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In Love with all - 6/27/2005 11:02:13 AM

dynastycdtx

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Not sure if this will make any sence and is in the right forum, but I am in love with all people male and female. I am not sure if that would mean I am polyamorous or not. I do say I am a male with all the female wents and needs in the sexual world. Sex is more then sex but a love of to people and more then one person. I have been in the life stlye for a long time but have not find the right please to call home in it. I made a chose to be with some one with a open relationship and it as worked out. Sometime I am not sure it was right but know I have to much emote into the relationship to give it up. Does any one know what is the right thing to do?

I have felt this why all my life being in love with all. people out side my personal family. My family is out here in this world. I need a person that can show me or help me move in the right place. I have one person that might fit the bill but, god I would hate to lose a 10yr relationship and all or love and things we have. The relationship kept me out of trouble and out of the wrong area. Know I am not sure if I should have gone to the bad area first and find a person for me there and have the move me up to a good place. If anyone out there can understand and help I am willing to take some help.

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RE: In Love with all - 6/27/2005 11:19:41 AM

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Hello There,
I also have strong feelings you could describe as love and adoration to those special scene friends I choose to submit to. I do feel a very clear line between my other friends and My Master though. My Master holds my heart firmly in both his hands. My other friends I love more like good friends and family. I would never make a move with one of my friends without the expressed consent and approval of my Master. If he does not like my choices I plea my case, but in the end accept his choices willingly out of the desire to please him.
I love all people of all walks of life as if they were my family, I can understand how hard it is to understand the love we share with all people is very different in devotion than that which I share with my Master.
Good luck working out where your loyalties lie within your heart and mind. I hope the choice you make will be the right one for you long term.
Sincerely,
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RE: In Love with all - 6/27/2005 1:46:34 PM

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interesting. i may have to sit and give this some thought.
i am not going to give you, an, off the cuff answer here.

hmm. fascinating.

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RE: In Love with all - 6/28/2005 3:46:47 AM

Akinta

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Humm.. I suppose a real good question here would be.. why do you love them? The answer here is important, because it's personal. I've met others like you, and each has their own understanding of the world and why they are the way they are. I'd be interested in hearing what you had to say before giving much more input.

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RE: In Love with all - 6/28/2005 6:22:22 AM

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Your a very open-minded person,There are a few like yourself that enjoy the same pleasure , have you check into the trans sites? or have you join a crossdresser,trans group in your area, there are many in texas if you need help just let me know.

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RE: In Love with all - 6/28/2005 8:20:54 AM

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You can LOVE everyone, after all philanthropists supposedly devote their lives to showing their love for people.

However, being a human you have limited time, energy and abilities. So do what works for you, perhaps volunteering at a local shelter will allow you to devote your energies, perhaps working at a blood donation center.

Whatever will suit you best will be what allows you to show your love for everyone.

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RE: In Love with all - 6/28/2005 4:19:32 PM

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To: plantlady64

I have no Master so to speak. We are in an open relationship that lets us both play. He played in the beginning and now its my turn I guess. We do talk about who I go out with. Being a bottom 100% and a girl at heart he scared for me. I just went to play and have fun and make friends. Friend that can understand that I went him and them. I would be more of a weekend toy or slave or etc... but I went sex and a little more. I love making friends but you might say I just went to be a sluty girl. you know.

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I can not wait to see what you have to say...

To: Akinta

I have always loved every one. Mostly in a sexual way as long as they are of legal age you know. I just went to be a toy to be used and I love it. It might becasue of not a good home life as a kid or something. But I had no bad things happen to that I know of. It might be lust for all but I don't think it is. I love each person in a speical way that puts a smile on my face. I would say that the place that is crazy for me is my current job. If I could make money at pleasing people it would be great. But I have been in different jobs that I pleased people but no money in it to live on. So I used my love of computers to make the money I need.

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I'm not a person that can do the volunteering work. I tried and I was to busy trying to help people and not doing the job I was asked to do. Blood donation center , ok where is the exit keep those needles away from me. I hate those things like no bodies business. But thanks for your comments and Idea's.

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RE: In Love with all - 6/29/2005 1:38:25 AM

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It seems like you might want to try practicing some control then. It can drive you crazy trying to love, and be loved, by everyone. Other people get jelous because you're spending time with another, etc. Even Mother Teresa had people who hated her. The important part is being true to those who're important to you. Just remember, anything can be fun.. in moderation.

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RE: In Love with all - 6/29/2005 5:58:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: dynastycdtx

I'm not a person that can do the volunteering work. I tried and I was to busy trying to help people and not doing the job I was asked to do. Blood donation center , ok where is the exit keep those needles away from me. I hate those things like no bodies business. But thanks for your comments and Idea's.

What's the point of feeling love for everyone if you can't do simple organized clear tasks to help them?

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RE: In Love with all - 7/7/2005 12:19:16 AM

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What's the point of feeling love for everyone if you can't do simple organized clear tasks to help them?

Sometimes fear overrules. As with the needles above.
In this case, he cares for everyone equally, so it's difficult to make a decision between this or that, as both sides are equally tempting. Just who wins when the coin lands on its side?

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RE: In Love with all - 7/7/2005 5:42:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: Akinta

Sometimes fear overrules. As with the needles above.
In this case, he cares for everyone equally, so it's difficult to make a decision between this or that, as both sides are equally tempting. Just who wins when the coin lands on its side?

Well it's a tough skill to prioritize and sort out the necessities of what to do...but it's a necessary skill.

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RE: In Love with all - 7/12/2005 4:23:30 PM

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There is a clear difference between loving people and wanting to have sex with them.

If you just want to have sex with everyone that is much different than my definition of "love." (Yes, I understand that everyone would define it differently.)

I do love many people, most people in fact. What I've learned, though, is that to keep myself mentally healthy and my family strong I must prioritize. I need to seek others to help less and less and focus on being with those that I have committed to more and more. Rather than volunteering and spending time building the community, sometimes I have to work on finding ways to spend that energy on a smaller group of people and building a reciprocal loving space. I know my aptitudes are not usually seen as "service-oriented", but I find a way to help people as far as they will allow me.

For you, I would suggest working on yourself. Rather than spreading yourself thin over as many people as you can find, work on what you have and can improve that will increase the intensity in how you love and care for a smaller circle of people. It's a matter of mental health. Spreading yourself thin and feeding on your insecurities and neediness serves no one. Hurting yourself serves none of the people around you that you are desiring to help or give love to. Sometimes strengthening ourselves is the best gift we can give to others.

I hope that helps... and yes, if you truly love to give, share and help others, I would personally refer to that as polyamory in my own book. On the other hand, if it's just about sex, then you need to look to someone else for help in defining yourself than I.

Good luck

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