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i've a new sister..... - 9/6/2005 12:58:38 AM

RiotGirl

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Sorta. Its interesting. There's alot of things i DONT like, but i know somethings just need to be learned. She is very new to the lifestyle and doesnt seem to understand how things "work" it seems. She tried telling me that she JUST had a relationship with Master, me being sort of the tag along. Which of coruse got my dander up, and i quickly dispelled that notion. Thankfully when i told Master later, i found out i wasnt out of line. She is 7 years my junoir, Met her on this site. At first i was like um...... but i am naturally dominant with women/girls. Just my way, no matter if they are older then me. Master has given me permisssion to esentially be myself. That is nice and i have found myself all of a sudden excited about having her. Master is going to "think about" what the defined roles are going to be. Will i be completely dominant with her, just let it take its natural course.. or not at all. i would like the first option. Hopefully it is what he chooses! She's a very sweet girl, lives abt of a distance, but we are working around it. She blushes easy, is down to earth, very pretty, petite like me, open and honest, so cross your fingers!

Tho it seems to be and up and down thing. Alot of stumbling. i would like to ask some questions....

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RE: i've a new sister..... - 9/6/2005 1:00:49 AM

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Even with the stumbling.. and the things that make me "look" twice.. i'm excited she's joined us and look forward to everything.

Oh and we get to see her again on Friday for the weekend!

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RE: i've a new sister..... - 9/6/2005 7:36:19 AM

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Congratulations Riot. I've been there so I know it's a very exciting time. Your Dom is on the right track. I'm convinced that clearly defined expectations, honesty and communication are what make poly a viable relationship.

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She tried telling me that she JUST had a relationship with Master, me being sort of the tag along. Which of coruse got my dander up, and i quickly dispelled that notion.

I try to explain that as the difference between a Dom having a "harem" and a poly family.
If a Dom has multiple submissives that really do not interact together it's a harem. (interact does not mean sex) If the relationship exists between everyone then it's poly.

Good luck. I hope it goes well for you.

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RE: i've a new sister..... - 9/6/2005 8:33:53 AM

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Well first off, why call her sister? I think that word gets toossed around too much to create some false sense of connection that doesn't need to be there. She can be part of your relationship, a partner, but not your "sister." Make sure that's the word you want to use.

Secondly, it's good that you and your dom are communicating, but I worry that he hasn't worked things out BEFORE letting this girls imagination run away with herself and go into all these other things.

First poly relationships are always the break-in ones and we tend to make the most mistakes. Just keep lines of communication open between ALL THREE Of you (she deserves honesty and clarity from you both, no matter how young and inexperienced she is, and I'd try to refrain from biting her hand off just because she's new and making mistakes herself)

Oh, and I suggest you let the relationship form itself naturally, because that's the only way it will work long term.

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RE: i've a new sister..... - 9/6/2005 11:14:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Oh, and I suggest you let the relationship form itself naturally, because that's the only way it will work long term.

This is so, so important! My first triad pretty much exploded due to trying to force the relationship into that specific configuration.

Darn, I snipped the other bit I wanted to agree with emphatically. Communication between all three! Do not use your Master as a go between. That way lies madness and misunderstanding.

Oh, last thing, don't condescend to her just because she is younger. The explody triad I mentioned earlier suffered greatly because the other was 10 years older than I and treated me like I didn't know anything. My life experiences are far beyond mere number of years.

Good luck and keep talking to each other!

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RE: i've a new sister..... - 9/7/2005 1:43:37 PM

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oops

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RE: i've a new sister..... - 9/7/2005 2:18:24 PM

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So is babygirls Husband the Master, or is Riots Master the Master?

Either way - congratulations to you all!

Peace and Love

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RE: i've a new sister..... - 9/7/2005 2:34:11 PM

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Hi RiotGirl, and CONGRATS ! I would of loved to had a "Sister" when with MADAM, but it was her husband. Now I am not complaining about anything, we have so much in common, I feel as though we are Brothers, I would luct of loved another Female besides MADAM. I guess that comes from being raised by my Mother, and having my sister around all the time.

Take care and ENJOY, Jelious (But wil get over it), BalletBob

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RE: i've a new sister..... - 9/8/2005 5:32:02 PM

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After reading all the post that have been given to you and Yours, I would likes to add that in Poly trust is the most important thing to have for all concerned. Without it you will A/all loose and the pain is not something you want to go through if you all truly care for E/eachother. Many Blessings and Good luck.

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