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RE: Monogamy - 2/22/2004 8:10:01 PM   
JerryInTampa


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Did he agree to be monogomous?
If yes, he's violating the terms of the relationship... in essence he is not in a relationship with you without your consent (the one cardinal rule).

If no, this is a communicatoin issue.

Any relationship should satisfy the needs of all involved. If you need monogomy and he is unwilling to provide it then you are in the wrong relationship.

Jerry

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RE: Monogamy - 2/22/2004 10:16:12 PM   
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Just wanted to thank you all for your thoughts and advice on this issue. It has really helped me to understand what the BDSM lifestyle is not about. I am happy to report that I have moved on and am seeking a Dom who is honest and has a high degree of personal integrity. Thanks again.

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RE: Monogamy - 2/26/2004 3:44:49 AM   
BondageMstr


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Unfortunatly this lifestyle seems to encourage cheating. How many ads do you see here from subs and slaves looking for another "sub" for their Master? how many females WANT to be loaned out to other men or women? Personally I think that bisexual females outnumber bisexual men 5-1 here but that seems to be another lifestyle choice in that dominant FEMALES expect their slaves to sit by and watch other men have sex with their Mistresses. I think that MUIGHT be why I could never be a slave to a female. I would never be able to do that.
Because of this I'm afraid that too many Doms think they can get away with this AND they usually do because of the nature of slavery to start with. Get in trouble then blame HER and unfortunatly she is usually so controlled by him that she actually believes it. Is he wrong to cheat on you? Yes, he is but you need to establish clear guidelines up front about that also. Just sit him down and say, "i know it is out there and that others do it BUT I want no part of it. I am yours exclusively or I don't want you, PERIOD. Then make sure you and he do NOT go to play parties.
I have to tell you that I have had subs up to HERE. They come to me in play parties and want ME to dominante them while their husband watches even to the point of having sex with them while he is still watching. I have had private scenes with them as well as public and I would never treat MY slave like that noe let her do that with anyone else. I guess that is one reason I need to find the true slave that wants and needs ME only and takes up ALL my time. That way I will be spending so much time with her that I would not want or need anyone else.

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