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What does it mean? - 10/17/2005 8:12:28 AM

glittergirl

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Women always read way more into things than we should, so tell me that's what I am doing and the I can feel all better. In the beginning of establishing a relationship with someone you know is very monogamously inclined, where neither of you really ever discussed people you knew from online, would you read anything into the Dominant suddenly announcing he received a lot of emails that week and then forwarded the submissive the profiles? (He's not interested in a threesome, mind you.)

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RE: What does it mean? - 10/17/2005 8:20:19 AM

plantlady64

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Hello There,
If he agrees to be monogamous maybe it's a way to boost his ego. It could also be his way of showing how important to you he is. If he has all this attention and is not acting on it for you you should 1-BE GREATFUL & 2-TRUST HIM AT HIS WORD.
My question to you would be why should you be bothered by those profiles of the ladies that think your Dom is hot if he does not intend on meeting them?
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sub suzanne

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RE: What does it mean? - 10/17/2005 8:24:24 AM

krikket

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Maybe he just wants to show you what good taste you have in Doms, or just wants you to appreciate him more? lol!! Of course, it might be just to give you a laugh.

If it bugs you, probably the best thing to do is to ask him.

Good luck...

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RE: What does it mean? - 10/17/2005 8:32:42 AM

EmeraldSlave2

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I would just ask him if there's a reason he's doing it.

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RE: What does it mean? - 10/17/2005 3:28:04 PM

glittergirl

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It doesn't bug me at all. In fact, I wasn't even looking at it negatively. I thought maybe he was suddenly sharing this information as a sign of trust. He is not the type to stir up competition, and I'm not the jealous type. I probably shouldn't look into it at all...or like EmeraldSlave2 said, "just ask him..."

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RE: What does it mean? - 10/17/2005 4:16:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: glittergirl

It doesn't bug me at all. In fact, I wasn't even looking at it negatively. I thought maybe he was suddenly sharing this information as a sign of trust.

I guess I would wonder what he might be sharing about "me," to others, as well as to the women making contact with him.

I tend to hope that ANY contact I make to anyone, regardless of my, or their orientation, will be a private correspondence...just between us.

K

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RE: What does it mean? - 10/17/2005 4:52:59 PM

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If I did something like that, it would only be for two reasons: To inform the other party that I had options, usually in a disagreement scenario, or use it for bragging rights. To be more precise, a tactic like that is used for "rubbing it in". Someone has an ego. The only thing that it can do for a woman is to make her feel insignificant or insecure.

How I typically handle something like that is to not mention it at all. My sub will be reading over My shoulders and make a casual comment about all the women paging Me on MSN or something, but it is all in stride and not a big deal. she knows I have a lot of female friends and she knows I'm not going anywhere.

< Message edited by SirKenin -- 10/17/2005 4:54:29 PM >

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RE: What does it mean? - 10/17/2005 6:38:10 PM

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Yes, just ask him. Then you won't have to wonder anymore.

quote:

ORIGINAL: glittergirl

I probably shouldn't look into it at all...or like EmeraldSlave2 said, "just ask him..."

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RE: What does it mean? - 10/19/2005 1:54:36 AM

RoughstringRider

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Well, as you said, you guys are just really getting going, so I would be inclined to think he's trying to close the deal..... "Get me while you can, I got 'em lining up for me!" sort of situation.

There is also the "bragging rights" factor, of: "Yup, the girls the girls they want me.... but I want YOU."

My suspicion it's a little of both. I tell my girl when I get hit on, but we've together three years, and I'm monogamous, so it's always "see what good taste you have in a Sir, sweety!".... but then she usually rolls her eyes when I do it... *grin*

Ask, though. guessing is always bad.....

~RR~

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RE: What does it mean? - 10/19/2005 4:54:10 AM

fyreredsub

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well if i was the one who that happened to-

he would find out what a territorial bitch i am!!

however, being the alpha female could be discussed....
but she would not be same household as me/only topping for play....

so in some ways he could learn what some of my limits are w/ this sort of scenario.

good luck

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ORIGINAL: glittergirl

Women always read way more into things than we should, so tell me that's what I am doing and the I can feel all better. In the beginning of establishing a relationship with someone you know is very monogamously inclined, where neither of you really ever discussed people you knew from online, would you read anything into the Dominant suddenly announcing he received a lot of emails that week and then forwarded the submissive the profiles? (He's not interested in a threesome, mind you.)

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RE: What does it mean? - 10/19/2005 5:49:41 AM

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It may be nothing at all, or it may in fact be a read flag for immaturity, lack of confidence, and integrity.

What is shared here on the boards has no right to privacy,however e-mails are quite different. I agree with FTopinMichigan: One who sends an e-mail has a right to privacy.
Ask yourself how you would react to your private and perhaps intimate and or embarrassing words being shared with other submissive women.

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RE: What does it mean? - 10/19/2005 10:00:37 AM

RiotGirl

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mmmmmmmmm dunno. Wanna send me his profile so i can have a look at him?? Is your dom good looking?

personally i'd find it odd, and ask Master why's he sending me all these profiles? i would expect he wanted me to "do" something. So i would ask for clearer instructions.

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RE: What does it mean? - 12/22/2005 4:08:02 PM

MasterBenedict

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I would nost likely be inclined to think of him as either a fake or at least a newbie.

quote:

ORIGINAL: glittergirl

Women always read way more into things than we should, so tell me that's what I am doing and the I can feel all better. In the beginning of establishing a relationship with someone you know is very monogamously inclined, where neither of you really ever discussed people you knew from online, would you read anything into the Dominant suddenly announcing he received a lot of emails that week and then forwarded the submissive the profiles? (He's not interested in a threesome, mind you.)

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RE: What does it mean? - 12/22/2005 4:15:26 PM

MasterBenedict

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I believe that the lady who responded saying things about 'his' lack of maturity was QUITE correct

quote:

ORIGINAL: glittergirl

Women always read way more into things than we should, so tell me that's what I am doing and the I can feel all better. In the beginning of establishing a relationship with someone you know is very monogamously inclined, where neither of you really ever discussed people you knew from online, would you read anything into the Dominant suddenly announcing he received a lot of emails that week and then forwarded the submissive the profiles? (He's not interested in a threesome, mind you.)

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RE: What does it mean? - 12/30/2005 7:02:21 PM

SirDarkside357

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So ok, we all need to boost our ego at times, maybe that's all it is....

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RE: What does it mean? - 12/30/2005 7:36:07 PM

Nendarye

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Could mean nothing more than that he does not want secrets

Could mean that he's kind of dangling some bait

All depends on what YOU want to read into it.

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RE: What does it mean? - 12/30/2005 8:06:57 PM

Petruchio

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I agree with plantlady, krikket, RoughString, Sartoris and emerald in just about that order.

Time will tell.

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RE: What does it mean? - 1/1/2006 11:39:12 AM

MHOO314

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I hate that, WTH do I care for someone else's profiles--that to Me-- especially from a Dominant is so immature---I'm like go beat your chest somewhere else---

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RE: What does it mean? - 1/1/2006 7:19:30 PM

MissHarlet

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When in doubt ask.

Communication is the basis of all relationships .. and if you ask you know the answer .. if you dont you assume and could build a monster out of nothing.

I would be offended if a submissive of mine or one I was considering, had doubts about anything and didnt trust me enough to ask questions

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RE: What does it mean? - 1/1/2006 7:24:11 PM

IrishMist

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

I hate that, WTH do I care for someone else's profiles--that to Me-- especially from a Dominant is so immature---I'm like go beat your chest somewhere else---

LOL

But yes, when in doubt, ask. To tell the truth, it sounds more like an act of trust on his part...sort of like saying 'hey I trust you and I like you so I want no secrets"

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