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Respect - 5/10/2007 6:55:13 AM   
FORCEFULL11229


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As a lifestyle Dominate, who takes this lifestyle very serious, i have found that so called submissives and/or slaves who post ads here stating what they want in a dominate/Master forgets one very important thing. All want to be respected by whoever answers their ad but it seems that even thou they are not interested in who responds they do not show the simple respect in return by just sending back a little note, saying thank you, but either not interested or thanks but no thanks.

Respect works both ways.

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 6:57:56 AM   
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Proper word usage helps to not only let people know you are intelligent, but that you are worthy of respect.

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 7:01:51 AM   
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It's dominant not dominate - dominate is what you do.  If you have expectations of people you do not know from adam you are going to be sorely disappointed.  Just move along to the ones you get responses from and forget the rest - what do you really care why??

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 7:04:10 AM   
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I had some past bad experiences with sending "Thanks, but no thanks" notes on CM. A few of the guys thought that since I had responded that it meant I was interested [despite the contents of my message.] One even started to stalk me.

I also have no respect whatsoever for people who don't read my profile. I specifically said I wouldn't really want to be with anyone over thirty. And if they can't respect my wishes, why should I respect them?


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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 7:07:19 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: kitriana

Proper word usage helps to not only let people know you are intelligent, but that you are worthy of respect.


Cheers to that!

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 7:22:35 AM   
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Forcefull-

If you consider their actions disrespectful, why do you care?  They have shown clearly that they aren't a good match for you. 

Every other dominant on this forum is getting into the same pool as you are and many others are finding excellent matches and partners- why do you feel this is such a hundrance to you and not all of them?

A little secret- it's NOT rude not to respond to an email from a stranger.  And we get threads exactlly like yours about twice a month, so you're saying stuff we've heard gazillions of times by now.  Get over yourself.

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 7:36:48 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: FORCEFULL11229

As a lifestyle Dominate, who takes this lifestyle very serious, i have found that so called submissives and/or slaves who post ads here stating what they want in a dominate/Master forgets one very important thing. All want to be respected by whoever answers their ad but it seems that even thou they are not interested in who responds they do not show the simple respect in return by just sending back a little note, saying thank you, but either not interested or thanks but no thanks.

Respect works both ways.




Grrrrr
Why is it that when someone does not walk the line you think they should be walking you question their submission?

This is yet another thread on a very old subject.

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 7:43:12 AM   
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Your problem is that you think people are looking for a dominate.  Knowing what you are talking about is the first step in being taken seriously.  If you don't know your label, how can you expect anyone to think you are serious about anything?

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 7:53:35 AM   
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Respect  is a want, not an expectation or need. 
While I may "want" to be respected, I do not "need" to be respected by those who do not know me.  It does not change who I am nor how I will conduct myself.  Those who are closest to me are the only ones whose opinions can affect me in that way.

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 8:42:25 AM   
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I show strangers respect when I do not spit on them for bumping into me at the mall.

And to not get a response from some of the sub/slaves on CM is them showing you respect over the fact that you didn't read their profile and are not a match. So in a way, by showing you no respect by not responding... could be taken as them showing you respect by not calling you an idiot in response. Think about it.

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 8:44:15 AM   
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Random emails are like pizza flyers on your door.  Is it rude to just throw them away?  Are obligated to go and buy something?  NOPE.  Same goes for random emails.

If you want respect,  you have to give it, respect their choice.

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 8:51:26 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Your problem is that you think people are looking for a dominate.  Knowing what you are talking about is the first step in being taken seriously.  If you don't know your label, how can you expect anyone to think you are serious about anything?


*snork*

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Random emails are like pizza flyers on your door.  Is it rude to just throw them away?  Are obligated to go and buy something?  NOPE.  Same goes for random emails.

If you want respect,  you have to give it, respect their choice.


You guys beat me to it.

Beyond the fact, us subs/slaves have learned not to say "No, thank you" because then we get 30 emails asking us "Why?" and telling us why we should change our minds.

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 5/10/2007 8:54:54 AM >


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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 8:52:18 AM   
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IMO....

www.dictionary.com

re·spect /rɪˈspɛkt/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[ri-spekt] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun
1. a particular, detail, or point (usually prec. by in): to differ in some respect.
2. relation or reference: inquiries with respect to a route.
3. esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability: I have great respect for her judgment.
4. deference to a right, privilege, privileged position, or someone or something considered to have certain rights or privileges; proper acceptance or courtesy; acknowledgment: respect for a suspect's right to counsel; to show respect for the flag; respect for the elderly.
5. the condition of being esteemed or honored: to be held in respect.
6. respects, a formal expression or gesture of greeting, esteem, or friendship: Give my respects to your parents.
7. favor or partiality.
8. Archaic. a consideration.
–verb (used with object)
9. to hold in esteem or honor: I cannot respect a cheat.
10. to show regard or consideration for: to respect someone's rights.
11. to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with: to respect a person's privacy.
12. to relate or have reference to.
—Idioms
13. in respect of, in reference to; in regard to; concerning.
14. in respect that, Archaic. because of; since.
15. pay one's respects,
a. to visit in order to welcome, greet, etc.: We paid our respects to the new neighbors.
b. to express one's sympathy, esp. to survivors following a death: We paid our respects to the family.
16. with respect to, referring to; concerning: with respect to your latest request.
[Origin: 1300–50; (n.) ME (< OF) < L respectus action of looking back, consideration, regard, equiv. to respec-, var. s. of respicere to look back (re- re- + specere to look) + -tus suffix of v. action; (v.) < L respectus ptp. of respicere]

—Synonyms 1. regard, feature, matter. 2. regard, connection. 3. estimation, reverence, homage, honor. Respect, esteem, veneration imply recognition of personal qualities by approbation, deference, and more or less affection. Respect is commonly the result of admiration and approbation, together with deference: to feel respect for a great scholar. Esteem is deference combined with admiration and often with affection: to hold a friend in great esteem. Veneration is an almost religious attitude of deep respect, reverence, and love, such as we feel for persons or things of outstanding superiority, endeared by long association: veneration for one's grandparents, for noble traditions. 7. bias, preference. 9. revere, venerate, consider, admire. 10. heed.
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re·spect (rĭ-spěkt') Pronunciation Key
tr.v. re·spect·ed, re·spect·ing, re·spects

1. To feel or show deferential regard for; esteem.
2. To avoid violation of or interference with: respect the speed limit.
3. To relate or refer to; concern.


Respect is not something that is owed it is something that is earned!

It is not disrespectful for someone to not reply to am email. It is their choice and it is not owed to anyone.



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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 8:53:59 AM   
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 Recieving an answer to an ad written in a respectful manner I think is what most people desire.
The curtosey of a respectfully mannered reply, is also what many desire.
Placing expectations on those we have no control over can be a drag.
 

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 9:23:37 AM   
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Oh good lord...another whine thread about people who DO answer email with a non response.



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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 9:39:02 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
And we get threads exactlly like yours about twice a month, so you're saying stuff we've heard gazillions of times by now.  Get over yourself.


Twice a month??

LA, I'm guessing you haven't been reading the boards as much lately.... hehehe (or is it you are simply ignoring the whiney posts?)

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 9:42:51 AM   
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I'm so out of touch *sob*

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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 9:46:51 AM   
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Beyond the fact, us subs/slaves have learned not to say "No, thank you" because then we get 30 emails asking us "Why?" and telling us why we should change our minds.


Exactly.  This is the main reason I use no response is a response of no interest as my guide.  To reply to someone of no interest just invites more messages from them, wanting you to explain why or them explaining why you should consider them.  Argh, who needs that?


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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 11:14:16 AM   
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quote:

Beyond the fact, us subs/slaves have learned not to say "No, thank you" because then we get 30 emails asking us "Why?" and telling us why we should change our minds.

aha! So if you answer and you don't change your mind "you aren't sub enough", and if you don't answer you are a so called sub. I guess this means that the only twue subs are the ones answer and adore every dork who writes.




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RE: Respect - 5/10/2007 12:34:27 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: happypervert

quote:

Beyond the fact, us subs/slaves have learned not to say "No, thank you" because then we get 30 emails asking us "Why?" and telling us why we should change our minds.

aha! So if you answer and you don't change your mind "you aren't sub enough", and if you don't answer you are a so called sub. I guess this means that the only twue subs are the ones answer and adore every dork who writes.





Yup, puts between a dork and a hard place.

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