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Sub needs... - 2/13/2004 10:46:08 AM

desire2give

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I've long felt the need to 'serve' and to 'please'. I can even remember feeling this way as young as 6yo. My question is of a Master/Dom is... what do you do when your submissive feels the overwhelming need to give more? How would you prefer she approach you with this dilema?
I don't consider myself a SAM, nor do I consider my submission a 'gift', but a true desire and need to do so.
This submissive only fears that what she is looking for, may not exist.

Respectfully,
desire2give

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RE: Sub needs... - 2/13/2004 3:28:21 PM

Estring

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A direct and respectful approach is what I prefer. I always give my slave times where she can express her feelings or opinions to me. Communication is crucial.
There are situations where what one person wants doesn't match with what the other wants. If it can't be rectified, it is best to move on.
And I believe that what you seek does exist. It may take more time before you find it. Good luck.

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RE: Sub needs... - 2/18/2004 5:55:07 AM

Leonidas

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Your post begs the question: Give more what? Submission can be anywhere on the spectrum from casual submission in a play context only to everything you do, say, learn, and become being devoted completely to the one you serve. If everything you do is done in service to someone else, your can always "give more", can't you? Everyone on the planet can do a little better each day than they did the day before. If you are submitted, and devoted, that little bit better that you do is "giving more", isn't it?. It doesn't require permission, just devotion. If by "giving more" you mean personal or sexual service, then you give as is required of you by the one you serve. There is nothing wrong with being enticing if you want more of your Dom or Master's attention. Be a little careful about being demanding. It is a fine and blurry line where giving more ends and demanding more begins.

Take care of yourself

Leonidas

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RE: Sub needs... - 2/18/2004 6:42:06 PM

RealDaddy2u

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The most important attitude is always one of sincerity, awareness and love. If my submissive would like more, than certainly she is being open and truthful.

The question comes up for you because either your dom is not receptive or there is a communication problem. Some submissives are confused and might feel they castle the dom by asking for an activity not played out. This can be a legitimate concern if your relationship is oriented in such a way.

On the other hand, you will eventually dis the dom if you are not up front about your needs. So why waste time, what will be; will be.

As I am not in the relationship; how accurate or inaccurate my counsel might be; is all a matter of fate and pure luck. lol
Wolfie

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RE: Sub needs... - 2/19/2004 12:15:06 PM

Perempt

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When a sub needs more, I am pleased, as she is proving to be exactly te kind of sub I seek.

Then comes a plan--frankly discussed, and consented to by the slave--designed to take the slave as far as possible into surrender, as long as it takes...and then more training to assure the slave nt ony can do all, but do it gracefully.

Write Me i you want to discuss: [email protected]

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