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windchymes -> RE: Screening Criteria (5/12/2007 9:01:06 AM)
Oh gosh, if we have to carefully word e-heh-hevery single response we write to people, our heads will explode. No, what people on the other end need to do is just accept that it's not a perfect world, and if what you receive doesn't fit your standards, just take it at face value, deal with it and move on!!! Please???

MellowSir -> RE: Screening Criteria (5/12/2007 9:05:14 AM)
How about don't be so picky and just have fun lol, I'm picky about who I'd marry, not about who I would play with, to a degree, so long as she's bathed and half sane, need practice anyway lol

dogobedience -> RE: Screening Criteria (5/12/2007 12:14:53 PM)
A dom and DUMB attitude is the idea that I control when and IF we are suited, now or in the future. Those people are living a fantasy life, fostered with perhaps fantasy girls. The good news is many many many people in this lifestyle are looking for ONLY THAT, fantasy and kinky sex..........

cloudboy -> RE: Screening Criteria (5/12/2007 5:56:44 PM)
Where emotions are concerned, I would postulate men tend toward anger (blaming you) and women tend toward sadness (blaming themselves.)

xxblushesxx -> RE: Screening Criteria (5/13/2007 1:14:44 PM)
Hmmm....interesting question. The funny thing is, I DID tell my Dom a few different times, and in a few different ways that I did not think we would be compatible. He was very well-spoken, and fun to talk to, so I had no problem being 'just friends' with Him. We became closer over time, and, my heart became intertwined with His. I moved in with Him almost exactly a year ago, and, I have to say, that He was right. We do make a good couple! lol Just don't burn bridges you may one day like to cross!

OO8OO88O8 -> RE: Screening Criteria (5/13/2007 5:54:50 PM)
All good responses, one can learn a lot from reading the stories and advice some posters share on here. (ends brown nosing) I am grateful when I know off the bat that I am not compatible with a person. It does save a lot of time and wasted effort. I am not picky over friends, just that one should be honest, smart, and have a decent sense of humor. However, I won't force someone to be my friend. :P If they don't want to then I suppose it is good to know early. I never had a problem with rejection as not everyone is meant for everyone. It's the disappearing acts or the outright blocking that I thought was immature. I have only blocked spammers. I will not block and actual person because I believe as adults, we can talk as adults. I can always understand a "thanks, but no thanks."

yourgrrl -> RE: Screening Criteria (5/14/2007 3:47:05 AM)
interesting topic i trained for months before real time and was told i was what She was looking for to warrant 2 visits and relocation. after struggling some and to see alot of things i loved about real time unfortunately communication broke down. yes i disobeyed Her wishes and was told She was hurt by my actions, but i corrected those and worked hard to turn it around. unfortunately i guess it was a little too late and She announced completely out of the blue She was moving out. This came as a big shock and i was devastated as a submissive and was in a fog for 3 days.This was told to me less than 30 days before She did it and She still thinks and tells that it was me who wanted to end this relationship. in the vanilla world this type of thing doesn't happen without some explanation, needless to say i didn't have enough for the mortgage and insisted on an iou. i had to protect myself and make sure She was going. to be responsible for that rent money. was this so wrong of me to ask for that? we had signed a contract and there was discussion when we fought about moving out, even threats by Her, but never was i approached and told. "You know this just isn't working out and i think I will be moving out" Not Once!.. Well, this has made me come to grips with the fact that even though i had come to love Her very much and desire to be Her submissive, i realize now i was used and She really had no intention on staying with me. For weeks after i wanted to throw away this lifestyle and never look back again. but i realize after experiencing it , most of it was very very good that i was truly born to be submissive and crave the love of a Domme. my screening criteria is much more solid now and i will not committ to anyone who will not committ to me and U/us. thank You for starting this thread- this may or may not have been appropriate but i needed to say it. i have found very recently many people to talk to who have helped me a great deal to realize it wasn't me that failed in this relationship

Satyr6406 -> RE: Screening Criteria (5/14/2007 4:01:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin Because they like to think that they are God's gift to all women? Do you mean I'm not? My mom is gonna be pissssed! LOL! Peace and comfort, Michael

m0rgan -> RE: Screening Criteria (5/14/2007 4:12:07 AM)
i would say that most screening by me is done by their reply, eg; if they reply to whatever i post to them with "you're an ugly rude bastard, bugger off!" i can take a hint! shopping lists are just that, shopping lists. if you don't get all your shopping requirements, you just go without. empathy is the thing, with that, all is possible, so i look for empathy, and pretty on the inside. i have met (and fucked) many pretty on the outside girls, the pretty on the inside girls i want to fuck again and again (although the only time i wanted to fuck someone three times was just before i did it once) over a long period of time! the woman i was married to for fifteen years and had three children by, was the friend of the girl i actually wanted to fuck on first sight, maybe that says more about me!!

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