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I want to find a good and gentle Master - 4/26/2004 2:30:32 AM

SAMANTHALYNNE

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Hello my computer name is samanthalynne and i am a bisexual submissive man and i want to find a good and gentle Master,i know he or she will have to discipline me and others but it does not seem right or fair that a Master should should be mean or try and humilate you to try to harm you or use you being submissive as a reason to hurt or harm you or try to de-humanize you,does it?
or is that just me?
I would love to find a good and gentle Master out there in Missour,please someone help me ok?
thank you so very much.
sincerely
Samanthalynne

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RE: I want to find a good and gentle Master - 4/26/2004 5:42:19 AM

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Samanthalynne:

Very recently you were posting that BDSM is sick and perverse, and this was a post created shortly after you posted that you were looking for a dominant.

Please clarify your often changing position. Such clarification would make it easier for me to understand where you see yourself on your path and where you would like to go. In that way I may be better able to understand you and perhaps contribute something you may find valuable.

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RE: I want to find a good and gentle Master - 4/26/2004 7:00:17 AM

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Hello this a peply to the reply i just got,i think that if i met a good and gentle master it would change my mind about some of my feelings and i would feel so bad about being dominated,i hope this helps clarify where i am what path that i am on,i had a bad experience in a e-mail and i can tell you that i would not want to have been with him face to face,this man was into torture and extremely pain,i am not not into that and we e-mail each toher a couple of times and he claim to be a Master and theb in his last e-mail he totally exploded at me just because i was not into torture and extremely pain,i do not feel that was fair or right of this man,he is not a Master that i would want to be face to face with,i hope this helps tell you on what path i am on and i hope this clears up everything about what i said before ok?
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RE: I want to find a good and gentle Master - 4/26/2004 7:04:30 AM

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Hello i made a mistake in my reply,if i met and had a good and gentle Master then i would not feel so bad about being dominated,i hope someone can help me,maybe there are some Masters that are good and gentle that are out there and would want to have me as their slave and would spend some time with me and discipline and train me,i hope so.
thank you so very much for someone time and help.
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RE: I want to find a good and gentle Master - 4/26/2004 8:40:20 AM

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"in his last e-mail he totally exploded at me just because i was not into torture and extremely pain,i do not feel that was fair or right of this man,he is not a Master that i would want to be face to face with,i hope this helps tell you on what path i am on and i hope this clears up everything about what i said before ok?"

you're going to meet jerks online. i've met my fair share of them and i'm not even looking for partners.

i think part of the problem is that your previous post made blanket generalizations, saying that -anyone- who sought to humiliate or degrade was an abuser.

i can understand how having a bad experience could definatly skew your ideas and perceptions, however.

still, i think you should probably reconcile your own opinions about yourself and about bdms et. al. before searching for a partner. if you're unhappy or guilty about your own activities, it's hard to be able to connect with someone else. (i speak from personal experience here)
good luck

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RE: I want to find a good and gentle Master - 4/26/2004 4:54:52 PM

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Samanthalynne,

I very much agree with the poster who suggested that you take some time and do some reconciling within yourself about who you are and what you want in your life. Nobody outside of you can make you feel something until you are ready to do so. If you feel bad about wanting to be dominated it would be a good idea to spend some time examining why it leaves you feeling bad. The answer is going to be inside you, not inside a dominant.

As for whether there are "gentle" masters and dominants who are not "sadists," the answer is yes, they are out there. My own experience with this sort of gentleman leads me to believe that they are a type who will be interested in a submissive who has learned that their answers are inside of themself (as described in paragraph one); and often they have interest in helping the submissive find the answers that are within. But there is, in my opinion, no one else on the face of the planet who can make you feel ok until you are ready to do so. At least not for more than mere moments.

Have you been to munches and met people real-time? How long have you been interested in bdsm? What have you done to learn about different ways domination and submission can come together? Have you read? If so, what?

When you got upset and posted the generalization that bdsm is sick, was that the first experience you've had online in a BDSM capacity?

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RE: I want to find a good and gentle Master - 4/26/2004 6:42:23 PM

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SamanthaLynne, your post states that if you found X you would not feel so bad about being dominated.

There is a line from the movie Buckaroo Banzai which states no matter where you go,
there you are. Im not sure you will find the answer to why you feel bad about being dominated outside of yourself, and I suggest you seek to find the answer inside. A corrolary to that is if you keep ending up with the same sorts of people, it probably is not the rest of the marching band that is out of step...

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