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i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 6:57:44 AM   
mercmjm


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Status: offline 		i have a vanilla gf, but she is kinky in certain ways, like she likes using chocolate syrup on me and licking it off and vice versa and also watching porn. She has never been spanked or anything concerning BDSM, how should i go about into brining her into this lifestyle?
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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 7:02:41 AM   
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i have a vanilla gf, but she is kinky in certain ways, like she likes using chocolate syrup on me and licking it off and vice versa and also watching porn. She has never been spanked or anything concerning BDSM, how should i go about into brining her into this lifestyle?

Honey you asked this exact same question back in September.

Question about GF

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 7:04:45 AM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Tie her ass up and make a Sudae out of her, since she likes that allready.....then tell her she was a bad girl for making a mess with the syrup and begin to spank her......Wa La, you have now made her your lil subby and introduced her to the lifestyle.

Don't forget to place the cherry somewhere she likes and nibble on her thighs while you go after it......Dayum...You scream I scream we all scream for ice cream!

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 9:19:51 AM   
wolffeathers


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Status: offline 		As I stated before, TALK TO HER.

Otherwise, you may be WITHOUT a girlfriend.

BTW, watching porn is not really kinky.

Most do it, male and female.

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 9:44:51 AM   
newflowers


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Status: offline 		i began as a vanilla girlfriend to a dominant male - initially, for months, we never had specific conversation about bdsm or specific kinks, but he slowly introduced me to his control and authority, to his likes and dislikes. eventually, we talked about the dynamic of our relationship we talked about it a great deal.

for me, D/s is less about the sex as glorious as that can be and more about the control - his dominance. i recommend the same as others, talk to her and go slowly if she is receptive to the idea. if you push to fast, even if she would be amenable, you risk scaring her away. acceptance of the self, of another is a significant growing step. take your time and have lots of conversation. make sure that you really know what you want and know what you want from her.

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 10:20:36 AM   
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you asked this exact same question back in September.


Well, he is making progress. Porn and chocolate syrup this time around.

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 10:24:30 AM   
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Well, he is making progress. Porn and chocolate syrup this time around.

Agreed. Why is he still asking us the same questions? They seem to be going along happily.

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 10:33:50 AM   
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also watching porn


/scratches head in confusion

Ok, who rewrote the rulebook and did not bother to tell me?

/flips through the book looking for the page that says 'must watch porn to be kinky"

/sigh

Whew...not here...and here I thought I was missing an important step

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 11:31:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Why watch Porn, when you can make it?

Fastlane looks innocently into the camera!

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 12:19:50 PM   
TypeWriter


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Status: offline 		It sound slike he is trying to build up the courage to talk to her about all of this.

Dude, look into yourself. If this is the life you want and need then you have a responsibility to tell her. Anything less is hurting you and hhurt.

Now if you want to just play around and spank her ass then make it playful but if it is WHO you are you need to sit her down and tell her. Take your strength from within.

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 4:54:32 PM   
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It sound slike he is trying to build up the courage to talk to her about all of this.

Dude, look into yourself. If this is the life you want and need then you have a responsibility to tell her. Anything less is hurting you and hhurt.

Now if you want to just play around and spank her ass then make it playful but if it is WHO you are you need to sit her down and tell her. Take your strength from within.




he asked this question 4 months ago, Im like, get the balls to do it dude or move on--

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 6:45:27 PM   
slvhunter


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Status: offline 		Duuuuuuuuuuuuuuude,

Not cool, why ask again man...If this is the liefstyle you want tell her..do her or just move on....SIMPLE

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 9:00:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Try this one... Do it doggy-style, and when she's really hot and close to cumming, smack her ass. She'll either love it or she'll hate it. Either way, you're gonna know.

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 9:16:39 PM   
Misstoyou


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ORIGINAL: Evanesce

Try this one... Do it doggy-style, and when she's really hot and close to cumming, smack her ass. She'll either love it or she'll hate it. Either way, you're gonna know.


Oooh! This suggestion I like!

Btw, the OP is twenty. Four months later he's still in a relationship with a woman he likes (how many times do relationships reported here crash and burn before that) continuing to try to take the relationship to the next level. I personally don't see his question, repeated or not, as a bad thing.

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 10:45:19 PM   
StacyCat


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ORIGINAL: Evanesce

Try this one... Do it doggy-style, and when she's really hot and close to cumming, smack her ass. She'll either love it or she'll hate it. Either way, you're gonna know.


Okay, wait, I like BDSM, and I dont like getting smacked on my ass during sex. :-)

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/16/2006 10:59:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: fastlane

Tie her ass up and make a Sudae out of her, since she likes that allready.....then tell her she was a bad girl for making a mess with the syrup and begin to spank her......Wa La, you have now made her your lil subby and introduced her to the lifestyle.

Don't forget to place the cherry somewhere she likes and nibble on her thighs while you go after it......Dayum...You scream I scream we all scream for ice cream!




OMG..
serously laughing out loud!
I just love your posts!


< Message edited by cravinspankin -- 1/16/2006 11:01:10 PM >

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/17/2006 7:50:37 AM   
IrishMist


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ORIGINAL: Evanesce

Try this one... Do it doggy-style, and when she's really hot and close to cumming, smack her ass. She'll either love it or she'll hate it. Either way, you're gonna know.


LMFAO



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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/17/2006 8:31:58 AM   
MasterRobert1


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Status: offline 		Very few people are into BDSM or D/s. We're sttill very much in the minority. The best advice I can giv eis, if the relationship working leave it alone and accept it for what it is.

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/17/2006 11:28:57 PM   
foxglove716


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Try this one... Do it doggy-style, and when she's really hot and close to cumming, smack her ass. She'll either love it or she'll hate it. Either way, you're gonna know.


I dont know if this is the way that I would go. Yes, she is going to either love it or hate it, but in the heat of the moment it would be impossible to tell if its a cry of pleasure or pain. And not the good kind of pain! It makes for an awkward moment later on. I think fastlane gives great advice. Try incorporating subtle bdsm elements into your usual routine. Try watching a porn with some, but not necesarily all bdsm. A trip to your local sex shop is a good way to open her mind :)

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RE: i have a vanilla gf - 1/18/2006 12:31:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: fastlane

Tie her ass up and make a Sudae out of her, since she likes that allready.....then tell her she was a bad girl for making a mess with the syrup and begin to spank her......Wa La, you have now made her your lil subby and introduced her to the lifestyle.

Don't forget to place the cherry somewhere she likes and nibble on her thighs while you go after it......Dayum...You scream I scream we all scream for ice cream!



be Very careful with sugar near the vaginal opening, that is an easy step to Yeast infections, thighs are cool, breasts are cool, but try and keep anything sugary away from the hole, bad stuff *Nods*

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