlies. Then there are a few tenants who have switched over to bag disposals, that now have pristinely clean holes for various prods.
With luck some thoughtful dominant who has passed on, or passed YOU on will pay for your stay in this new guard retirement home.
The only question is what to call it?
Kyst

Haha, I can't top that one.

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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/15/2007 7:02:24 PM

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If people get together they can start their own place for "aged" peoples in the lifestyle. Wonder if you could have a senior sub and dom dance on Friday's.

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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/16/2007 5:01:50 AM

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Thanks to all for the thought provoking posts, and for the darn right hilarious ones.

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RE: Retirement for submissives - 5/16/2007 7:52:12 AM

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My Sir has accepted me, job and all. Of course, there will be consequences of working, but the main issue i had concerns a) my health insurance, as i have a couple of things going on that will require maintenance drugs, no biggie, just old age....b) and the inevitable "what if?" question......i don't want to find myself out on the street with no place to go, and no way to get there. Once i expalined things to him, he decided my keeping the job was ok. His personal opinion is that HE is going to be responsible for everything i need, but i'm not comfortable at this point with him taking on my financial responsibility for my health, let alone car payments and insurance. i've always supported myself, even while i was married, so letting someone else take care of me is hard for me to get my head around. If something more permanent were to develop, say him dismissing the other slave(s) in the house, and marriage, yes, i'd quit the job in a heartbeat. But for now, i'll be working, and saving the retirement $$ for the future. Long, healthy life runs in the family, so i probably won't have to deal with the "home" question, anyway.

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