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gypsygrl -> RE: Personality and Behavior Modification (5/11/2007 5:04:38 PM)
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As a submissive/slave, what are you WILLING to let your partner change about you and WONT let your partner change about you?
What do you feal CAN and CAN'T be changed about you?
I'm always open to suggestions as far as what I'd be willing to let a partner change about me, or, more realistically, what I'd change about myself because I was convinced it was a good idea or my partner wanted me too. I think there's limits to how much a person can change at once and even minor, self-directed changes are often slow going. For me, at least, change is easier if I perceive it to be inevitable and in response to things I can't control. Over the past couple years, I'm made a lot of changes of necessity and while I don't always like it, I'm not sure they're reversable even if that necessity would some how evaporates. There's no going back.
I don't know that behaviors are any easier to change than internal stuff (core values and reactions). It seems to me that unless I work on the internal stuff, behaviorial change is not only shallow but too stressful to be consistant. Its hard for me to act in a way that isn't consistant with my feelings and values.
I have done enough inner-work to know that change of that kind is possible. I decided a couple years ago to stop being paranoid. I used to be a real case. I still regress sometimes and am always aware that people aren't necessarily trustworthy, but I no longer immediately jump to a paranoid conclusion about things.
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