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maiden1971 -> RE: Silent Submission (5/11/2007 9:59:24 AM)
I had a similar experience with someone that I was interested in and was in the process of getting to know. I would get so frustrated trying to explain my point of view in order to get him to see where I was coming from. Yet he would he would only see one aspect - his - and if anything contradicted or didn't fit the way he felt it should (even though he may have been misinterpreting something) he would shut down and basically say I was wrong and that to have a point of view other than his would mean that I was not a 'true' submissive. Although I respected him and his right to have his on point of view as a person, I could not communicate with him or connect with him as a Dominate. I broke communication with him for a while and when I came back online, it was almost an instant argument over another misinterpretation. At that moment I knew beyond any doubt that we were not compatible and said as much. In my opinion we broke on good terms, although I do not intend to have any further contact with him. The only thing I would say is that only you would be able to decided between what you want and what you currently have - Are you happy? Do you feel as though you are both benefiting from your relationship? Can you accept and live with the decision to stay, if the answer to the previous two questions are 'no'? We all have choices but the ultimate question is - Being completely aware of everything, can you live with YOUR choice?

MagiksSlave -> RE: Silent Submission (5/11/2007 4:07:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl A two year old? Wow, coming from someone who spells like a third grader, I'll take that as a compliment. Of course life isn't fair. But family, friends, and others who are close are supposed to be. Nobody would want to be deliberately unfair to someone they care about. Well now I think you are beeing inuslting to third graders!!! my spelling is absalutly harrid but as many know it is do to a learning disability and really isnt realated to anything here or anything i have said!! Magik's slave

littlesubjess -> RE: Silent Submission (5/12/2007 2:27:22 AM)
Thank you for all the responses. When we had both calmed down, we began to discuss it carefully. She actually found this post and was hurt and angered by it. She does use this site, but stupidly, I didnt realise she read the forums too. She wrote an email to me, with my post broken down, expressing her opinions and thoughts on each section. This really helped, and along with what others have written on here, it did help me to see it completely differently. Its a long story and probably impossible to understand fully, unless you read the email. I now think that it is me in the wrong, and that she is no where near as bad as I made her seem on here. Its not that I spun stories or made things up, I just saw it differently. She told me that when she was my age, she had a lot of issues, just like I do now. She has requested that I seek professional help to deal with this, and to help me to understand others actions and thought processes more. I am aware that my head is not as straight as it could be, so I have promised her I shall get the help required. Once again, a big thank you to all who have contributed, I really appreciate it. Jess xxx

eyesopened -> RE: Silent Submission (5/12/2007 6:18:12 AM)
Fast reply... Excuse me could someone please tell me when we switched from Life to Fair? i need to reset my reality clock.... to the OP, you have gotten good advice. Relationships are different, we aren't cast from a single mold. You should not expect to be treated exactly the same as everyone or anyone else in your Mistress's household. If She has communicated clearly what she expects of you and you accepted your collar based on this then work on that and not worry about what the other subs/slaves are doing. If She has not clearly communicated her expectations and how your dynamic is to work, then you really need to get those issues out in the open. Best of luck to you.

MistressMelissa -> RE: Silent Submission (5/12/2007 7:06:41 AM)
Jessica, Just because you did not receive the result you desired, did not mean she did not hear or understand you. Slavery is neither fair nor easy. If I knew a "little one" wanted to play but had behaved like a brat, I would make them watch or "help, just to rub their nose in it." Look at what a Ds relationship is. You chose to be the one who submits. Ask yourself what it truly means to submit. As the dominant it's her responsibility to hold true to who and what she is. You have the choice to bend and compliment what she is and wants, or to say "no thanks" and walk away. Societies concept of relationships don't work for use. That's why we don't seek vanilla relationships. Why then would you try and apply the rules of a vanilla relationship to a Ds relationship. Are you in it for the kinky sex or are you in it to submit and make your owner happy. If you can't find any happiness in your owners pleasure, this is not the lifestyle for you. All I hear is me, me, me............. When you can find your inner peace from your owners happiness and the pride of knowing you served your owner well. Then you will understand your submission.

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